It’s moving forward, cringy yes but some development - Page 7

Originally posted by: fria319

@ pink: She puts Raghav down too much in front of others - something he doesn't do with her. That needs to stop. Married people fights should be between the couple, behind closed doors - no one needs to see it. Especially people who hate your relationship (Sanki, Mandar, Keerti etc). She wasn't wrong for yelling at Raghav - she was wrong for doing it in front of people who want to see them fail.

@bold: yup. I defended her as well because I get being pulled to wanting to help your maayka - who gives up on family just like that? No one. And of all people, Pallavi would never. I came around to her need to help D fam thru this, I understand where her sense of obligation to them comes from.

It really just got to be too much when they show her constantly sideline Raghav & his needs, haq, and farz in order to help her maayka. Yes sometimes we have to prioritize one person over another, even over our spouses. It happens esp when there's an ER in the family. But, she's being shown to do this time and time and time again. So much so that she willingly has now moved back into her maayka to take care of her ex.

It's also the issue of her speaking of farz and kartavya, yet not realizing her relationship with Raghav also has farz and kartavya intertwined into it.

I'm a Pallavi supporter and Raghav supporter so I'm always going to root for them to get back on track. I get mistakes happen, they're going to show one messing up and then the other, etc etc. That's what I signed up for, but it's her lack of acknowledgement of how wrong she is that has been irking me on /off through out this whole track. The fact that she had the audacity to tell him he should have picked her up (asking him to stay - ok i'll give her that one - that's ok) and take her home is what really just made me be like WOW. I feel like often, unintentionally, Pallavi puts Raghav into a corner. He is the one that has to sacrifice things to appease her needs. If she wanted to go to RR mansion, she should leave herself, her husband never kicked her out of her home - she walked out. Even in that moment, I'd be like - that's fine - you're upset, go spend time at your maayka. It's the fact that she has promised to stay without consulting her husband - and then asks her husband why didnt you come get me that just. I have no words. They're butchering her character to fit the story line. I don't believe for one second that the original characterization of Pallavi would ever react this way. She was able to stand up to Sanki bc he was wrong in asking Raghav to wash his feet - yet she doesn't think its wrong for Sanki to ask her to stay and neglect her husband to take care of her ex husband? Where are her morals now? It's not wrong that Sanki keeps referring him to her bahu in front of her current husband?

*I want to be clear I don't mean she lacks morals, but where is that moral compass now that would've told her what he's saying is wrong.

Raghav has always told her off about tamasha in public and even at home her tendency to air dirty laundry in front of everyone hasn't gone. She knows how Sanki had tried to make Raghav bend a few times, but still let him see the tiffs. Well, this is what Raghav was worried about, that the people who hadn't accepted their marriage would create problems and that's exactly what is happening. Sanki is now even more adamant that Pallavi is better off being a Deshmukh bahu as Raghav would never be a good husband to her. I am still livid remembering his claim that Pallavi was his bahu and shouldn't be with Raghav. What gave him that right?!! What emboldened him is seeing the public spat between Raghav and Pallavi. Even when everyone was against Raghav at the party, Raghav never once let them see his issues with Pallavi, rather his focus was on talking to her directly.

Raghav never brought up her farz in their relationship because he wants her to be with him out of love and not obligation, but every relationship has responsibilities alongside rights. I see Pallavi talking about rights and responsibilities but it feels very one-sided. I don't think it's entirely out of character for her, though. Since the beginning she's been willing to overlook the bad things the Ds have done but was always ready to fire at Raghav. She never did that when it came to her own situation and it's the same thing all over again. I remember his words during the abortion reveal when he called her out for not standing up for herself and her own self-respect.

@bold, yes the audacity! Perfect word to describe it! I think she's almost become arrogant with the Pallavi Raghav Rao title to the point where she seems to conveniently forget how she was the one who walked out despite knowing Raghav didn't want that, she was the one who made the promise, and she was the one who expected him to be understanding throughout all of this. The nerve of her. Raghav shouldn't be at her beck and call, and she needs to get off her high horse to realize that she's not always right and Raghav isn't always wrong. I just want him to stop bending over backwards each time and let her pull her weight, otherwise it seems very much one-sided in terms of care and concern for the short and long-term state of their relationship. I have been trying so hard to be sympathetic to her dilemma but she who claims to understand relationships is sabotaging them herself. What to do?