Just to clarify our take on the new posts that keeps creeping up - Page 4

Originally posted by: nim_var

MB & Pam, there was this movie 'to sir with love'. did you ever watch it? They show an actual romance between a rich dude and his housekeeper, their journey was beautiful to watch. stuff happens and when people connect emotionally and mentally first, that is something unique and rare, which is the case with Imlie and Adilie.

Nice post Pam.

I have not watched it. Will look for it and give it a try if time permits.

Originally posted by: Guiltyo0o

I am totally with you about Millani, that is why I still have this soft edge for here

But also I disagree about Imlie side of your post, she is his first wife and now he had accept this

And yes Adi done wrong, but what the poor man could do, this is his first time loving someone who also being his wife! So he suppose to keep her in the dark or left her just to entertain princess Millani?!

And what about the unjustice that been done to Imlie by her father abd her husband?!

They all deserve to be happy and overcome all this mess, one problem at a time!

I think the person who has suffered the most is imlie..kahan she was dreaming to be a officer and was so happy with scholarship and kahan she landed up at trpathi house with no support system and Aditya treating her like a doormat. Now situation is changing but i am hoping against hope that when they are caught..imlie is not made out to be the wrong person.

Not only Malini does we have to put ourselves in Nagins , dayans , vampires werewolves , cheels etc places also😆. Those shows are also very popular these day 😂

Originally posted by: MuteButton

I have tried being courteous previously - if you want to continue demeaning people who work in homes, please take your thought process to your posts. We do not intend to circle drains here.

Ignore because looking at the comments, its clear that the defense is without seeing the show and only by reading updates and half baked understanding. 😆The way it was portrayed as if "ghor anay" kiya forum wasiyon ne inke saath... ab show dekhe bina thread banayenge to retaliation hi milega. 🤣

Originally posted by: Guiltyo0o

I am totally with you about Millani, that is why I still have this soft edge for here

But also I disagree about Imlie side of your post, she is his first wife and now he had accept this

And yes Adi done wrong, but what the poor man could do, this is his first time loving someone who also being his wife! So he suppose to keep her in the dark or left her just to entertain princess Millani?!

And what about the unjustice that been done to Imlie by her father abd her husband?!

They all deserve to be happy and overcome all this mess, one problem at a time!

Why is aditya a poor man here? Sorry I don't sympathize with Aditya one bit, might be his first time falling in love but not his first time being human na, he is not so dumb to understand the circumstance. If imlie has this dizzy first time love wala headiness, understandable she is 18 (practically a kid in my pov), aditya is a grown man, not some bacha to not understand how his decisions could impact someone.

I am not saying he should entertain Malini, but he need not be so thoughtless, he can sit for a while and put some ghaas to his brain to think consequences of his next actions are going to be. He is acting like a teenager than a grown man. And like I mentioned, it's always about his damn feelings. Does drama about hurting others but doesn't put thought into his words. Actions speak 100 times more than words and currently, all his actions are making malini crazy. All he had to do is act like a mature person, and have a confrontation with malini. The writers could bring in this arc well. But they chose to make aditya this way.

ETA : Honestly I was just a silent reader, but what was honestly baffling was the constant villanizing of malini. The hullaboo about her asking imlie to knock the door and showing her true colors didn't go down well for me. It's the same in the Original post, malini is a doormat, so she deserves what's coming her way..that is honestly very sad.

Originally posted by: pamk06

Ignore because looking at the comments, its clear that the defense is without seeing the show and only by reading updates and half baked understanding. 😆The way it was portrayed as if "ghor anay" kiya forum wasiyon ne inke saath... ab show dekhe bina thread banayenge to retaliation hi milega. 🤣

Ok so wat is full baked understanding ... Justify the ott romance isn't it. I do watch the show and can give the retaliation in civil words . I am not looking for approval from you to make posts as this a free forum and we may post according to our wish. I don't get affected by sarcasm and sly digs as it is childish to gang up and bash someone of differing views.

Originally posted by: Peanutbolt

Why is aditya a poor man here? Sorry I don't sympathize with Aditya one bit, might be his first time falling in love but not his first time being human na, he is not so dumb to understand the circumstance. If imlie has this dizzy first time love wala headiness, understandable she is 18 (practically a kid in my pov), aditya is a grown man, not some bacha to not understand how his decisions could impact someone.

I am not saying he should entertain Malini, but he need not be so thoughtless, he can sit for a while and put some ghaas to his brain to think consequences of his next actions are going to be. He is acting like a teenager than a grown man. And like I mentioned, it's always about his damn feelings. Does drama about hurting others but doesn't put thought into his words. Actions speak 100 times more than words and currently, all his actions are making malini crazy. All he had to do is act like a mature person, and have a confrontation with malini. The writers could bring in this arc well. But they chose to make aditya this way.

ETA : Honestly I was just a silent reader, but what was honestly baffling was the constant villanizing of malini. The hullaboo about her asking imlie to knock the door and showing her true colors didn't go down well for me. It's the same in the Original post, malini is a doormat, so she deserves what's coming her way..that is honestly very sad.

Again I am with you at Millani side of story!

I voice up my sympathy to Millani due the nock door thing too !

But if you watch the show the car scene he clarify his stand very honest and clear to Imlie!

He is still afraid on Millani health and the impact of the truth for her she fainted about the force marriage , she went on hunger strike for him leaving for 4 days, so what she will do if he told her Imlie is my first wife I love her and we have to break up now?!

She guilt trip him every time, ignore any clue, dismiss any memory related to it! So she is not helping him or herself to just have a closure!

Originally posted by: Peanutbolt

Not every woman is like imlie and not every woman is malini..the circumstances both grew and the kind of familial relationships both had are very different.

The way I see it, malini knows deep down, how her relationship with aditya is spiraling down, she was/is in constant denial about her relationship dynamics with Aditya and is holding on to a thread to save her relationship which she thinks in her mind still exists. She doesn't want to give in to her mother's insecurities about her relationship nor she doesn't somewhere subconsciously turn into her. like I said she's barely holding onto it and wants to turn blind-eye on things that would otherwise be questioned by anyone else.

Also being in malini's place right now is crazy, the woman is seeing all signs of breakages in her relationships, doesn't want to acknowledge it, wants reassurance from Aditya, and battling a hell of turmoil between her feelings of doubt and guilt for doubting and what does Aditya do? Go rush to pacify imlie and say how she is the one in his life/his first biwi/put sindhoor from malini's/cook for her/play with her not giving two hoots about how Malini could perceive it and the kind of turmoil is putting her through and does this drama of not hurting mun which is frankly grating and thoughtless..

Did you see her smiling yesterday? Did she look like a women in turmoil or worried about her relationship, or barely holding on to it? She looked pretty happy to me tasting kadhi chawal as if everything is perfect in her world. There was not even one sign of discomfort or worry on her face indicating that she had just caught her husband taking pictures of a woman who is making her question her own relationship since past few days. And no, please do not justify that she was doing it for the family because we all know she has no qualms making tamesha in front of the family.

I am not expecting her to be Jhansi ki rani or bold. I just want her to act like a professor she is, a normal women fighting for her marriage questioning Aditya about the lie, his four missing days, and the photos yesterday. Turning a blind eye to things is what she is doing then why blame Aditya for not telling the truth because apparently she does not want or is not ready to face the truth herself. Lets put the blame where it is due. Totally not saying that Aditya is not at fault but she is also not "doodh ki dooli" as the claim is going.

Originally posted by: MuteButton

I am done man. Ghoom phir ke naukrani pe aa jate hain log. What is with demeaning a profession. People who clean others homes and toilets are people too. People doing a job to feed their family. Basic humanity naam ki cheez hi nahin rahi duniya mein.

And what is with co-relating everything to real life where you hypothetically want to envision your own husband with the maid. Yeh kya hai fetish?

I said this in another post yesterday. If Malini does not have an agency of her own, how in God’s name is that Imlie’s fault? People have zero sense about what being a woman is, let alone a modern woman.

Thread ka mahoul bigaad diya 🤬

Word on the bold...People keep saying imagine this and imagine that... Agar imagine hi karna to show kyun dekhte, imagine he karte rehange 😆

Exactly, blame the person but blame him for the crimes that he has committed. If Malini is not ready to face the truth or hear the truth, is it Aditya or Imlie ki kya galati? Isn't she and her fragileness the only reason why Aditya is hesitating to tell the truth. Warna yeh to ghodi pe tayaar hain sach bolne ke liye 😆

Show dekhenge to pata chalega bas aa jaate hain pravachan karne ki "Aditya should tell the truth"... jaise women ki to koi responsibility hi nahin hain relationship mein. Apparently, she is turning a blind eye to save a relationship, I guess that is the new way to do it. You are thinking that your man is cheating on you but you do nothing and just wait for him to come back... Aisi realtionship mein rehke bhi kya faayda where whole time you are only going to do shak and doubt but well I guess "Forgive and forget" is the new motto for saving relationship. 😆

Originally posted by: pamk06

Did you see her smiling yesterday? Did she look like a women in turmoil or worried about her relationship, or barely holding on to it? She looked pretty happy to me tasting kadhi chawal as if everything is perfect in her world. There was no even one sign of discomfort or worry on her face indicating that she had just caught her husband taking pictures about a person who is making her question her own relationship. And no please do not justify that she was doing it for the family because we all know she has no qualms making tamesha in front of the family.

I am not expecting her to be Jhansi ki rani or bold. I just want her to act like a professor she is, a normal women fighting for her marriage question Aditya about the lie, his four missing days, and the photos yesterday. Turning a blind eye to things is what she is doing then why blame Aditya for not telling the truth because apparently she does not want or is not ready to face the truth herself. Let put the blame where it is due and totally not saying that Aditya is not at fault.

Didn't her initial monologue at the start of the episode about how she wants to solve her issues with Aditya, her reasoning of how their love is bigger than the issues, her questioning aditya about not calling her, her reasoning about taking suggestions from everyone and her frustration about him not talking to her, then her reactions to the photo pretty much said all that....she wants to deny it by thinking she is overreacting. To me, it felt like she is battling her constant doubts vs her belief in what she and aditya share is making her want to not confront the issue though she knows deep down.

Also, how does her being a professor translate to her being courageous enough to confront something that will make her life fall apart. She can be a CEO but she might want to be in denial about what's going on unless the truth is shoved in her face. How is she to be blamed here when she is the one who is wronged ? that bechari knows something is messed up doesn't know what it is and doesn't have the courage to confront it. How is she at fault here ? matlab koi kuch bhi kare unless you stand up to it, you deserve the emotional trauma is it ? The way I see it, Aditya is the only one to blame for all this mess. Not malini nor imlie (Soon she'll be added to the list if she continues her mahanta jhaap). Malini is the victim here, she might not want to face the truth, but it is Aditya's responsibility to tell the truth.

ETA: Also tomorrow after shoving the truth to her face, malini may lose her stability and might completely want to deny and think something's wrong with her/beg aditya to stay...even then it doesn't mean she deserves what's aditya done to her. Not everyone is your Jane Austin's heroine with all the pride and self-sufficiency. Not even if they are completely educated holding top positions.

ETA2: Also just to draw a parallel to all the outrage going on here about Imlie being called as maid...malini ka tho har roz naam karan ho ta hai na, people called her chudail etc in some posts today.