Originally posted by: Loony_lovegood
See, nobody is vouching for Adi having married Malini. He should have annulled his marriage with Imlie or come clean with Malini before doing so. (He did try, Malini fell unconscious, and she didnt probe out of her insecurities.. but thats another thing.)
The whole point is that when he realised he had never loved Malini and fell in love with his actual wife, he exposed the truth to Malini and apologised to her, expecting her to understand that they will never work out.
So what do you do learning that your marriage had been dysfunctional all this time, when your husband broke the truth about having married another girl before you? Either you walk out of their lives completely, (because people stay in marriages when they know that their love is reciprocated by their partners) or you go to court for the injustice you have faced.
But what did Malini do? She kept lying about having another affair in her life just because she cant take the rejection, kept on belittling Imlie whenever she got the chance while masquerading as her elder sister, swearing to follow her mother's path to torture Imlie just because she thought Imlie and Aditya were in love, and hard core manipulation. All out of an attempt to "earn back" Aditya's love when he clearly stated that its not possible many times!
Playing the victim card and getting away with the mean things you say and do is how villains are born. See, its your approach to life and people around you that dictates what a person you truly are. Its not the extend of suffering you had gone through. Period!
Agree on everything you just said, but especially on the bold. If Malini had walked out of Aditya's life saying I need time to come to terms with everything, and not barge back in everytime he calls, I could have had atleast a smidgeon of sympathy for her. If she had filed a case against Aditya, I would have had some respect for her character, that she is willing to do something about the apparent "injustice" that was meted out to her. Hell if she had confronted Imlie then and berated her for having hid the truth from her, I could have still accepted that.
My issue is not even the lying so much as playing the victim card, behaving like you were wronged, yet refusing to take any action to resolve the situation. She expects others to solve her problems and gets mad when they do it, but it is not what she wanted them to do. She wants to show to Adi & Imlie that she has moved on so they should do so as well, yet gets mad when Adi actually does show he has moved on. She wants to make a big deal about accepting Imlie as her younger sister and give her the Chaturvedi name, but backed out the minute it looked liked things could get complicated in her family if she did that. Malini always wants to show that she is the only person wronged in this world because she grew up in a dysfunctional family. There also she wants to show that she is not classist and respects other's feelings despite her mom's behavior, when her anger and language is the same as her mom. She specifically targeted Imlie multiple times just to get a reaction out of Aditya, even in recent times after she knew the whole truth.
If you want to be manipulative or lash out because you are hurt, do it. Own your faults and show the world that your actions are because of the cards you were dealt with. That is still acceptable. People do turn bad because of circumstances and that is still easier to digest. But putting on a veneer of sympathy and niceness, while internally you are resenting the very people for their happiness that you claim to love, just makes you shrewd, manipulative and a two faced person, who is very hard to root for.
Anupamaa
