Level of strictness - Page 3

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

I am not a fan of capital punishment, so I didn't quite like what Leela said about it. If your kid is beyond control to the point that only a slap can stop him/her, it means you didn't teach him/her well and the slap is some last minute patchwork. Eventually the kid may get used to the beating and still keep doing the same thing.

But when it comes to drawing boundaries, what Hasmukh did was exactly the kind of line that needed to be drawn. Disrespecting a parent, is something that should have been objected to by Anupamaa, but all we see her do is weep at her fate.

Now that I read this article it displeases me a lot. Hasmukh punished Pakhi to teach her a lesson. She was not alienated because the family members were busy or something, she was alienated because she didn't deserve help or encouragement from them. By helping her, inspite of being told to stay away from her by Hasmukh and even Pakhi herself, Anupamaa is defying Hasmukh's orders and I hope he calls her out for it, instead of going back to appreciating how mahaan she is.

https://www.indiaforums.com/article/anupamaa-anupamaa-turns-saviour-for-pakhi_178514

Bold line: Definitely can happen. That's why I said, it might not be applicable to all.. Every child has a different story. But a girl like Pakhi should be given the worst lesson

Anupama is trying to Mahaan I dont know, but she is a mother after all. She will save Pakhi.

Originally posted by: janecastle

I am glad Baa and Bapuji showed mirror to Vanraj today, even Anupama. Both Anuraj are absolute failures as parents. Look at how Toshu and Pakhi turned out. I won't say you should resort to physical violence with kids. But that is the only way left with Pakhi. They tried everything else, talk to her with love, with strictness, with anger, try to make her understand. But nothing worked. So what exactly are parents supposed to do? Problem is Pakhi is shameless. So no amount of advice or talking will work with her. You can only make people understand if they are willing to understand.

Anyways, I am glad Bapuji send only the three of them for function and stopped everyone else. Pakhi doesn't deserve her family coming to her support after the horrible way she behaved with everyone. And who the hell is she to stop Anupama and this woman stood there crying. Anupama should have said "I will attend the function no matter what. If you don't want to dance, that is your problem".

@janecastle your answer was just amazing ❤️

Originally posted by: Krishnapanchali

i dont get how can any child misbehave with their parent like this this over toxicity happens only in itv

I have seen a Pakhi in my real life too 😔😒

Disheartening

I feel for that loving parents

Originally posted by: aastha12345

Agree pakhi is shameless, but still physical punishment is not the way to discipline a child 16-17 year old, vanraj is hopeless,and anu is all weeping and nothing else, if she deals strictly with pakhi instead of weeping pakhi will definitely realize her value, stop doing her work, stop talking to her let her work on her own, let her realize life without a mum. Hasmukh did the right thing, it was the kind of punishment she needed and anu should resort to similar methods is what I feel about this

Some type of fear is necessary...So that a child does becomes a brat

Originally posted by: aastha12345

Lol, exactly, no parent is gonna weep if their child does something like this and not at all indian parents

My mother will be on super angry mode 😡

Originally posted by: musicalstorm

Exactly Aastha...

PEople here are disagreeing on being strict to kids...But Bacho ko thoda doze do to bacho ko thoda dar rehta hai...

Bahut saara pyaar de dete hai, then they become spoilt brats and then strictness ki level badh jaati hai...Which is more harsh to them, to phir unhe yeh lagta hai ki, mere mummy zarurat se zyada strict hai

Now if Anupama will get a little bit strict, then also Pakhi will not improve 👎🏼 She is willing herself to get malfunctioned, no wonder if she disowns Anupama as a mother

Of course, these are basic rules to parenting, yes pakhi is a 16-17 year old, and normal kids mostly understand things till this age, and parents then try to be friendly with them, and mark it, I said normal , the things pakhi is doing at her age will become her behaviour as an adult if not guided. She can still be corrected, though its very difficult to correct her now, and anu is doing Nothing at all,let her see that life is not all sunshine and flowers instead of helping her each and every time, let her know she has done a mistake, and don't forgive her until she realizes and apologizes properly

Anupamaa will of course go & save the day as Pakhi will screw something up

Mahaan superhero Anupamaa strikes again!

Originally posted by: musicalstorm

A punishment is must, for any bad behaviour...

If I misbehaved then my mother will literally punished me...

Vanraj and Anupama have never punished her...And that's disappointment

Hitting was not a option since dadu opinion is that it is not right and it just makes teens more stubborn. He feels teens can be talked to and counselled . He was quite easy to talk to and we could appeal and explain our behaviour. For us kids taking away our privalages is much more shameful since other kids around us can enjoy. It's a joint fam . Every one will know u are punished 🧐

Originally posted by: AnjuRish

Hitting was not a option since dadu opinion is that it is not right and it just makes teens more stubborn. He feels teens can be talked to and counselled . He was quite easy to talk to and we could appeal and explain our behaviour. For us kids taking away our privalages is much more shameful since other kids around us can enjoy. It's a joint fam . Every one will know u are punished 🧐

Yes it's more ideal to give a less violent but more firm punishment, like grounding the child/teen to his/her room or taking away phone or internet or TV privileges till the kid apologizes.

It was downright hypocritical of Vanraj to chide Anupamaa when she was scolding Pakhi for food wastage, but all the same, he scolded Pakhi when she misbehaved with HasLee. Ofcourse Pakhi will not respect Anupamaa, when she sees someone is available to defend her against Anupamaa.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

Yes it's more ideal to give a less violent but more firm punishment, like grounding the child/teen to his/her room or taking away phone or internet or TV privileges till the kid apologizes.

It was downright hypocritical of Vanraj to chide Anupamaa when she was scolding Pakhi for food wastage, but all the same, he scolded Pakhi when she misbehaved with HasLee. Ofcourse Pakhi will not respect Anupamaa, when she sees someone is available to defend her against Anupamaa.

Totally agreed. And then these were the kids who were crying and requesting Anupama to not leave after divorce. Why.? To have their work done because "bestie" to cold coffee nahi banake degi na.

What I wonder about is Pakhi literally hates Anupama. Which daughter hates her own mother.? Narazgi gussa disagreement disappointment, I can understand and accept. But hate.? Like seriously.? This is going too much. Plus, Anupama is not doing anything and taking any actions for that. She will loose pakhi this way. She has to be strict and save her relationship with her daughter, no.?