Is Pallavi really that wrong?

Off-late all I can read in the forum is how Pallavi is taking Raghav for granted, how she does not value him or their marriage, how she is indifferent to his pain, how she is a trash/dumb/pathetic character, how she still left him even after knowing about his past and so on..

Yes, Pallavi is being taken on a ride and she should wake up and smell the coffee that Mandar is a psycho and VD is just emotionally blackmailing her.

Yes, she knows about Raghav's past and his fear of abandonment and she should be understanding when she chose to go the Ds BUT shouldn't Raghav be understanding too.

He knows about Pallavi's past and her over-attachment to the Ds. He knows how much she values them and still consider them as her mayka. She feels a sense of duty towards them like she needs to repay for all the love they gave her(a widowed DIL) and also he knows that Pallavi is at the Deshmukhs not for her ex-husband Mandar but for her Aai-Baba's son Mandar and there is a difference in that.

Raghav knows Mandar is a creep, he knows VD is a just selfish but rather than helping her see the truth, he is guilt tripping her.

If Pallavi is not doing her patni ka farz then I'm sorry even Raghav is not doing his pati ka farz. Rather than trusting her, helping her to get out of this emotional blackmail, he is adding misery to her already clouded mind

Also I want to ask everyone since when does trusting your partner has become taking him for granted?

Pallavi trusts Raghav, she trust that he knows that right now she is in a precarious situation and at the end of the she is PRR only but I don't think so Raghav trusts Pallavi and Mandar has picked that up very well and that's why he is able to make him insecure.

Raghav is far more shrewd than that Mandar and can easily play mind games with him but instead of doing that he is doubting Pallavi and letting Mandar win.

Im sorry if my views are against everyone but all I wanted to convey is that Pallavi is wrong but even Raghav is wrong too

If pallavi indeed trust raghav why not believe him on the 7 day challenge . Even today he told her he saw mandaar at the event . She didn't believe him.

Also raghav doubting pallavi ? When did that happen

He has been more than tolerant of her helping the D's . Just because she considers it as her maayka and M as aayi baba's son it doesn't change the fact that he was her ex.

He put the tracker not because he doubted pallavi but because he wanted to keep her safe from that creepy M which is still wrong but he didn't doubt her even for a second .

Also those flashbacks he keeps having of P in M's lap and P holding his hand and asking him to stay. Put yourself in his shoes and decide for youself won't you feel the hurt he is feeling and still he hasn't accused pallavi at all because he trust her.

But has pallavi given him enough assurance so that he can keep that trust intact . She promised so much and has gone back on literally every promise of hers.

You are right in a way you know. The forum is bashing Pallavi too much.

The analogy which can be used I believe is like having marie biscuit as a desert when you are used to chocolate tarts. 🤭🤭🤭

Point is we have always seen Pallu like a tigress. Protecting her own and not afraid of throwing her claws to maw at whom she believes is hurting them. And from that to see her turn into this submissive slightly dumbed down version of herself is irritating us. Pallavi used to be sharp like a shark before but now she has been turned into a clueless woman almost blind in front of the truth.

Her intentions are pure as usual. Her love is something I will never question. But her characterisation has been completely ruined. The Pallavi from before would have kicked down that damn door and no one could have stopped her. But now she begs from a man whom she knows very well is a self centered brute.

Hence the discontent.

As for Raghav. I completely agree that he should be working to defeat Mandaar in his usual cool way but the fact here stands however much he is more proficient at playing mind games it had always been from a business point of view. Never so personal, emotional or close to home.

Raghav's problem lies in the fact that he isn't so secure of the affection he receives. His traumatic childhood added with his former piercing loneliness perhaps makes him more clingy to the little bit love he receives more than that could be called normal.

He is unable to face even the remotest possibility that Pallavi might be taken from him. Maybe that is why he overreacts a wee bit more than he should. Its a mental and emotional mess of a situation to be in. These feelings might be new for him. Any other man might have felt more jelousy than insecurity in this situation.

I cannot condone that drunken act he did in front of D house however much heart breaking that was and Ketan outdid himself. That man is going on like he has declared a war on his liver.

Other than that like I always say, horrible writing and utter destruction of their initial characterization.

Trusting someone and taking for granted are two different things.

Raghav is not questioning her character but instead questioning her priorities.

Pallavi promised that no one will come between them but she broke that promise repeatedly.

Pallavi is the one who is not understanding Raghav’s pain and thus, is taking him for granted.

She didnt speak to Raghav before promising Vijay to stay at the house. She didn’t even ask if Raghav was okay with it afterwards. She believes Mandar more than Raghav, Aai and amma.

Pallavi needs a real prolonged redemption track because she broke everyone’s trust.

Originally posted by: LondonFan

Trusting someone and taking for granted are two different things.

Raghav is not questioning her character but instead questioning her priorities.

Pallavi promised that no one will come between them but she broke that promise repeatedly.

Pallavi is the one who is not understanding Raghav’s pain and thus, is taking him for granted.

She didnt speak to Raghav before promising Vijay to stay at the house. She didn’t even ask if Raghav was okay with it afterwards. She believes Mandar more than Raghav, Aai and amma.

Pallavi needs a real prolonged redemption track because she broke everyone’s trust.

Exactly . It's all about misplaced priorities , being insensitive and taken for granted attitude.

Like girl has no guilt , no self realization that she is hurting him so bad . She is acting as if everthing is unintentional when it is not.

Not questioning her love because i know she does love him but love cannot alone sustain a relationship

While I also think that she is unnecessarily bound to the D's I agree with the fact that he has to be mature too, handle things more maturely.

Originally posted by: Phoenix_Fire123

If pallavi indeed trust raghav why not believe him on the 7 day challenge . Even today he told her he saw mandaar at the event . She didn't believe him.

Also raghav doubting pallavi ? When did that happen

He has been more than tolerant of her helping the D's . Just because she considers it as her maayka and M as aayi baba's son it doesn't change the fact that he was her ex.

He put the tracker not because he doubted pallavi but because he wanted to keep her safe from that creepy M which is still wrong but he didn't doubt her even for a second .

Also those flashbacks he keeps having of P in M's lap and P holding his hand and asking him to stay. Put yourself in his shoes and decide for youself won't you feel the hurt he is feeling and still he hasn't accused pallavi at all because he trust her.

But has pallavi given him enough assurance so that he can keep that trust intact . She promised so much and has gone back on literally every promise of hers.

Raghav told about the challenge after the tracker was found when both of their temperaments were high.

Secondly, if Pallavi would not have believed Raghav, she wouldn't have double-checked and even after Milind said that Raghav must be imagined, she wouldn't have been still in doubt.

Regarding tracker, we know Mandar is a creep, Raghav knows Mandar is a creep but till that point Pallavi has no reason to doubt Mandar or understand the reason behind that tracker

And I'm talking about doubting her after the kheer kand

Originally posted by: LondonFan

Trusting someone and taking for granted are two different things.

Raghav is not questioning her character but instead questioning her priorities.

Pallavi promised that no one will come between them but she broke that promise repeatedly.

Pallavi is the one who is not understanding Raghav’s pain and thus, is taking him for granted.

She didnt speak to Raghav before promising Vijay to stay at the house. She didn’t even ask if Raghav was okay with it afterwards. She believes Mandar more than Raghav, Aai and amma.

Pallavi needs a real prolonged redemption track because she broke everyone’s trust.

No, what Pallavi need is guidance and love. She is being gaslighted in the name of her mayka and she can't see it. In a relationship if one is being dumb the other has to be intelligent for both of them. Like I said, Raghav has to be smart here and play much better mind games

As someone already pointed out that it is about setting priorities... Keeping aside d fam, r fam etc., Who in the sane mind would like to baby sit some random person?? It's agreeable hadn't they confessed their feelings to each other that too after Mandar return.. every thing has a limit even if it is "good thing" or "responsibility"... Why Pallavi is not asking D Fam as why she have to baby sit him?? When she right fully asked why he was protecting keerthi? For that matter i wouldn't have liked if she baby sits Raghav too for any other issue... Also someone pointed that she has to trust Raghav because he has past issues...i don't agree with that too.. Like why she has to carry the baggage of past issues of some other person?? She should just think about her present and who she loves... That's all.. again we cannot defend the character saying she was like that right from the start... Then what about character growth?? Where did that go?? The writers messed up big time by never utilizing her biological brother and getting them for couple of episode... Had she been orphan, we can get the reason for her attachment but she isn't an orphan and very well here also cannot compare Raghav love to his family to her love with D fam which is 27y vs 2y ... This bull dog was running ambulance and saw worst to worst accident cases and deaths and how the hell is his mental health not in place??? Simple thing is she says bechara to Mandaar because he burnt his hand but no concern for Raghav who inspite of many insults shows at D house for her sake???

Ps.. i am no fangirl of a toxic ml or stockholm syndrome but logically thinking...

Pallavi has always been portrayed as someone who is strong, independent and has learned the real world because of being an orphan and widow.

Pallavi herself talked about how selfish and cruel people have been towards her because she was a widow.

Pallavi has always been able to differentiate between good and bad in the past.

She is not a child and is a 24 year old woman with life experience.

It’s not Raghav’s responsibility to guide her constantly.