Originally posted by: Indira12
@Bold 1 - Even in HM they showed Ani apologizing, not once but twice. The redemption was very very on point. So much so that even we cried for him. After the public humiliation on the BW case, he first apologized in front of the HM girls, in a kotha, which is a deemed to be a lower section of the society. He did not cared about it because neither did he looked at that section with a low eye and nor did it matter to him because all it mattered was Bon. Such was Ani that he never gave a second thought about the surrounding near him and apologized to her. After that when he met Bon in the store room of TB's seesh mahal, he again asked for forgiveness, privately. He resorted to both ways. Not only that, he even supported Bon during Mini expose in front of the same people before whom he insulted her previously. All of this was enough for a repentance.
@UL - To be frank Faja, makers are using the character of Bon as per their convenience. Sometimes they show Bon a little grown-up, in pain, getting hurt and sometimes just the child-like Bon doing mooh-phulana, not being able to understand the magnitude of the situation. Jo mann mai aa raha hai, vahi kare ja rahe hai makers and I hate them for that.
@Bold 2 - "...because it was for his role of patibabu not actually interpersonal feeling" exactly. It was that only. No interpersonal feeling. Bon's crush was not really a crush. It was forced upon, an induced one. It did not came to her naturally. Since Bon loves Ani so much, she wanted to do something for him. And after those ladies constantly stressed on the fact that "aap bohot bhagyashali ho roychowdhurain ji, aap ke patibabu apke ke liye kitna kuch karte hai, kitna pyaar karte hai, aapke ke liye ek hi raat mei sauchalay bana dale", she wanted to reciprocate. Wanted to give it back to Ani with the same amount of love Ani gives her. Just as we want to give it back to someone when the other person does something for us. What was the way? She asked those ladies for the way. Result? The ladies asked her to be a acchi patni. And she treaded on that path. Tried every other way to requite the love she feels for him (obviously the different love, not the romantic one).
@Bold 1 : you are right completely on Ani's side
What I mentioned was on the Bon's emotional plight after Ani abandoned her.
She was quick in forgiving him (He earned it that time).But the matured Bon in HM was quickly back to her innocent self on reaching RC mansion. We might have named it she is back to herself on back to her nest, with Ani she can fearlessly be child again (Her scars were never shown although she is too young for the concept of Hira Mandi).
I meant this time that back to all fine scenario would be difficult to justify with a growing up Bon in the light of shifting emotions
@ul : I have a mixed feeling here.
Bon's feeling was initially an induced one..clearly visible on cheek turning red and dhadkan scenes in the hut. But how she perceived it later with day dreaming him all time (really awkward for me that I even thought how awkward it would have been for Aurisht), his name on her hand ,'har jagah pati babu dikhta hai'..writing pages with their name together, her shyness on telling KSJ pati babu gifted watch .I got confused about this.It seems she got consumed by what induced on her and she started living it .Kids do learn from surrounding and exposure. Remember how in mind she recreated Mano Jayadeep scene .But she became hysteric after Ani's epic revelation and denial mode.
Yes her crushing was not based on attraction (unlike Ani's) , it is on the concept of she being rightful in the frame work of marriage. But I am not sure if the feelings were all an illusion although she still is unaware of actual romantic feeling. She only asked Ani whether his marriage was fixed with Mini, not actually whether you loved her. So only I was telling , I was confused of what more Bon can perceive , if Ani feeling for Mano get revealed too. For her its all in the framework of marriage.
@bold 2
Yes Bondita wanted to reciprocate now that the people around constantly says how much pati babu loves her , which is a new experience to her. So she made luchis and fed him etc as per the advice of her friends.There is a flip side to it as well.Bon told Sampoorna how they are caring and considerate for each other as pati-patni. and is that not enough .But what she induced on her thoughts of the missing dots in marriage and the whole SR fiasco, made her wanting their marriage to be like others. Doing and feeling the things the other married girls of her age do, which she got exposed to after moving out of RC mansion
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