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Posted: 4 years ago
#11

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

@ Bold Virat has already requested her to stay back. He has apologized multiple times.


I won't say that he deserves it. When someone apologizes for their mistakes, the choice is to either forgive them or not but being vengeful is not something I like. On the other hand, Virat has been magnanimous enough to forgive her small and big mistakes so another reason why I feel he doesn't deserve this

Didn’t he promise her and say sry to her before but failed to keep that..so how can she blv him if he normally say all those promises and sorry's again after all misbehavior he did infront of her friend.. He needed to break down to show his state how vulnerable he would be this time to make her blv in his words..i guess sai wanted to see this..aise to sry ghar se nikal ne ke baad bhi bola tha usne but sai needed strong assurance by observing how his condition would be if she leave him..

I don’t mind to get little vengeful though when It's not fatal damageable.. I myself sometimes likes to make regret the person who wronged me..but doesn’t mean i don’t forgive and try to revenge by doing harm to them..its just little mental punishment for them for their mistakes and i feel It's not sin so may b we won't agree on this as u say u don't like vengeance.. For virats forgiving her sai's mistakes actually its up to every person how and when he or she will forgive..even sai fogave him and come back home for him..she forgave him for not giving her the right of wife and for keep unhealthy friendship with his ex but this time she wants to see his extent of guilty before forgive him i don’t see SOMETHING big issue in this..

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Posted: 4 years ago
#12

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

As I mentioned in my initial post, it's up to Sai to stay with Virat or forgive him. My point was whatever she has decided he deserves to know rather than sayingg she is going to go away but having a different plan.


I don't know if faking anger is common or not but I think k she has taken this too far this time which will lead to his breakdown and him having suicidal thoughts. When someone is emotionally down, pushing them further will only aggregate the situation.

I don't think Sai could help it. When she said that she wanted to leave CN then she actually meant it, but now that it is the actual time of leaving she is realizing all the other things that comes with it. I think what needs to be understood is that Sai didn't do anything which was intentional. She herself doesn't think that her words of leaving were not completely true. Now, that she was with the Chavans she just doesn't want to leave them. She underestimated her relationship and her bonding with both Virat and the rest of the family.

As for Virat's breakdown, it was both sad and all that more needed. Not for Sai and not for their relationship, but for Virat himself. He already had suicidal thoughts in the hospital but he didn't let himself finish in front of Sai. It's just that Sai's packing and all just pushed him off the edge and he had a breakdown. He was already hurt, he was already in pain, but he wasn't letting himself feel it. Inthink it was good that his suicidal thoughts came out. As for him being suicidal, it was more becuase of his loathing towards himself and his actions that caused it. And it was because of several actions. This is not the first time he crossed line, just the first time it actually caused Sai’s life to be in danger, something which he never thought he would be the reason for. The hand holding part, the ousting part , and now this. All added to his self-hatred and lead to this. It isn't Sai’s leaving that caused it that just triggered his much needed breakdown in front of Sai.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: Sudharies

No Sai is just too hurt and confused since there are contradicting emotions building up in her. I felt since the hospital scenes, she wants to believe that Virat does have feelings for her and that's why he couldn't see her with Ajinkya, but at the same time his behaviour and actions with her and that kid has hurt her immensely. She also feels obliged to honour her words to Pulkit who offered her a home with concern and it looks like she keeps pushing her decision coz of these battle between heart ans brain. She's not there to give false hopes to Virat, but wanted to get it clear with Virat once and for all, imo.

In the hospital, Virat asked her if they can make their marriage a real one instead of a deal. He admitted to being jealous as well so not sure why she is unsure about his feelings for her. I believe these confessions are what helped her make a decision.


@ Bold She had a chance to talk to Virat in the hospital but she choose to do it at home makes me feel she was sure Pulkit would be unhappy if she spoke with Virat so to please him she chooses this

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: ShipIsSailing

I don't think Sai could help it. When she said that she wanted to leave CN then she actually meant it, but now that it is the actual time of leaving she is realizing all the other things that comes with it. I think what needs to be understood is that Sai didn't do anything which was intentional. She herself doesn't think that her words of leaving were not completely true. Now, that she was with the Chavans she just doesn't want to leave them. She underestimated her relationship and her bonding with both Virat and the rest of the family.

As for Virat's breakdown, it was both sad and all that more needed. Not for Sai and not for their relationship, but for Virat himself. He already had suicidal thoughts in the hospital but he didn't let himself finish in front of Sai. It's just that Sai's packing and all just pushed him off the edge and he had a breakdown. He was already hurt, he was already in pain, but he wasn't letting himself feel it. Inthink it was good that his suicidal thoughts came out. As for him being suicidal, it was more becuase of his loathing towards himself and his actions that caused it. And it was because of several actions. This is not the first time he crossed line, just the first time it actually caused Sai’s life to be in danger, something which he never thought he would be the reason for. The hand holding part, the ousting part , and now this. All added to his self-hatred and lead to this. It isn't Sai’s leaving that caused it that just triggered his much needed breakdown in front of Sai.

I think it's too early to say if suicidal thoughts coming out in open was good for him or not. Just saying it loud won't help him unless he gets some help or assurance from Sai on this matter. The guilt was the main reason that pushed him to this stage and the fact that there was no one to share his feelings with and lack of emotional support from his family made it worse. Everyone was busy either taunting him or making him even more guilty. We can say he deserves it but I don't believe a man having realized his mistakes need to go through this. The last straw was Sai putting him through this guessing game of will she or won't she.


May tomorrow's episode will give us an insight into Sai’s intention. If we go by the Tamil version, she never planned to leave and stays back only for him not for his family.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: sadiltl

I can say one thing which I noticed from beginning…


Sai’s love for virat can be measured by how granted she takes him for! For her, he is at her aabas place. The more she comes close to him, the more she behaves whatever she feels like. There is no hiding, no hesitancy and no fear of being judged. Hence it appears as she is hurting him or being rude. But actually she is too comfortable with him…is it right or wrong depends on how virat takes it. Except for this incident , which is due to more of his own insecurities that he took her comments too seriously, I don’t think virat ever considered her action towards him as rude or misleading. He reads people too well so he knows sai has genuine care and concern for him. His only worry is that whether she will love him like a woman /wife (going forward).


Virats love is clearly seen by everyone, except by sai who is blinded by his vaada. The problem with virat is just what he said in the precap, he bottles up too much and ends up hurting her badly. With the burden of his own guilt, he feels unworthy of her love., and doesn’t express the way she wants. This guilt is the reason that he thinks he has no right to stop her or expect love from her, which actually gives sai the wrong signals


sorry I diverged a bit but just wanted to clear my thoughts so have written. I hope I made sense. Jelebi couple are hard to understand



I loved reading your take. It makes sense as to why she behaves a certain way with Virat but she was like that even in Gc before her Aaba’s death. She had taken him for granted even before their marriage as she knew he was someone who would understand and could be trusted. I don't know how fair it is to Virat and how far he will be able to read her care and concern . With the changed feelings, there are new expectations so it's time she shows the care and concern openly if she has it else it will lead to more insecurities. His insecurities in Ajinkya case was mainly due to her indifferent behavior. Earlier Virat would have thought rationally but the current Virat cannot die to his changed feelings
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Posted: 4 years ago
#16

Originally posted by: 404_NotFound

In the hospital, Virat asked her if they can make their marriage a real one instead of a deal. He admitted to being jealous as well so not sure why she is unsure about his feelings for her. I believe these confessions are what helped her make a decision.


@ Bold She had a chance to talk to Virat in the hospital but she choose to do it at home makes me feel she was sure Pulkit would be unhappy if she spoke with Virat so to please him she chooses this


Sai has been a person of blatant words, so when he said I can never become a real husband to you since I've given word to another girl, she accepted it half heartedly. And now when he says can't we become real couple, she's failing to see the entire picture, as she's again expecting blatant words from him. Sai expects him to say something along the lines of "I love you, I don't have feelings for Pakhi anymore, she means nothing to me and that's why I want you to stay, want this marriage to work. But Virat isn't giving her that kinda affirmation, due to his guilt and fears, that he's lost the opportunity to express his feelings at the right time.


Yeah they did talk in the hospital. But still many things were left unsaid, like what next, now that he's expressed he wanted to get real with her. Sometimes open acknowledgement of love can break the misunderstanding barriers, couples have between them, as there are lot of doubts and hesitation in both their minds. Anyways this is how I saw the character's behaviour. But I do understand it may differ from person to person.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Originally posted by: sadiltl

I can say one thing which I noticed from beginning…


Sai’s love for virat can be measured by how granted she takes him for! For her, he is at her aabas place. The more she comes close to him, the more she behaves whatever she feels like. There is no hiding, no hesitancy and no fear of being judged. Hence it appears as she is hurting him or being rude. But actually she is too comfortable with him…is it right or wrong depends on how virat takes it. Except for this incident , which is due to more of his own insecurities that he took her comments too seriously, I don’t think virat ever considered her action towards him as rude or misleading. He reads people too well so he knows sai has genuine care and concern for him. His only worry is that whether she will love him like a woman /wife (going forward).


Virats love is clearly seen by everyone, except by sai who is blinded by his vaada. The problem with virat is just what he said in the precap, he bottles up too much and ends up hurting her badly. With the burden of his own guilt, he feels unworthy of her love., and doesn’t express the way she wants. This guilt is the reason that he thinks he has no right to stop her or expect love from her, which actually gives sai the wrong signals


sorry I diverged a bit but just wanted to clear my thoughts so have written. I hope I made sense. Jelebi couple are hard to understand




This is so beautifully written ❤️

Just one thing I disagree with is that I don't believe that Sai takes Virat for granted in any way. Yes, she feels entirely comfortable with him and trusts him with her whole heart. To me, this was the case from the very first day they met in GC. She always was connected to him in a way that allowed her to say whatever she wanted to say with no filter. In fact, this is just a part of her personality in general, but it is heightened with Virat because as you have said, he is now the most important person in her life after abba's passing. But, all of these things, in my opinion, don't amount to her taking Virat for granted. She knows the value he holds in her life, and I believe that she has expressed it multiple times (in both her actions and her words) whether or not it be explicitly in the way he wants to hear it at this moment....

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Posted: 4 years ago
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I think Sai is testing waters here. By that I mean, she wants to know how much and to what length Virat wud go to have her stay in CN. Will he beg, will he go down to his knees, will he cry, will he promise somethings and/or finally would he confess his feelings. I am sure she has an inkling that Virat really loves her - he in fact has already told her that he wants to be a husband in the real sense to her. So I guess she's testing waters. Nothing wrong also. Bcoz she needs to clarify her doubts. Its high time they either progress in their relationship or part ways.

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Posted: 4 years ago
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I liked the idea of tadpaoing him. She is hurt and when we are hurt we actually tend to hurt the person in return. This will also make him realize that he can't make mistakes and expect her to forgive easily. Also if there is no tadap in love then is it love ? 😆

But what I didn't like was how she said in front of everyone that he is eager to send her away. Making it sound like he is the one to be blamed is not nice. The poor man has received enough shit from everyone. 😳

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Posted: 4 years ago
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Hey I do believe she openly shows concern for him! We know how she cured him back to health last time. I was talking about her way of talking to virat and expressing her feelings. If she has confusion she shows her confusion. If she is upset over pakhi she shows it directly and if she thinks he is wrong, she puts him down openly! Only love (in the way he wants) she holds back due to the known reasons. At times her dealings with virat appear as though taken for granted but if virat is ok with it, then it I should be totally ok.

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