Roothe huye Babusahib - Page 16

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Word to the bold especially. It frustrates me too that they fixate more on their guilt about Malini than managing their own relationship, but yes it makes me respect their large heartedness on a level ki genuinely apne se upar kisi ke liye itna soch sakte hain. Unlike Didi who just does upar se bakwaas and jal bhun jaati hai on actually seeing Adi-Imlie happy together.


Sabka dil Imlie jitna bada nahin hota jo AM ki fights bhi khud hi patch up karne mein lagi rehti thi coz she genuinely cared about Malini ki happiness.

The other thing is that people try to make it sound like Adi supposedly led Malini on for 7 years with promises of love so now he is liable for any unhappiness she feels over him not being with her🙄….again, this need to lay all onus on Adi like he didn’t continue to make an attempt to tell the truth to Malini at many points as he could and even after he realized his true emotions. Matlab itna bada aspect of this story is conveniently zoned out to victimize Malini and paint Adi as her permanent culprit for not understanding what they had was not love and for now not really understanding her twisted lies and games in their BFF mode either. Bhai yeh saara expectation Adi se hi kyun hai? Just cuz Malini is completely empty headed, Adi is liable for all her unhappiness?

Jhoot Malini bole to fake her emotions DELIBERATELY for another guy and phir bhi galti Adi ki hai for wanting it to be true so that he can be happy with Imlie? 🤷‍♀️😂

Adi ka Moon jaap was not done deliberately or consciously unlike Malini’s current lies. It was all subconscious because he was not in touch with his core truth and emotions. Like I said, INTENT matters in how people end up making mistakes in this story. All of Malini’s lies are DELIBERATE to save her own behind. While in Adilie ka case, most of the lies were told either cuz of subconscious confusions or to spare others from hurt. There again they were able to look beyond themselves but Didi tells major lies to prop up herself or put down others and still claims to be the only victim.

Sorry I can’t hold Adi liable for lies started by Malini 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

Yeh 7 years ka relationship ne kisi ka beda gargh kiya ho na ho, Adi ka zaroor kiya hai. Matlab had hoti hai, people are saying as if log 10-12 saal ke shaadi ke baad kisi aur se pyaar nahi karte. That is why we have divorce in the country. Which is what Adi is giving Malini to save her reputation, because he does not need it.

Adi's Moon jaap was out of guilt and his forceful need to maintain a relationship he had chosen over one that was chosen for him. The minute he realised that he loves Imlie, woh bhi band ho gaya. He never led her on after that, and kept distancing himself from her, which shows me that cheating is not in his character. He has always been loyal to the person he for whom he had feelings, be it Malini or now Imlie.

Adi and Malini were in that relationship together and both were under the impression that they were compatible. The fact that it unravelled so quickly after marriage is neither's fault, as both made the mistake there. Adi's only additional mistake was getting into the marriage without resolving the situation with Imlie, but there also he felt that she would be in danger because of that, so he kept quiet. He didi not tell Malini because she could not take it and that also shows his consideration for her.

Malini has been doing whatever she can mainly to save face and show herself as the bigger person, though her actions point to otherwise. Her lies are to suit her purpose and her taunts show more jealousy than actual hurt. So yeah it is very difficult to have even a smidgeon of sympathy for Malini, despite what people say.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Word to the bold especially. It frustrates me too that they fixate more on their guilt about Malini than managing their own relationship, but yes it makes me respect their large heartedness on a level ki genuinely apne se upar kisi ke liye itna soch sakte hain. Unlike Didi who just does upar se bakwaas and jal bhun jaati hai on actually seeing Adi-Imlie happy together.


Sabka dil Imlie jitna bada nahin hota jo AM ki fights bhi khud hi patch up karne mein lagi rehti thi coz she genuinely cared about Malini ki happiness.

The other thing is that people try to make it sound like Adi supposedly led Malini on for 7 years with promises of love so now he is liable for any unhappiness she feels over him not being with her🙄….again, this need to lay all onus on Adi like he didn’t continue to make an attempt to tell the truth to Malini at many points as he could and even after he realized his true emotions. Matlab itna bada aspect of this story is conveniently zoned out to victimize Malini and paint Adi as her permanent culprit for not understanding what they had was not love and for now not really understanding her twisted lies and games in their BFF mode either. Bhai yeh saara expectation Adi se hi kyun hai? Just cuz Malini is completely empty headed, Adi is liable for all her unhappiness?

Jhoot Malini bole to fake her emotions DELIBERATELY for another guy and phir bhi galti Adi ki hai for wanting it to be true so that he can be happy with Imlie? 🤷‍♀️😂

Adi ka Moon jaap was not done deliberately or consciously unlike Malini’s current lies. It was all subconscious because he was not in touch with his core truth and emotions. Like I said, INTENT matters in how people end up making mistakes in this story. All of Malini’s lies are DELIBERATE to save her own behind. While in Adilie ka case, most of the lies were told either cuz of subconscious confusions or to spare others from hurt. There again they were able to look beyond themselves but Didi tells major lies to prop up herself or put down others and still claims to be the only victim.

Sorry I can’t hold Adi liable for lies started by Malini 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

And I would like to add they both keep accepting on regular basis that the lies they have said or are made to say even now or hiding them is not right they keep showing their guilty conscience they aren't happy saying them to anybody and do want to get out from the web it all matters unlike didi who goes 10 miles ahead each time for no bloody reason to circumstance forcing her too..she keeps bunooing even tighter jaal everyday just si she can ittra sako a bit more keeo her naak oonchi and quite literally it is worth noting the way she points her nose in the hawa and give the entitled loom Idk how to explain it but it is always the utha sar pointed nose the posture...she takes pride in her lies and doesn't even admit ke yeh galat hai and she should stop instead ab aone jhoot bhi adi imlie pe onus dump kar rahi hai ke they are complicating her life when they aren't the one who's have lied on her behalf khud bataya tha na ke.kc hai

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

And I would like to add they both keep accepting on regular basis that the lies they have said or are made to say even now or hiding them is not right they keep showing their guilty conscience they aren't happy saying them to anybody and do want to get out from the web it all matters unlike didi who goes 10 miles ahead each time for no bloody reason to circumstance forcing her too..she keeps bunooing even tighter jaal everyday just si she can ittra sako a bit more keeo her naak oonchi and quite literally it is worth noting the way she points her nose in the hawa and give the entitled loom Idk how to explain it but it is always the utha sar pointed nose the posture...she takes pride in her lies and doesn't even admit ke yeh galat hai and she should stop instead ab aone jhoot bhi adi imlie pe onus dump kar rahi hai ke they are complicating her life when they aren't the one who's have lied on her behalf khud bataya tha na ke.kc hai

Exactly. Even when Adilie lie, every lie weighs like a ton of bricks on them. While in Didi’s case, she lies as easily as breathing and forgets the next moment what giant lies she’s told 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️


Baaki I can understand that defensiveness is a human trait and no one wants to face the discomfort of being caught in a lie but Didi ka level of AGGRESSIVE defensiveness is just staggering 🙄🙄…..she not only gets defensive, she starts justifying her every lie as a noble act and starts labeling everyone else as liars and culprits. That is where she gets beyond ridiculous 🙄….as you said, she acts like she’s taking pride in her lies also. Wohi basic itna arrogance bhara hai ismein but she tries to act like an innocent lamb 🙄😂

Adi Imlie ne apne jhoot ka dosh dusro pe kabhi aise nahin laada jaise Didi free fund mein karti hai. They aren’t the ones who literally ran muh chhupa ke from facing Mithi 🤷‍♀️🤪

@AY @Naadan

I am not able to post longer posts right now so just wanted to let you know that I agree with all your points regarding Adi-Imlie taking responsibility for Didi's happiness. Why people expect that in the 1st place is actually a mystery to me?😆

I mean in real life as well people who have been in longer relationships, after having kids as well get divorced, fall out of love & fall in love with someone else. But I don't think one partner waits for another partner to again fall in love to move on in their life😆. Of course it differs case to case but in general both the partners do not depend on the others happiness quotient to move on in their life.

Now Imlie is a show & Adi-Imlie are such characters who actually feel that level of responsibility towards Didi. More so Imlie. Hence their need to see her settled in her life as well. Otherwise there is no onus on them to make sure that Didi is happy in her life as well. Yes she got dragged into marriage because of Adi but it was not as if he didn't try to reveal the truth to her or he didn't try his best to make their relationship work when he was committed to Didi. Nor has he strung her along once he realised that he loves Imlie. So this absurd expectation that Adi should look at the obvious hints of Didi not having moved on is weird to me. He is allowed to move on in his life even if Didi doesn't have a KC in her life. It is only because of Imlie's wish that they have not moved forward in their relationship.

Originally posted by: Lodestar

Now Imlie is a show & Adi-Imlie are such characters who actually feel that level of responsibility towards Didi. More so Imlie. Hence their need to see her settled in her life as well. Otherwise there is no onus on them to make sure that Didi is happy in her life as well. Yes she got dragged into marriage because of Adi but it was not as if he didn't try to reveal the truth to her or he didn't try his best to make their relationship work when he was committed to Didi. Nor has he strung her along once he realised that he loves Imlie. So this absurd expectation that Adi should look at the obvious hints of Didi not having moved on is weird to me. He is allowed to move on in his life even if Didi doesn't have a KC in her life. It is only because of Imlie's wish that they have not moved forward in their relationship.

Exactly. Adi has his own life to live. Why this expectation that he should keep reading the mind of his ex and figuring out whether she’s moved on or not? 🤷‍♀️ Him showing consideration for Malini is an EXTRA thing he’s doing cuz he’s a good person. She isn’t ENTITLED to any of this. He is not obligated to figure out how she’s managing her life after they’ve separated 🤷‍♀️

Matlab kisi ke baare mein polite regard dikhaao toh uspe bhi ilzaam hi jhelo that you didn’t look beyond face value and manage Madam ki love life FOR her 🙄. lol

Malini still being hung up on Adi is frankly NOT Adi’s problem cuz he hasn’t done anything to lead her on 🤷‍♀️ She is the one unwilling to face the truth and wants to continue living in delusions. What is he supposed to do about that? Bas apna sach hi bataa sakta hai na that she is only a friend to him? Uske aage kya kar le? 🤷‍♀️ Jab saamne waale mein akkal and self respect na ho toh isse zyada kya karo. Only other solution is to totally cut off communication with such a person but wahaan story waale Imlie ko Didi jaap nahin chhodne denge so 🤷‍♀️😂

Story ka insistence on keeping Didi forced in aside, Adi is not obligated to give her anything but polite regard. So him being deliberately obtuse about her obsession with him is again not something to blame him for. He isn’t hurting anyone deliberately contrary to Didi ke claims 🙄

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Thanks, Pam!

Agree with the rest of your post but slightly disagree with the bold.

Agreed that Adi takes most things at face value coz he’s not really cared about much in his life other than his work. Even all the Ts in general take things on face value too or they would make more of an attempt to know their own son na 🤷‍♀️😆

But in the case of Imlie, Adi never took things at face value from day one. Cuz he connected, he cared unlike with anything in his life. She’s always moved him in fundamental ways like no one else could. It wasn’t just the life or death situations that ultimately bonded and created a deeper understanding between them but even initially, Adi had a curiosity in wanting to know more about Imlie, her thoughts and her aspirations. That spark in her fascinated him and tab bhi it was not about face value or he wouldn’t have noticed that spark in her.

Imlie actually is the ONLY one with whom Adi DOESNT take things at face value 😆….because she is the only one that makes him CARE enough to WANT to know every little thing, to want to delve deeper, scratch the surface… if he took things at face value with Imlie toh aaj tak yehi soch ke baitha hota she doesn’t love him 😆….but it is only with Imlie that he shares the connect to tune into his emotions, to pursue his emotions and want to share them rather than just going through the motions of life. That is the biggest truth of his life.

Imlie is the exception to how Adi treats every other person in his life. Is it really fair to expect him to pay the same level of attention to others when he can’t muster GENUINE interest in what they think or do? 🤷‍♀️😂….He is only able to show that for Imlie coz only she brings out those genuine emotions and regard from him. Yehi sach hai.

Correct, I agree with Imlie and only with Imlie he is different. I guess I was talking about the initial days when he did not delve further that he was hurting her, or that she was Ok with the marriage and all or she was Ok with all with his close relationship with Malini or the PDA. May be its was his selfishness or his conscious self that did not want to delve further to complicate things or question his actions but there were times when he just took her words and actions at face value before he faced him feelind.

Having said that, I do agree that there was always a deep connect between them and she did affect him at a fundamental level, and hence subconsciously he always gravitated towards her which is why he now understands her more than herself sometimes or can predict her actions, reactions and thinking based on the situations. Frankly, I am was pleasantly surprised when he immediately told Rupi Di his fears of Imlie's reactions to hearing the birth truth but Aditya has always managed to surprise me where his emotional understanding has been. They keep him so closed that when he opens up it is always an "Ahhh" moment😆.

@bold : Exactly, he has always been self centered. His reaction to Malini once he accepted his feelings for Imlie was not at all a surprise because this is what he was. He would have shown the guilt and taken the time to address her feelings if Malini would not have brought in KC. But Malini brought in KC and totally admitted that she was cheating on Aditya. Thus, why should anyone expect him to be understanding about her situation, show concern and why should he even bother to delve further when KC is in picture. Its like expecting him to look for water when he has been told and given proof that the water has dried up. 😆

Originally posted by: pamk06

@bold : Exactly, he has always been self centered. His reaction to Malini once he accepted his feelings for Imlie was not at all a surprise because this is what he was. He would have shown the guilt and taken the time to address her feelings if Malini would not have brought in KC. But Malini brought in KC and totally admitted that she was cheating on Aditya. Thus, why should anyone expect him to be understanding about her situation, show concern and why should he even bother to delve further when KC is in picture. Its like expecting him to look for water when he has been told and given proof that the water has dried up. 😆

@bold: Haha good analogy 😆

I would just add that even if KC was not in the picture, Adi would not be able to do much more than feeling general guilt and sadness for Malini 🤷‍♀️. He could sympathize with her maybe but he still wouldn’t think it feasible to put his life on hold for her.

See I don’t really consider this exactly self centered also. It makes him sound like a cold person when he really isn’t. It’s about priorities in life and how we perceive truth and honesty. Adi is more of what we can call lakeer ka fakeer in a sense 😆….usko bas seedhi baatein dikhti hain aur samajh aati hain. Which is why he champions truth and hates twisted complications. His mind shuts down when something isn’t straightforward. This is why he latches on to what seems straightforward to him but he never deliberately tries to hurt anyone (except with Imlie in his confused phase but that’s kinda water under the bridge now 😆).

Pehle Moon jaap was straightforward and uncomplicated to him so he clung to that 😆….now this KC angle seems straightforward to him ki Malini also found someone else so he’s like cool cool 😆….he doesn’t want to dwell on the complications of Malini possibly still being hung up on him even after he told her he loves Imlie. I don’t know if I’d call that selfish. Not excessively dwelling on the emotions of someone else doesn’t make you selfish. He still does show polite regard but his focus remains on his priorities about his actual relationships in the present, not the past.

Yes, Malini made it easier for him by lying about KC but with or without that excuse, Adi will never be able to do more than token sympathy and general dosti assurances to Malini. He can’t live her life for her either 🤷‍♀️. To quote Adi’s favorite line - sab ADULTS hain yahaan pe and they need to manage their own lives. Mahaan didi included 😛….Adi doesn’t owe her anything other than polite basic regard and insaaniyat wala lihaaz. Bas.

The funny thing we keep forgetting about this KC thing is that Adi obviously doesn’t even care that Malini cheated on him 🤷‍♀️🤣. Toh when he didn’t care about that much, why exactly will he care to dwell deeper about KC kaun hai, sach hai ki nahin. He believes in live and let live wala philosophy for the most part with everyone…that isn’t exactly selfish also na technically. Just another form of easy going detachment 🤷‍♀️😂

He is detached from most other things and people. Attachment ka meaning hi usko Imlie ke saath samajh aaya hai. Iski emotional dictionary Imlie se hi shuru hoti hai, Imlie pe hi khatam 😆

Just musing over thr fact that where this week started and where we are at now wow 🤣 who would've thought this is how it will go🤣