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Originally posted by: Lodestar

@AY @nadaan

I think the main issue why Malini does not communicate her thoughts out loud is that she doesn't want to be seen as imperfect in anything. She wants to present the persona of being the perfect daughter, gf, now wife, DIL. That is why she doesn't like to voice out any negative thoughts to anyone. Her lack of transparency is not just restricted to Adi but also her parents & now in laws as well.

Otherwise what is the harm in talking about her own insecurity & fears with anyone. She wants to show herself to be the perfect one in all her relationships. If there is any problem or disagreement in any relationship then it is the fault of the other party because main toh sabse acchi hu. This also complements her attention seeking tendencies where she tries to be the center of attention in matters that are not even related to her.

Malini's main problem is her jhoota pretention. Because if she starts communicating her doubts & fears , she will not remain the perfect one. So she tends to turn blind eye to major things which would raise doubts in even a normal secure person but gets fixated on smaller issues & reacts to them in a manner befitting the major issues.

Ofcourse that is one of thr basic issue too.. she is too afraid to be imperfect in anyway..iF only she knew ke those choti choti imperfections add to one's overall value and makes them stand apart warna factory made perfect ka kya faayda.. life is a learning experience afterall kabhi galti karke seekho ge tabhi toh nikroge "kundan" banoge in aparna's words..

If she will admit and communicate and talk to everyone around her it will only make everyone see her better understand her better but nope she is happy being in her delusional I I perfect bubble and sirf main achi hikn which again is something we have discussed in past threads so many times.. she wants to be center of attraction at all times and just cannot see anyone else take that spot for a little while too.. her mother has turned her into this hollow she'll go a person ke sirf baahar ki prim and properness matters look shiny iske aage no need to introspect and better yourself as a human caz meri beti is perfect and kabhi galat nahi hai galti har dusre insaan ki hai in every matter and while i understand that as a maa ka pyaar at some levels and protectiveness but then a good maa is only which can teach their kids their flaws and how to fix them.too.. along with pampering she nurtures them too .. sure keep saying my kid is the best which majority of the moms do out there but also make the kids understand in ways that are comprehensive to them ke kahan woh galat hain and they need to fix themselves and behavior.. just pointing out their galtiyaan won't make them bad so yeah malini is a result if a lot of things ranging from bad parenting, complexes, insecurities and delusions.. 😆

The circle has turned once fully, AdiLie marriae has come full circle now. What started off in PD, was resolved to an extent in PD.

For Aditya, it was denial, realization, acceptance and letting go. That is what this trip to PD was all about.

Denial phase : From the marriage he was in denial, as his choice or marzi was taken away from him, he was tied to a girl from the village. He did connect with her during the stay but not explored beyond the initial connect. Then came the stay at Dilli, Imlie who accompanied him, was a reminder of his helplessness and lack of choice. She snuck her way into the hearts of the T's by her actions and selflessness. Adi refused to let go of his anger and used to scold Imlie at every opportunity.

Realization phase: The 2nd visit to PD, was to drop her off and to end things, as he was in Moon worship. All the rituals that he underwent again with Imlie, cementing their rishta, served to irritate and annoy him, until the outburst by Imlie on SR night, when she laid it out for him. His reluctance to leave her behind at the school, thinking of her happiness, forcing himself to leave, only to be drawn back on hearing she had been shot. Then the slow seepage of Imlie's color into his very being began, was afraid to admit to himself, hiding behind a wall of reserve n anger though it was greatly reduced. What tied him to her was the NDE they had, the single overriding thought to save the other from harm, the only thought that mattered. Nothing else.

Acceptance Phase: Why the restlessness when she gave him his freedom, like his mind wanted all along from day 1 of their marriage. His suffocation at home, feeling her absence like a cloud, unable to function without her sunny presence, drove him to PD for yet another viist, his 3rd. His relief on running into her was palpable and his heart dictated every action of his from thereon. He was in a daze, following her to her house, inspiring her to take the exam, encouraging her. Adi truly built a relationship with Mithi and Imlie's family, forging a bond with people who mattered to Imlie, respecting and honoring them. It was like how Imlie built a connect with his family, he did the same at PD this time of his marzi. His choice. He also came looking for answers, that he found with every minute that he spend with Imlie and her family, disovering and appreciating new facets of her goodness/personality. The biggest truth was his acceptance that she matters to him very much, his every breath relies on her presence, she is his sunshine, the beacon that lights up his very life and existence. The 2nd big revelation of Dev being her father, the pain that she would experience knowing it was BuraDaku, gave him pause, putting her first.

Letting go Phase: If one truly loves someone, then you would set that person free, not tie them down. He has been alternately pleading and demanding that Imlie return with him back home, when he himself did not know all the answers. He just knew he needed her presence and every thought flew away, due to the intensity of his emotions. After the Dev realization, when Imlie said it was about her identity, her self respect, that sank into his mind deeply. Her Happiness matters and that was of paramount importance to him. His gradual realization and acceptance that he does not have anything to offer her at this moment as he has to handle some relations back at Dilli, forced him to step back on insisting that she accompany him back. His confession of love and then holding back as he cannot continue to give her anything more but hosla, faith in her, faith in her SM, finally lets go. To face his demons back home, it is a difficult road paved with thorns, that he has to traverse if he is to give his name and honor Imlie as his wife legally.

Loved the journey of Adilie so far and the good writing. Hope this continues and looking forward to the next tracks, when his jhalli will join him at the T's while she pursues her dreams, with his hand guiding and protecting her always.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Yes, even I wonder about that. Are Adi-Malini even good friends to begin with? Even friends manage to communicate more than these two are being able to.

So yeah, it does seem like they didn’t even really manage to establish deep friendship....it was a crush that became a habit for both of them and they kept it going out of convenience.

If you go back and watch old episodes now, it feels even more obvious how much Adi had mostly treated Malini like an obligation. It’s only recently they showed him trying to romance her with big love declarations, but his actual actions never matched his big words. And Malini never bothered wondering why that was.

Now Adi will feel the weight of his big declarations to Malini. lol both Imlie and Malini will likely take turns reminding him what all be said and promised to Malini 😆

@ Guilty @ AY

I agree that Adi & Malini were never even friends. Otherwise there wouldn't be so much disconnect between them. Their relationship most of the time doesn't even have a basic friends wali care & this is from both the sides.

It was just a convenient relationship for Adi- he gets the freedom to prioritize his career & a beautiful gf. Adi has always been a lone island- he is a loner who likes to be lonely. He was not waiting for someone special. So yes he thought when there are no issues then why not continue. He would have easily agreed to break up if that was what Malini wanted. Now after 7 years of this casual dating, the obvious next step was to get married.

I fail to see the draw for Malini in maintaining her relationship with Adi frankly. Yes he is an attractive & nice guy but he really does not fit the ideal that Malini wants for herself. I mean Malini is a pretty, educated, professional woman with an affluent background. I am sure she wouldn't have had any issues in getting the suitors who would match her ideal man. Malini wants all the romantic gestures, ji huzoori, possessiveness in her partner which she always knew Adi was not capable of. I mean Adi has always prioritized his work over her. How she thought that this kind of guy would turn into her ideal partner is mind boggling.

All the farmabardari that has been shown by Adi post marriage is mostly because of his guilt regarding hiding his marriage with Imlie. If he did not have the burden of the guilt, I bet you he would not have jheloed her demands the way that he did & would have disagreed with her constantly.

I don't know if what I am thinking has any logic but I think the main reason why Malini stuck with her relationship with Adi was some kind of twisted rebellion against her mother. She has been trying to prove that she is not the insecure, argumentative, elitist person like her mother. Her mother was raising valid points against Adi pre- marriage but Malini just refused to listen. That is why she glosses over any imperfections in her relationship with Adi & will try to cling harder to the relationship because she doesn't want to acknowledge that her mother was right all along in thinking that Adi & Malini were incompatible as partners.

Originally posted by: G6hu

we r not using any harsh words or criticizing anybody...we r all enjoying naa......i think i started reading ur thread for one month....till now its going actively with many replies and posts.....am enjoying it.......i didnt find any wrong in anyones replies...infact all r happy...as long as we repliy eachother friendly and happily no pblm will occur...its my opinion

she is not saying that she has a problem with discussions that are happening for the episode that’s already happened or make predication based on that. Her point is that if we want to chat and share stories based on SM and IG stories, then either use the chat thread or the AT thread or the thread dedicated for that.

Its really becomes difficult for us to find the discussion post for the topic for which this thread is opened and also when we want to look for IG stories or chat. By using different thread for different purposes will makes things more organized for everyone involved. I think that is a fair ask as it will benefit all of us. It will also help new members to interact and introduce themselves based on the topic that they are interested in rather than all of us getting lost in one thread.

Originally posted by: jj0812

I don't watch a lot of Indian serials, I’m more Kdrama person. believe it or not, this is like first serial I’m watching after IPKND.I watched random Sony serials here and there but nothing like this🙈

Same here. I don't watch alot indian shows despite my screen name is luvdesitelly. lol. don't know why I pick that screen name. I'm little bail budhhi like those two😂😂😂

After bidaai and Iss Pyaar ko Kya Naam doon, this is one of the few shows caught my eye. Don't know how it ended up on my youtube recommendation. Concept seems very regressive and old fashioned but the way story has been presented is commendable. Execution in every department is superb.

Overall i rather watch Gul's show than Ekta or Rashmi sharma's show.

Originally posted by: MuteButton

Complicated toh hai hi inn ka rishta. Destiny brought them together in the cruelest way possible.

Thing is, Aditya is so scared of going against her will that he will not do anything unless she explicitly asks for it. The first line she said during the SR clapback was - tell me one thing that happened because of my marzi. That has gotten ingrained in him so much ki he keeps asking her expecting her to say something in the affirmative. For Imlie, he has nullified the rishta so many times that even if he says something, it will not register immediately right now. This is the situation they are in currently. Yes, they talk without talking but at the same time feelings like theirs cannot be unspoken too.

I have a feeling ki clarity sirf Aditya ko nahin, even Imlie needs it to find their way to one another. Clarity that Malini is not happy. Clarity that they both are a part of the very identities they have been looking for all this while

Ofcourse she needs it too .. but her clarity is of different kind .. her internal struggle isn't ke who is the one for her.. isko pata hai woh.. iski clarity is of she genuinly thinks this is practical to hang onto it like this.. and yeah I give it to her faith and belief and that does take care of lack of practicality here caz it is so strong and persuasive that one can't question it with the way she puts that across .. it is still a bit more complicated than that.. isko yeh clarity haasil karni hai ke abki baar adi isn't just giving her words he is actually willing to go beyond.. and that she shouldn't be this selfless that is a learning she would have to learn at some point too maybe ke har maamle main itna nahi backstop kar lete.. though it is one of the qualities that make her IMLIE make her so endearing and loveable to.us and makes her stand out point is kahin toh line draw karni padti hi hai.. she needs to be absolutly sure ke malini didi ke saath nainsaafi nahi hui she has no hand in what is happening to her it is her own faults that are making her relationship fall apart and not imlie.. she needs to be cleared of the guilt.. she did not come on between whatsoever

Originally posted by: nim_var

Letting go Phase: If one truly loves someone, then you would set that person free, not tie them down. He has been alternately pleading and demanding that Imlie return with him back home, when he himself did not know all the answers. He just knew he needed her presence and every thought flew away, due to the intensity of his emotions. After the Dev realization, when Imlie said it was about her identity, her self respect, that sank into his mind deeply. Her Happiness matters and that was of paramount importance to him. His gradual realization and acceptance that he does not have anything to offer her at this moment as he has to handle some relations back at Dilli, forced him to step back on insisting that she accompany him back. His confession of love and then holding back as he cannot continue to give her anything more but hosla, faith in her, faith in her SM, finally lets go. To face his demons back home, it is a difficult road paved with thorns, that he has to traverse if he is to give his name and honor Imlie as his wife legally.

Loved the journey of Adilie so far and the good writing. Hope this continues and looking forward to the next tracks, when his jhalli will join him at the T's while she pursues her dreams, with his hand guiding and protecting her always.

@letting go - word. They both did that. And that is the reason they will get back together as well. Their selflessness in that moment is what is going to drive their relationship.

I’m actually thinking this show cannot go wrong anymore. Too much bharosa all of a sudden 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Yes, even I wonder about that. Are Adi-Malini even good friends to begin with? Even friends manage to communicate more than these two are being able to.

So yeah, it does seem like they didn’t even really manage to establish deep friendship....it was a crush that became a habit for both of them and they kept it going out of convenience.

If you go back and watch old episodes now, it feels even more obvious how much Adi had mostly treated Malini like an obligation. It’s only recently they showed him trying to romance her with big love declarations, but his actual actions never matched his big words. And Malini never bothered wondering why that was.

Now Adi will feel the weight of his big declarations to Malini. lol both Imlie and Malini will likely take turns reminding him what all be said and promised to Malini 😆

And those big declarations also came out after a lot of forcing and demanding.. they never come out naturally.. if you see wih valentines day he forced so much of PDA caz she made faces ke mujhe nahi karta yeh sab show while he was smitten by imlie wearing his gift and that small moment had so much more of genuine appreciation and emotion then all the PDA combined.. then the 2nd big time it was was movie date again she made him feel guilty ke isne bheja tha isse and he never does grand gestures all she wanted was a movie so he went extra try hard and then all her hum toot jaayenge alag hi jaayenge marr jaate kind of extra sentences made him say big big words to calm her down ke you ate my only love yada yada yada all very much peecha chudhana times ok whatever I love you now back off way main even of he tried real hard to make them sound of so profound and full of meaning lol it never came across as genuine.. the guy who gets so unhinged the moment imlie mentions ke ghar jaao that's it was like ok whatever marr jaati toh kya lol 😆😄 and supposedly his wife and love haha that that the difference

Even with friends one is far more fierce and protective and opens up..they don't have to be super serious but have that ease that comes with opening up with friends wih barrier toh break hona chahiye na ke ab hum formality se dosti zone main hain and can say what we want to our friends and they will understand wohi nahi hai inke relationship main kabhi nahi tha

while with Imle regardless of how the internal relationship is dare any baharwalaa say a thing .... he becomes a bina lagaam ke aadmi then that is how much that bonding and relationship matters..

Originally posted by: MuteButton

@letting go - word. They both did that. And that is the reason they will get back together as well. Their selflessness in that moment is what is going to drive their relationship.

I’m actually thinking this show cannot go wrong anymore. Too much bharosa all of a sudden 😆

Control Behan Control🤣 itni umeedein Matt lagao ke tai tai phiss ho jaaye. This is ITV aftetall and everything changes in a blink.. 😆 just giving a reality check to save you future heartbreak 💔😆 adjust kar lo expectation. Bharosa ek baat hai and andhvishwaas ek😆

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

Ofcourse she needs it too .. but her clarity is of different kind .. her internal struggle isn't ke who is the one for her.. isko pata hai woh.. iski clarity is of she genuinly thinks this is practical to hang onto it like this.. and yeah I give it to her faith and belief and that does take care of lack of practicality here caz it is so strong and persuasive that one can't question it with the way she puts that across .. it is still a bit more complicated than that.. isko yeh clarity haasil karni hai ke abki baar adi isn't just giving her words he is actually willing to go beyond.. and that she shouldn't be this selfless that is a learning she would have to learn at some point too maybe ke har maamle main itna nahi backstop kar lete.. though it is one of the qualities that make her IMLIE make her so endearing and loveable to.us and makes her stand out point is kahin toh line draw karni padti hi hai.. she needs to be absolutly sure ke malini didi ke saath nainsaafi nahi hui she has no hand in what is happening to her it is her own faults that are making her relationship fall apart and not imlie.. she needs to be cleared of the guilt.. she did not come on between whatsoever

@bold - exactly and that is another reason she needs to come back to the Ts. Imlie will not only witness Aditya’s loyalty to her and their relationship (or faith if you may) but she will also see why Malini and Aditya are unsuited. She may do her jaap but at the same time woh itni naive bhi nahin hai ki she does not see intentions behind actions when they are not straight. Woh baat alag hai ki she tends to ignore them for the greater good.