An Endless Nightmare.. - Page 16

Originally posted by: Sunnygrin1

And then finally the biggest discussion - our collective views on what constitutes a happy marriage. Forget happy - good marriage. That only two people of similar backgrounds can be happy together and if there is trouble in the marriage then it’s your ‘duty’ to sacrifice your happiness to keep the marriage together. There has been so much focus on Malini’s haq- how good a wife she has been and that she doesnot ‘deserve’ this. That if she wants Adi then he better ready to give himself to her and if he isn’t then she has every right to ‘fight for her rights’, manipulate people, call Imlie names - just to test and see if Imlie is the reason Adi is not talking to her anymore; that people who made her unhappy should feel guilty and should be made to pay...All that is just so wrong. I am not denying the rights of a woman to be supported financially or otherwise etc by her ex- spouse also not denying that he give her an explanation ( though I doubt if that will be enough for her)...but you can’t demand his soul, man. Because there is also the other part of this marriage- Aadi’s haq to his happiness which I hope he keeps vocalizing and I hope he is heard soon.

I hope that the writers are drawing us through this current doom and gloom and this abjectly apologetic Imlie ( who is a ghost of her former self) only to contrast with Imlie in all her glory - ready to fight for her happiness because she has every right to it, she has done no wrong and has every right too to love whom she wants. And not feel sorry for feeling that love. I hope the introduction of Rupi into their secret is a step in this direction. Fingers crossed.

The way the story is churning, it seems to me that even if the whole truth is out, Imlie will still be blamed for coming in between Aditya & Malini. How it seems to an outsider is, Aditya was happy for 7 years in a relationship, he happily by his wish married Malini, so what changed achanak se that he no longer wants to be with Malini. The obvious answer points to Imlie. The writers have not spent any time stressing on the point in Aditya or any of the family member's minds that Aditya and Malini were never right for each other. Aditya reached this conclusion 2 episodes ago, but no process has been shown to us. As audience, it is clear to me that Imlie just expedited the process that would have eventually happened but Imlie did not cause the incompatibility between Aditya-Malini or lack of love between both of them. That was glaringly obvious from the beginning episodes itself that Aditya was not in love with Malini and Malini was way too emotionally co-dependent on Aditya. She had no life outside of Aditya. But what will Aditya say, I was with Malini for 7 years, I went to PD, got forcefully married there, did not accept the marriage so married Malini who I wanted to marry anyway, but then fell in love with Imlie so now I want to be with Imlie, who is my first wife and I have accepted my first marriage, therefore I want to leave Malini. You see on surface level this sounds really bad for Aditya and Imlie and anyone would sympathize with Malini only. But if you dig deeper, you will see that Imlie did absolutely nothing to make Aditya fall in love with her or accept their relationship. It is Aditya, who never was in love in the first place, really connected with Imlie and fell in love with her for the first time in his life. He had no plans to fall in love with Imlie or even keep her in his life. But love is love and one cannot control it. In this whole mess of Aditya not knowing what he wanted, involved Malini in it. If he had any clarity in thoughts, he never would have married Malini. So even though Aditya is at fault, he is allowed to with respect and dignity get out of a relationship that is sucking his very soul. And Malini, with all the signs in front of her, chose to ignore everything and did tamasha after tamasha instead of finding it within her to ask Aditya direct questions. Yes, if Malini was just emotionally weak, I would still sympathize with her, she deserved to throw all her anger at Aditya. But her anger is coming out on Imlie, who is the most innocent out of all three. Imlie deserves not one taunt or a word spoken in anger from Malini. In fact she should be left alone and neither Aditya nor Malini should involve her in the mess they both created in their relationship.

So if we just read story summary or understand it at surface level only, it will seem only Malini is the one suffering and Aditya-Imlie are at fault. But if we dig a little deeper, pay attention to each of the characters, we will see that as humans, some wrong decisions were made, and some were due to circumstances but all three characters are going through pain in their own way, and the only way to come out of it is if all three characters act with dignity but I have no hopes from Malini. Out of all 3, blames lies on everyone's shoulders, some more than others, but still, the story is not black and white as a lot of people who support only Malini seems to think. Writers have done a damn good job to keep Aditya and Imlie as honest as possible about their emotions. No one is betraying anyone here and that is the most important part.

Originally posted by: Anvi2009

The way the story is churning, it seems to me that even if the whole truth is out, Imlie will still be blamed for coming in between Aditya & Malini. How it seems to an outsider is, Aditya was happy for 7 years in a relationship, he happily by his wish married Malini, so what changed achanak se that he no longer wants to be with Malini. The obvious answer points to Imlie. The writers have not spent any time stressing on the point in Aditya or any of the family member's minds that Aditya and Malini were never right for each other. Aditya reached this conclusion 2 episodes ago, but no process has been shown to us. As audience, it is clear to me that Imlie just expedited the process that would have eventually happened but Imlie did not cause the incompatibility between Aditya-Malini or lack of love between both of them. That was glaringly obvious from the beginning episodes itself that Aditya was not in love with Malini and Malini was way too emotionally co-dependent on Aditya. She had no life outside of Aditya. But what will Aditya say, I was with Malini for 7 years, I went to PD, got forcefully married there, did not accept the marriage so married Malini who I wanted to marry anyway, but then fell in love with Imlie so now I want to be with Imlie, who is my first wife and I have accepted by first marriage, so I want to leave Malini. You see on surface level this sounds really bad for Aditya and Imlie and anyone would sympathize with Malini only. But if you dig deeper, you will see that Imlie did absolutely nothing to make Aditya fall in love with her or accept their relationship. It is Aditya, who never was in love in the first place, really connected with Imlie and fell in love with her for the first time in his life. He had no plans to fall in love with Imlie or even keep her in his life. But love is love and one cannot control it. In this whole mess of Aditya not knowing what he wanted, involved Malini in it. If he had any clarity in thoughts, he never would have married Malini. So even though Aditya is at fault, he is allowed to with respect and dignity get out of a relationship that is sucking his very soul. And Malini, with all the signs in front of her, chose to ignore everything and did tamasha after tamasha instead of finding it within her .

So if we just read story summary or understand it at surface level only, it will seem only Malini is the one suffering and Aditya-Imlie are at fault. But if we dig a little deeper, pay attention to each of the characters, we will see that as humans, some wrong decisions Writers have done a damn good job to keep Aditya and Imlie as honest as possible about their emotions. No one is betraying anyone here and that is the most important part.

I cannot post any images but there are so many telling moments about the way Adi Ni’s relationship was going. Malini tells him once during the jewellery shopping episode that ‘romantic words don’t really suit him’ - because they were fake when he said it to her. But so many times when he went to PD after Imlie- he said the craziest - most romantic stuff - “I will also eat from your plate for your long life” or “let your sindoor stain stay on my shirt...” - and it sounded so right- not cheesy at all. Kudos to GM for emoting that difference so perfectly.

One more clue at the very beginning as to the future of Adi Ni’s relationship- when Adi and Imlie first meet - he gets a call from Malini and he is looking at his phone when he hits Imlie. When they fall and look at each other for the first time, notice where is phone is? It’s hilarious and a tad bit sad but That’s how important Malini’s calls were in his life and would be forever more.

Originally posted by: Sunnygrin1

Agree with all that you have said. Yes - all this was pretty clear to me as well . It’s not just interesting how the Ts view or will view the Adi-lie relationship when he tries to explain it but also how the PD family sees it now - from Praksh’s POV. Like Adi says to Jainendra at one point - “no one really knows the full truth about a relationship other than the people involved.” the writers have left many clues and subltly shown how unsuitable Malini was for Adi without anyone except Mrs Chaturvedi actually saying it. She has been saying it consistently that Malini was never his priority and she was right but both Malini and Adi chose to ignore the obvious. It’s also pretty obvious from length of the relationship and the conversations they had before he left for PD, that Adi was the one delaying getting married and always quoted his assignments as reasons. When he tells her that they can get married after his PD assignment, the way he said it was “Aapki wish poori hogi or aapko aur intezaar nahi karna padega”. It wasn’t ‘their’ wish- it was ‘hers’. We had this discussion also as to when it was that Adi fell in love with Imlie and that’s also what is so wonderful about this show that - you can’t point out any defining moment. It’s not like other shows that he looks at her and is bowled over by her or what she says immediately. He is only able to define what she meant to him when she left him.

I cannot post any images but there are so many telling moments about the way Adi Ni’s relationship was going. Malini tells him once during the jewellery shopping episode that ‘romantic words don’t really suit him’ - because they were fake when he said it to her. But so many times when he went to PD after Imlie- he said the craziest - most romantic stuff - “I will also eat from your plate for your long life” or “let your sindoor stain stay on my shirt...” - and it sounded so right- not cheesy at all. Kudos to GM for emoting that difference so perfectly.

One more clue at the very beginning as to the future of Adi Ni’s relationship- when Adi and Imlie first meet - he gets a call from Malini and he is looking at his phone when he hits Imlie. When they fall and look at each other for the first time, notice where is phone is? It’s hilarious and a tad bit sad but That’s how important Malini’s calls were in his life and would be forever more.

You just made me want to go to Hotstar and watch some of the scenes again. 😊

If I think about it, even I cannot point out any one incident or moment when Aditya fell in love with Imlie. In the beginning, there was a connection and warmth in their interactions. Imlie giving it to him in their first interaction and 20 rupees scene left an impact on him. They both had emotional conversations too in 2 days, especially the last day before forced marriage. But that was it. Then marriage happens and Aditya suppresses any good feelings he had for Imlie. Imlie became the enemy. But Imlie did not take Aditya's attitude lying down. Whenever he crossed a limit verbally, she gave it back to him. Also, Imlie in all her cuteness was hard not to like. Especially climbing the tree to get honey for T family. Since Imlie was in the same house as him, he got to know her more causing him to like her more, but that was shown to us, never analyzed or thought about by Aditya. Aditya's interactions changed after Imlie's gunshot wound. He stopped attaching her to their forced marriage. He started treating Imlie as an individual separate from their experience. And he started to like her even more. His care, protection, concern was all shown between his second and third PD trip. And he still did not realize her importance in his life till she left him. And even upon reaching PD the third time he did not realize he loved her. It is only after spending a couple of days with her there, liking being called her husband and her his wife, liking the sindoor on her head, the pain of getting separated from her, expressing his feelings in front of the village, and finally, after witnessing Mithi-Dev scene, did he acknowledge on the last day that he loved her. So yeah, it has been a beautiful journey for Aditya and his feelings. Since he never loved Malini, his heart was open to love someone else. And the more he got to know Imlie, the more he started liking her to the point that he hated being in his own house without her.

With Malini, Aditya was guarded, he never prioritized her over his work, did not give her any gift from dil se, waited 7 years to get married to her and still was not all that excited about it. Did he even snap any photos of Malini just for the heck of it? He did not even know who her friends were. He felt no jealousy if Malini spent time with other guys. His connection with her was surface level. Aditya never showed his raw emotions to Malini. And whenever he did, most important scene comes to my mind is the car-bike one, Malini had no idea how to deal with him. Aditya, the type of man he is, he never would have fallen in love with Imlie if he had ever loved Malini.

To the audience, there has been a clear distinction between Aditya's feelings for Imlie and for Malini. Let's see if Aditya, the character, is able to explain things clearly to his family when the truth is out.