You have to remember that Shiva is conveniently not placed in very important scenes like this.
He was not there when Raavi was insulted, when Krish was insulted, when Gaumbi and Dhara was accused by Rishita for sending away Dev and today😆
He is there only for chudail kaand, ShiVi scenes or BhabiMa scenes😆
a perfect parallel to this I think would be when Shiva wasn't there pre-wedding when Maami insulted Dhara at the baby shower
and dev or krish said should they call shiva? and everyone smiled, gaumbi even gave a teasing look to maami and she got so scared
it's because they know shiva would lose his plot