Raghav doesnt love pallavi - Page 11

Originally posted by: meghumonu

Pallavi is already in love and she indirectly hinted that also several times and it is not only I am saying but many members of forums also agree on that but alas everyone has their own perspective about it!! It was fun discussing like this!! During Na Bole Tum times I was only 18 years old and a silent member but now I decided to join in discussions as after almost a decade after NBT an ITV show has interested me like this!!

Pallavi made peace n she is trying to move on .it’s always fun to ve healthy discussions , nice talking to u .

Originally posted by: Nonpareil

Pallavi made peace n she is trying to move on .it’s always fun to ve healthy discussions , nice talking to u .

It is great that she is moved on!! The reason I like this show is because how realistically it is showing the process of falling in love!! Love just do not happens instantly like other shows used to portray but it happens slowly it takes time. Even after marriage in case arranged ones also love is not instant but it happens slowly with understanding each other, adjusting with each other, sharing sad and happy moments with each other. Slowly the trust and friendship builds and then the process of falling love happens. It showed realistically that there is no guarantee that love can happen for both at same time one may take less time to realize and accept love and the other may need time to accept the love. Not to mention a strong FL who do not cry but even after suffering setback she fights back and is always optimistic!! This show normalized the dressing sense of a widowed woman and how they should behave as girls who are widowed these days do not wear white sarees anymore and enjoys life like any normal girl and even gets remarried normally. This realistic portrayal and also portraying a ML who is no nonsense shrewd and intelligent guy who cannot be duped is something I have seen very less in ITV.

Originally posted by: LoveHopeMagic

Like once Farhad said, after the hate phase they are in the friendship phase right now. And What I think is, Raghav does love Pallavi but he is not in love with her and Pallavi also loves him but not in love with him.

Love is letting the other go for their happiness. So when Amma said that Pallavi is not happy with them, he was ready to let her go because he cares about her happiness not his pain. And I don't think like he said he did that because Amma asked, he did the arrangements because he wants her to be happy. He was indeed hurt letting her go, and that hurt is obviously formed from the love and affection he has for her. So I will say that he loves Pallavi but he will need a push from somewhere or someone to realize that.

And what happened in today's episode, i don't think he really meant that. I'm not a married woman but I still think, it does happen in arranged marriages. Where the man takes time to accept that he has someone in his life who treats his family as her own exactly like a woman who takes time to accept her husband 's family. Here Pallavi didn't need that much time since she personally knew his family before. So I think, Pallavi has accepted Raghav's family as her own ( but not in that blind way she did with d family,) hence she didn't leave. But Raghav will take time to accept Pallavi as his wife in true sense because right now she is his friend who he loves but at the same time, he craves for the attention and care he could get from his wife hence the constant referring of him as her husband.

And today, the moment that words left his mouth, he regretted it. He knew that words hurt her but his ego didn't let him say sorry. He will most probably apologize to her soon.

So, these two are not yet in love with each other but do feel something for the other and I will say, both of them are in the same page. I wouldn't be surprised if they fall for each other together.

Like the thought of leaving her affected him and his happiness was clearly shown on his face when she said she is not going, she did stood up for him and did choose him over her crazy family. So they are in the same page, on the way to love but will have lots of hurdles to pass.

He does want her in his life but he is yet to realize what a wife expect from a husband and I think it's the same with Pallavi too. They both are unaware of the beauty of a marriage.

Very well said. You raise a good point here about loving someone vs. being in love with them. Both are necessary but one comes after the other. Raghav will get there eventually, time will tell. I do think that Pallavi's in love with him and is starting to realize that.

As for their marriage, that's a different matter altogether. They've never actually sat down to talk about what they want to do and how they will build their life as a couple. They are just going with the flow but there will come a time when they have to make a firm, conscious decision about their future together and at that moment all that they will have to guide them is their feeling for each other, especially once they realize their marriage is null and void and there's no legal or social binding to stay 'married'.

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

There is love somewhere in his heart for her, albeit buried under the numerous storms that they’re passed through. It’s an elephant in the room which no one wants to speak of, or initiate.

Right now, he holds her as a friend, I also see it that way and she has become a part of his life where he lets her guide him, listens to her, her opinion matters to him and her happiness matters to him. He respects her as well. All this leads to love but he’s not yet there. He’ll get there once all his drama with his sister is resolved and he’s under a great threat of losing her. Till then realization is going to be quite hard because even in real life, it does take time for one to realize that there is something more than liking, respect and friendship. For a person like Raghav, he’ll be in denial until an external force hits him (Mandaar).

Raghav is complicated too, he wants his status as a husband but he doesn’t call it love. Fair enough, people are husband and wife in real life and don’t share the madness of love, rather have respect and liking for each other.

Pallavis emotions seem to baffle me more than Raghav.

It seems that he does indeed need a major trigger to start introspecting because he seems to care abotu everyone else but himself right now. Pallavi is the one thing he has for himself and he needs to figure out how and in what capacity his happiness lies with her.

Originally posted by: monsi08

U r bang on 😊

He doesn't love her yet... he had some attraction for her before... that has also taken a back seat in his chaotic life ... as of now he looks at Pals as a friend he never had with whom he can share his feelings and fears...

Today's episode was an eye opener for me in this respect... I always thought he loves her already... but 😭

The way he told her not to interfere seemed a little out of place because last few days he was all in for Pals to take care of his family issues and responsibilities... 🤔

I really really hope that RR is having some plan to reveal wicked Sunny's actual intentions and it's not going Star Bahu solving everything way... but why cant he include Pals in it... didnt he promise her that he wouldn't keep anymore secrets from her just a day ago..

Atleast Today episode cleared our doubt that Sunny is indeed evil... but for that I dont want any rift between Raghvi.. instead dono milke easily iss wicked Sunny ko thikaane laga sakte hain

I'm curious... What specifically in this episode made you realize he wasn't in love?

He never really thinks of himself right? That's Raghav Rao. Loves his family, even if he doesn't get the same love from them. Today's scene with Keerti was emotional because I felt bad for him in that he really craves her acceptance and affection such that when she called him bhai, he was so emotionally vulnerable, he couldn't even speak up. When she hugs him, he had the softest face then, almost as if he went back to being the 17 year old who was adored by his siblings. I got the feels of the song "Abhi, Mujhme mein kabhi" from Agneepath.

Sai is really good in soft scenes as well as angry scenes. He's got a tremendous range.

Originally posted by: inlieu

It seems that he does indeed need a major trigger to start introspecting because he seems to care abotu everyone else but himself right now. Pallavi is the one thing he has for himself and he needs to figure out how and in what capacity his happiness lies with her.

Originally posted by: Doc

Yes i wish they wont spoil this.and it wont be forced by ragahv like marriage...

It would be mutual..

Mutual confusion

Mutual.understanding each other...

I.know.RR has grey shades...but ab to pallu ko.prioritize kerley beta...

On the side note i want mandar to love pallu also...this girl deserves love yaar...

I m ok k wo goon ho shady business kerey..ya money minded ho...but he.has feelings of love for pallu ..should have..

Apne anna.konse dudh k dhule hain...

Bachpan se kaand ker rge hain ...

🤣🤣

I would also like it if Mandaar loves Pallavi and tells her about it. He was obviously very nice to her during their courtship and she respects and admires him a lot!

Mujhe to woh scene chahiye when she sees Mandaar and without thinking runs to hug him... Meanwhile, Raghav watching her going.... 😲😕😡

Originally posted by: Viewpoint

He never really thinks of himself right? That's Raghav Rao. Loves his family, even if he doesn't get the same love from them. Today's scene with Keerti was emotional because I felt bad for him in that he really craves her acceptance and affection such that when she called him bhai, he was so emotionally vulnerable, he couldn't even speak up. When she hugs him, he had the softest face then, almost as if he went back to being the 17 year old who was adored by his siblings. I got the feels of the song "Abhi, Mujhme mein kabhi" from Agneepath.

Sai is really good in soft scenes as well as angry scenes. He's got a tremendous range.

Yaar, don't remind me of that scene. Broke my heart seeing him like that. Just he way his hand clasped her instantly when she put her hand on his... Like him, his hand had been waiting for ages too. The way she acting like the sweet sister he wants to dote on, cheek to cheek but he was hurting so much then. Ugh... He deserves so much better. The look in his eyes when he shakily raises his hand to pat her arm as she's hugging him... Uff! Sais was so good there!

This is why he needs someone like Pallavi who will indeed prioritize him above all else, who loves and cares for him unconditionally, respects him for who he is, and who will not expect anything in return.

Originally posted by: Isamreen

Interesting topic saman 👍🏼

What I feel is Raghavi are not a usual romantic couple, where bina kisi reason k ek doosre se toofani qisam ki mohabbat ho jaye...

They have their own character arcs in between coming closer towards each other..

Raghav of course loves to be around her, tease her, taunt her, do things for her but abhi us level ka pyar nahi hua...

Raghav ko pyar hai par uska level abhi respect, caring aur attachment tk hai, yeh levels dhire dhire aur badenge...

Next step is love realisation.... Aur yeh hota hai do situations me khushi ya gham ..

Raghav is yet to realise, agar sach me intensity realise kr leta toh kisi bhi condition me Kolhapur jane na deta chahe amma lakh sar patak leti 🤣

Dekhna yeh hai k yeh realisation Raghav ko kaise hoga...

Par jab hoga toh bahut zordar hoga....

Well said, love the wording here!

Originally posted by: Ubiquitos

My question is what is love even? 🤣🤣

If we go by intensity, his feelings for her are intense, but so was his tenacity to change for her and do things right and his want to belong to someone, that you can confuse it with love...

Sincere and deep feelings is enough for people to claim it as love... But in marriage or for the word love, there is no end actually.. 🤣

Maybe claiming that we belong to each other, is love. Right now the reason they have rights over each other is primarily marriage and secondarily their own feelings towards each other.

If you take marriage out of their equation, will they fight for their relationship, is the question..

Another thing which binds them together is their nature of being responsible and committed. Even with the hatred, they were committed to each other once they were married. That committment part is like something you feel is a right thing to do, like Raghav knows that this is what he should for her, as he is her husband. A lot of his actions were/are guided by that commitment.

Sincere commitment itself is a very awww-worthy emotion, though. Like I would take that over flowers or confessions anyday.

Coming to Pallavi, it's a mix of things, it's in her nature to care and care deeply, and make the other person's problems her own, so I won't be surprised if she get hurt here because she is too deep in this, once again...However Raos will not let her go too far on that path ever.. They know how to stick by your own... So Pallavi will be secure in that regard... Even though Raghav might not reveal his emotions explicitly, he will never let her feel unwanted... There is a difference between ignorance and taking someone for granted... I feel he was taking her for granted in this instant because there was someone else who needed attention.. or rather his own need..

Oh yeah I was talking about Pallavi's emotions, first I thought Pallavi was being giving because Raghav needs it, he needed that security, assurance and commitment, but then she was also voicing out her acceptance of him as her husband. I think it became pretty clear. He is her first priority. And since she isn't really the person who believes in self preservation, has fewer doubts about her own self and Raghav, she is able to voice that out aloud and make her intentions clear. She will be able to voice that aloud even if Mandar comes, because her definition of rights and wrongs are not muddled like Raghav's.

Raghav also is straightforward, but you can see him going back and forth on his feelings, mainly because he is a tedha insaan. 😆

He wasn't hesitant in declaring to Pallavi that he wants her to stay, and will do anything for her in order to make her stay. His feelings were totally out, when he was in this fear of loosing her. Those feelings were not exactly love, but the fear of loosing someone important, the fear of being alone again... He was really being very tactful in not hurting her or anyone in that phase, because fear..

Now he has gotten that assurance, and he has relaxed a bit, and is leaning towards his RR habits, of deciding on his own, being a little immature in decisions, getting overpowered by his family needs, being shallow and casually throwing some words which can hurt.... One day he is that sane sensible person with deep thoughts, that he will forget his own happiness for the sake of others, the next day he will behave selfishly or irrationally. LOL. The next day he will be Pallavi ka cute husband once again.. 😆

Once again reminded of the song, kabhi neem neem kabhi shehad shehad. 🤣

In short, Raghav is a complicated person. He doesn't have the luxury of being an ideal person all the time like Pallavi because she has a clear conscience, he doesn't. .

Brilliant post. 👏

Agree with every single thing you said, especially the last line. He doesn't have that luxury at all and with how things are going with Keerti, he won't have time for himself for a while longer.

And yes, people are too quick to start labeling things as love or not. He has always been about roles, responsibilities in this marriage from day 1 and there's nothing wrong with it. He's doing his duty, making sure she's looked after and that she gets to live her life freely. They will grow together, organically, which is the best way. No need to fast forward things, and if they encounter speed bumps let them fall and rise supporting one another until they realize that that they do indeed complete one another.

Kabhi neem neem kabhi shehad shehad is indeed the perfect song. They would be too boring as a couple otherwise. 😉