Originally posted by: Wanderlust05
I may be the last person to give you advice, but I feel marriage isn't like dating someone- where you can break up easily and involves the two of you only. Marriage is a lifelong commitment, a bond between two families and as conservative as I may sound- a sacred relationship. One should get married only when they're ready in all aspects- emotionally especially. And if you want to be financially independent too, there's no problem; cuz women are to be given the right to be independent and not look up to their husbands for monetary help.
I know of a girl who got married at a very young age- she was about 19-20 years old- she wasn't forced or anything tho but she got married (and at that time, she admits, she wasn't ready herself)- anyways 4-5 years later, they got divorced and their families are now at loggerheads with each other (who were, once upon a time very close friends).
Anyhoo, I feel you should take a polite yet firm stand for yourself. You know, tell her you aren't ready as of now and will get married at your convenience. Be polite, don't argue or raise your voice, because then bawaal mach jaana hai (Indian adults), but have that firmness in your voice.
And, if you want to, can go ahead with just seeing prospective grooms- get to know them, listen and talk to them. And if you do, I feel you should come clear with him and his family on your desire to work and be independent. Again, this is coming from someone who's way too small, but I hope it helps ❤️
No aafreen thank you for your advice...im glad to know this place has people who understands me.sometimes its good to talk to people who arent around you....i just needed to ckear my head and get rid of the emotional baggage that is going on for so long.emotionally drained with constant nagging and interference...thank you to all who made me feel better,i feel a bit lighter now😍🙏
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