Originally posted by: Lodestar
My main problem right now is not Dementor Didi. She can do suicide drama Veeru style in T house for all I care😆. My problem is that I am unable to connect with Imlie.
Imlie's Malini Didi jaap was expected by us since the time Adi was doing his Moon Jaap. It is not something that was a surprise for us or out of character. What is out of character is Imlie's entire life revolving around this Didi Jaap.
In the initial phase of the story Imlie was being harshly insulted & rebuked by Adi day in day out, she was so alone in T house without any support, insulted by AC as well, missing her mom & Dadda, her entire dream going poof, she had to suffer through seeing her own husband get married to someone else. But was she wallowing in her pain all the time? No. She cried when she got hurt, sometimes even gave it back to Adi when he went too far, didn't let AC's insult matter to her & with her own nature made a connection with the T family. Her not giving up essence remained. She survived it all. Her resilience more than anything gained her Adi's admiration. When Adi disrespected her belief in their marriage by asking Imlie to move on in life with someone else, she had the strength to go away from him for his own happiness.
Now at this stage when she has got full support & love from Adi, the T's have bonded so much with her that the house is lifeless without her, she has achieved her dream of making her Amma & Dadda proud by being a state topper, she has received admission in one of the top colleges of Delhi why is her guilt regarding Adi-Malini marriage being broken so larger than life for her. It's as if Adi's love & support for her has weakened her instead of strengthening her💔.
Imlie even in so much emotional & mental suffering initially having the guilt of ruining Adi's life was able to give understanding & compassion to Adi who was lashing out at her. Now that Adi loves her, it is as if all her compassion & understanding for Adi has gone for a toss. The guy is telling her upfront so many times that he is unhappy with Malini & cannot keep Malini happy but she is just not listening. Ok, if the reason is the guilt & shame, then, she should tell Adi straight away that she won't be with him until he sorts out his issues with Malini on his own. She should not interfere in there relationship. She should concentrate & focus on her studies. Instead she is just day & night worrying about Malini Didi's pain.
Imlie is not close to Malini Didi. There has always been a barrier between them because Imlie always knew that she is also married to Adi. Imlie is 100 times closer to the Tripathis & she loves Adi above her own life. So why the writers are showing that all Imlie cares about is Malini Didi?
I read through your discussion in last thread how Malini has emotionally abused Imlie since her return & made her feel like an outsider. I agree that all her lashing out has impacted Imlie. But if there is one Malini Didi lashing out at her then there is one Adi who loves her & supports her, boosts her confidence, takes pride in her achievements, makes her feel special. There are all the Tripathis who also love her, support her, give her confidence. Does all this love & support not matter to Imlie? Why is only Malini Didi being happy & alright with her the only important thing for her?
The writers need to make Malini Didi the only focal point for Imlie to the exclusion of all others is what is wrong. This has totally messed up Imlie's characterisation. Hence, I cannot connect with her.