Originally posted by: AreYaar
Really? I didn't really view it that way and if that was Imlie's stance, they didn't articulate it clearly in the story that way either IMO.
Imlie accepted Malini's claim on Adi because Adi himself kept declaring Malini's claim on him....but she never fully relinquished her own claim on Adi cuz frankly when has she ever fully claimed her right on Adi in order to relinquish it?😆
And if what you are saying is indeed Imlie's thinking, I don't think she would have accepted Adi's affection for her in the PD realization trip the way she did.....you are making it sound like she considers their relationship sinful. I don't think that is the case.....she feels guilt because Malini has lost the one she "loves"....but she does not consider her own relationship with Adi wrong.....she is simply trying to repay the debt of sisterhood she feels she owes Malini for all that Malini has done for her.
How exactly did Imlie covet Adi at any point?😆.....even now after so many ups and downs, realizations....all she is doing is reciprocating Adi's love for her (woh bhi bare minimum😆)....lol if you want to talk about her belief system, she has never considered her own husband's love for her wrong either.....calling any of this a "sin" is not in alignment with her claim that this rishta is a blessing from SM.....agar rishta hai toh uske saath jude emotions can't seperately become a "sin".
*Re: Coddling Malini.....how is it not about coddling Malini? I can give a bazillion examples of Imlie feeling the need to hype up Didi whenever Didi was pouting over the smallest of things......easiest example that comes to mind is that just cuz Adi's boss praised Imlie ki moti roti, Imlie saw Didi ka fallen face and put down her own Moti roti to hype Didi ka chocolate cake😆.....if this is not coddling, then what is? No one treats Malini like an adult in this story....they all act like she's a toddler whose emotions are to be managed.....Imlie included....the whole world is a "sinner" in front of Didi....conveniently twisted definitions of "sin"😆
Poor choice of words again :) Imlie did give up her right to be Adi's wife when she let Aditya get married to Malini. She accepted his affection in PD because in her own words, she was living her life's worth of happiness in those three days. She thought he was doing some ehsaan on her. The plan was to send Aditya packing to Malini. These three days were the respite from their lives. From Aditya's responsibilities. She did this because of her own affection for him.
Covet is again a horrible word to convey my intention maybe. What i wanted to convey was she wanted his saath. She wanted presence in her life. But she feels she had no right to these. So to convey this feeling i used the word covet.
Even in the aditya rescue scene, she said, Aap pe haq na ho, par aapke jaan pe toh humara haq hai or something like that. In her own words her only right is to save his life.
In yesterday's awkward scene outside the house, Imlie's words to Malini were: yeh ghar aapka, yeh gharwale aapke. Malini was like kis haq se i occupied someone else's place in house. And imlie immediately fell on her feet saying please dont say that. I interpreted this as guilt that she is snatching away everything that is rightfully Malini's.
And before that scene, Imlie's monologue to SM as she was walking towards T house: "I always walked on the path you showed me. Thats why I never waver. Then why is it that i am unable to lift my feet today? Why do i think that i am going to break this house apart?". I interpreted this as Imlie feeling she is going against SM's way in pursuing her relationship with Adi. That was a sin alert scene for me.
Yes she never considered Aditya's love for her wrong. But she did consider him expressing his love to her wrong.(Forest scene) And her claiming her rights on him wrong.(sindoor scene) I guess for her nibhaoing rishta was mandatory but loving Malini was optional lol.
After the last NDE, I think she is at a place she is not giving up on Adi even when she feels its wrong.
Again, this is my interpretation of the scenes. I could be wrong. When ever makers decide to give a monologue to imlie, we will understand what her problem actually is lol.
Re. Coddling, Everyone in the show tries to coddle her and inflate her ego where ever possible. Imlie also generally does it. But the reason why Imlie wanted Aditya to stay with Malini was not because she was trying to coddle her. Its because of her belief that ek baar rishta jud jaye use nibhana padega. Irrespective of what the people in relationship feel. So the argument that Aditya and Malini's relationship might have naturally fallen apart might also not matter to her.