Originally posted by: AreYaar
Sorry what? Flirting with Adi behind Didi's back? Is that how you saw it?😆 We'll have to disagree on that point then. You make her sound so calculative when that wasn't what she was doing.
She was always shown holding on to her faith on her own level and never compelling others to think like her.....this was obvious the most in the case of the whole believing Adi to be her husband situation where she told him he has the right to believe what he does while she will stick to her beliefs....she never compelled or forced him to accept anything.....she stuck to her own unconventional beliefs even if someone pointed out the impracticality of them. That is what I meant by her independent streak.
The difference in her now is that she has started keeping conditions in front of people which she didn't do before.....so yes, part of that does involve her realizing that she has some leverage with Adi now since he is always professing love for her and wanting her to be with him.....Adi does zidd so she does her own zidd in turn....that ends up being more of a back and forth rather than some grand overarching plan to compel him. She is not keeping anything on indefinite hold....lol her stance is basically that if Malini can't be happy, we are also over and that's that......lol she is ready to walk away at a moment's notice from Adi....so that's not even coercion.....that's a total lack of ability to think for her own relationships or herself....she is ready to finish everything in her life on a moment's notice without thought....that doesn't show any sense of real calculation but more a complete lack of self-preservation or regard for self.
But she is absolutely trying to force her views on Malini right now out of her own sense of guilt....In Adi's case, she atleast has that sense of knowing she matters in his life for her to try to leverage.....lol Malini has long since dropped even the token behenchara facade but Imlie is acting like she has some made up right over Malini's life to dictate terms to her......that's why it's looking more disconnected.
It's all very poorly written right now but underscoring all this is a self-worth issue for Imlie where she is not fully ready to own her status as Adi's wife or the bahu of T family.....but that isn't being addressed dhang se since it's all just getting diverted into Didi bhakti discussions or Adi also just being fixated on immediate fixes rather than trying to understand the underlying causes of what's driving Imlie's stances.
Thanks for your perspective :) I did not mean to make it sound like imlie is calculative or she is trying to control people around her as if they some puppets. What i was trying to get at was conscious and sub-conscious reasons for imlie's actions. On the surface its always about "didi's khusiyan" but sub-consiously her actions are driven by her own guilt and fears. On hindsight compel is also terrible word to put my point across.
Imlie did not ever force Aditya to commit to their relationship and always respected his choice in the matter. Yes, she does hold on to her unconventional belief system and is independent in her thoughts. And she never once forced these beliefs on anyone else.
After Aditya married Malini of his free will, she let go of all her rights on him and considers Malini to be his true wife. Though he will always be her husband. Aditya's love her brought her immense happiness and guilt. She could not live with herself if she was the reason for AM's break up. But her love for Aditya was equally strong. She could not live away from him either. So for her easiest way out was let Aditya fulfil his obligation towards malini while she continues to be a maid at his house.
This period when she did not have to face her feelings of guilt, showed us what Aditya and Imlie's relation can be - general playfulness, innocence, sunshine, happiness and banter. A trivial word like flirting cannot do justice to what they share.
But she was not ready to face her guilt and considers her feelings for him wrong, so She did try to use her hold over Aditya to hide the truth from malini. But all this was more to assuage her guilt than to control him.
Even now, she committed the greatest sin in her book. Broke her Malini didi's heart because she has feelings for Aditya and this is wrong. She feels guilty enough to fall on Malini's feet, but this guilt alone is not enough for her to let go of Aditya. She wants him enough to be a maid again even when she knows that family or most of the family hates her.
She will not let herself be happy unless Malini is happy. She is a sinner and how can a sinner be happy without atoning for her sins? Her sin is that she took away Aditya from Malini's life. She created a void in Malini's life. So she cannot start her life until she fills this void. Hence the need for ghar bhasaoing activity of Didi.
But if this is the only reason, why cant they tell the truth to the family that imlie is ghar ki bahu, but still keep their marriage on hold till Malini marries? This way Imlie wont be completely happy as she atones her sins. Its not like family will welcome accept her with open arms right? There would still be hell to pay on that front.
I feel here here insecurity and self worth issues come in. She believes the family wont accept her and might kick her out of aditya's life? Or if Aditya leaves the house for her he wont be completely happy and she will also be the reason for family's misery. Either way she is not ready to face the consequence of this truth reveal.
On the surface her didi jaap and didi ka ghar basaoing make her sound like a regressive moron. But when we look at the her conscious and sub-conscious reasons, Imlie is a well written and complex character. I hope they potray her like that.
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