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Originally posted by: G6hu

is there any pblm if chat occurs....u can stop writing na.....if u stop writing also nothing will change....nobody will complain that u didnt made a thread,doesnt needed u to take this much effort and write a long essay....u can just cut short and say it in one paragraph..just its summary is enough....afterall evrybody is seeing the episode......if people like ur thread then u should be happy and if they chat in that thread wat will u lose....since they r used to reading ur writings they wait for ur thread and why people chat because each one has different opinion and its also funny to read eachones post....am enjoying reading evryones opinion including u...or did u get any headweight after knowing that evryone is waiting for and praising ur essay thats why u r saying this.....

Maybe 1 month newbies/groupies should familiarize themselves with IF COC and rules before giving gyaans to IF veterans... and stick to the rules..

Once AGAIN never knew We really needed Badges for that purpose.. and yeah we haven't earned that just by spamming all day long..

Some of us here really do like to discuss the show and nuances in detail without disruptions and value this thread for providing us that.. If you gotta do CC plz go and do it in the chit chat section ...

Originally posted by: G6hu

we r not using any harsh words or criticizing anybody...we r all enjoying naa......i think i started reading ur thread for one month....till now its going actively with many replies and posts.....am enjoying it.......i didnt find any wrong in anyones replies...infact all r happy...as long as we repliy eachother friendly and happily no pblm will occur...its my opinion

Well aapki opinions pe IF nahi chalta.. nobody is saying someone used bad words.. the rules are in place to follow them so healthy discussions can happen without distractions.. again the very purpose of this forum.is to have discussion otherwise 140 words Twitter hota yahan bhi... and why this isn't a social media platform.. aapko value nahi hai then not our problem.. just stick to the basic rules and maybe read the rules posted by the mods of this forum just yesterday.. they clearly mentioned one word/one line posts aren't allowed as it considers under spamming and trying to inc post counts so next time plz stick to them

Nobody likes to discipline everybody here sitting all day but rules are for a reason

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/imlie/5216932/rules-final-warning-updated-on-24-09-2021

Originally posted by: Lodestar

I don't understand Malini at all. Why is she over acting to this extent? She is on a hunger strike because Adi abhi tak aaya nahi. This is hadd level ki bachkani harkat😕

Mujhe toh abhi tak ye hi samajh nahi aaya tha ki woh Adi ke kaam ki wajah se bahar jaane par itna gussa kyu hui We know that Adi has lied to her but at that moment she didn't know that. So why did she make a big issue out of it.

This is not the first time that Adi has left for work & remained out of touch. We were introduced to Malini being aware of the nature of his job in the 1st epi itself. Adi had also cautioned her then that is how life will be for her if she marries him. That time she assured him that she has no problem with it. I mean before marriage itself due to his work Adi was not present for fixing their rishta, he went to cover a story on his engagement.

So what was new in what Adi was informing to her this time. Just that he showed his anger to her before leaving which even she knew was not because of her but because he was having some turmoil. I mean the man just got kidnapped & beaten. She should have given him some space to calm down. Why did she make such a big issue out of it in front of the family? Throwing tantrums & obsessively worrying the family. She even left his home which was a big over reaction. And now she is on bhuk hartal......ye prove kya karna chahati hai ye sab karke?🥱

Being angry because he lied is one thing but deliberately harming yourself to guilt Adi & show herself as some kind of bechari is too much. I hope Adi tries to make her understand her mistake as well & does not just grovel to satisfy her ego. Even if there would have been no Imlie in Adi's life, his work would definitely have created such circumstances many times.

So she just needs to grow up & deal with it. If she can't deal with it, then she should also clearly communicate her problem with Adi & Tripathis so that they can come up with a solution together. She can't just throw an absurd level of tantrum each time Adi has to go outdoors due to his work & cannot disclose details for confidentiality & safety reasons. I hope even the Tripathis make her understand this point. Adi was not the only one in the wrong in creating this problem.

Malini’s problem for a long time has been her inability to honestly communicate with Adi. She claims there was great understanding between them for a long time but she still lacked the guts to honestly share her fears with him, rather doing vague off the cuff statements about how he will find someone else, how he is going away from her etc. She spent more time fretting about imaginary fears than trying to address actual ones.

Her issue right now is that she can sense distance growing between them but she still isn’t being able to communicate her fears and suspicions to him honestly. She knows he lied to her but rather than explaining what she is fearing he’s lying about - a possible affair, she’s just doing the usual gol gol baatein asking him for assurances.

This is why they will continue to keep growing apart and Malini won’t be able to understand why....ultimately she will look for a scapegoat and it will likely be Imlie.

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

Well aapki opinions pe IF nahi chalta.. nobody is saying someone used bad words.. the rules are in place to.folloe them so healthy discussions can happen without distractions.. again the very purpose of this forum.is to have discussion otherwise 140 words Twitter hota yahan bhi... precisely the reason of this forum is to.encourage discussion and why this isn't a social media platform.. aapko value nahi hai then not our problem.. just stick to the basic rules and maybe read the rules posted by the mods of this forum just yesterday.. they clearly mentioned one line /one line posts aren't allowed as it considers under spamming and trying to inc post counts so next time plz stick to them

Nobody likes to be discipline here sitting all day but rules are for.a reason

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/imlie/5216932/rules-final-warning-updated-on-24-09-2021

Originally posted by: Guiltyo0o

I loved all your reviews!

The episode was 🥺+😍 in the same time!

I will not go over it again

But there is an idea just now hit me! 😂

I just now realized, Adoon was never even a friendship!

It was a crush, Aditya saw a pretty, intelligent kind women that he share with her a surface of values and taste!

And Millani got the same vibes, so they dated, but they never scratch the surface! They never go deep in their relation and upgrade it to a friendship in the 7 years of dateing!

Being a friend it mean knowing the inside you, your weirdest thoughts, having big fights and resolving it, having peace with the short-come of each other, having a detailed convo in every thing, if you get busy for a long time, once you met it all get disappear like it never happens, the time is just a more bonding factor for your relation!

So in that 7 years, they didn't manage to bond, they didn't manage to disagree and solve a disagreement!

It was only crush, which coz Aditya is a loner, he didn't have the time to make friendships, and experience a different kind of relations (we didn't see any friend to him , only nishant which is a relative! ), and Milani just get depending on this relation, and they get to used on each other, and name it as love!

While they always used ( trust ) to defined their love relation, there was no trust from Milani side! Even before Aditya first trip to BG!

She always sense they are missing something in their relation, and seek Aditya for reassurance that (every thing is ok, I love you, I will never leave you)

She told him that she afraid that he will fall in love with another girl in their last date before PG trip!

Imlie was never in the picture back then, Aditya was all hers, nothing was change! If you have a trust how could you think like that after a 7 years relation, and you just going to be engaged in a few days!

So they already show us that they are not compatible, their is no trust, Adi was never romantic before BG, but they gloss Adoon by choosing the same shoes, and ending each other sentence!

So now I really don't agree with anyone will say that Imlie get between them.

It is just Mallini refusing to let Aditya go and settle with whatever Adi gives her!

And that what will keep happening , she will not let him go that easy!

Yes, even I wonder about that. Are Adi-Malini even good friends to begin with? Even friends manage to communicate more than these two are being able to.

So yeah, it does seem like they didn’t even really manage to establish deep friendship....it was a crush that became a habit for both of them and they kept it going out of convenience.

If you go back and watch old episodes now, it feels even more obvious how much Adi had mostly treated Malini like an obligation. It’s only recently they showed him trying to romance her with big love declarations, but his actual actions never matched his big words. And Malini never bothered wondering why that was.

Now Adi will feel the weight of his big declarations to Malini. lol both Imlie and Malini will likely take turns reminding him what all be said and promised to Malini 😆

Originally posted by: Lodestar

I don't understand Malini at all. Why is she over acting to this extent? She is on a hunger strike because Adi abhi tak aaya nahi. This is hadd level ki bachkani harkat😕

Mujhe toh abhi tak ye hi samajh nahi aaya tha ki woh Adi ke kaam ki wajah se bahar jaane par itna gussa kyu hui We know that Adi has lied to her but at that moment she didn't know that. So why did she make a big issue out of it.

This is not the first time that Adi has left for work & remained out of touch. We were introduced to Malini being aware of the nature of his job in the 1st epi itself. Adi had also cautioned her then that is how life will be for her if she marries him. That time she assured him that she has no problem with it. I mean before marriage itself due to his work Adi was not present for fixing their rishta, he went to cover a story on his engagement.

So what was new in what Adi was informing to her this time. Just that he showed his anger to her before leaving which even she knew was not because of her but because he was having some turmoil. I mean the man just got kidnapped & beaten. She should have given him some space to calm down. Why did she make such a big issue out of it in front of the family? Throwing tantrums & obsessively worrying the family. She even left his home which was a big over reaction. And now she is on bhuk hartal......ye prove kya karna chahati hai ye sab karke?🥱

Being angry because he lied is one thing but deliberately harming yourself to guilt Adi & show herself as some kind of bechari is too much. I hope Adi tries to make her understand her mistake as well & does not just grovel to satisfy her ego. Even if there would have been no Imlie in Adi's life, his work would definitely have created such circumstances many times.

So she just needs to grow up & deal with it. If she can't deal with it, then she should also clearly communicate her problem with Adi & Tripathis so that they can come up with a solution together. She can't just throw an absurd level of tantrum each time Adi has to go outdoors due to his work & cannot disclose details for confidentiality & safety reasons. I hope even the Tripathis make her understand this point. Adi was not the only one in the wrong in creating this problem.

If Only malini had this much understanding and maturity to handle this well. Her problem to me seemed like her honeymoon got cancelled/pushed back again yeh alag baat hai ke adi ko pata bhi nahi tha uske baare main and dusra yeh ke she now has suspicion even though she keeps saying adi has never given her the mauka yet her mothers remarks have made a place in her head and heart and then on top of that her seeing adi saving imlie hasn't gone down well... she has suppressed it and dubaooed it on surface but deep down she is bothered and she wouldn't ask and clarify caz isko bura nahi banana ke poochne se main shakki dikhoongi. The so called bedaag trust she talked about was bedaag only how it in advertisements of surf excel and in reality one has to work harder to get the stain off.🤣 her main restlessness is coming out of her insecurity and her fear ke shayad adi isko dhoka de dia.. it is totally unreasonable behavior from her given his nature of work and how he operates even if be lied he could have had genuine reasons for it but the fact that she isn't even giving itna sa benefit of doubt caz the first time adi gave no hoots to her drama and told.her ke isse woh aake nipte ga and treated her like a normal human and not princess yeh seh nahi paayi... caz as you said otherwise he was behaving according to his usual patterns not at all unfamiliar to her.. not new either given he is the guy who ghosts his family very often for work and had kept secrets too.. all of that she is aware of...heck she was touting it to be cool thing when he left from engagement which was big Hello yeh kya tha but I guess tab isko cool banana tha and shak ka beej hadn't be sown

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Malini’s problem for a long time has been her inability to honestly communicate with Adi. She claims there was great understanding between them for a long time but she still lacked the guts to honestly share her fears with him, rather doing vague off the cuff statements about how he will find someone else, how he is going away from her etc. She spent more time fretting about imaginary fears than trying to address actual ones.

Her issue right now is that she can sense distance growing between them but she still isn’t being able to communicate her fears and suspicions to him honestly. She knows he lied to her but rather than explaining what she is fearing he’s lying about - a possible affair, she’s just doing the usual gol gol baatein asking him for assurances.

This is why they will continue to keep growing apart and Malini won’t be able to understand why....ultimately she will look for a scapegoat and it will likely be Imlie.

This.. she is too scared to solve the basic problem even if she feels they are growing apart what exactly is she doing on her end to not let it happen except she made it worse by taking the ghar chod ke jaana act without talking to him .. if someone actually values their relationship and wants to hold onto they would look for ways to solve their internal issues pehle given make pe nakhra karke chale nahi jaayenge that hardly solves anything except if he is actually Intentionally doing something * hypothetically * gives a easy excuse ke bhai kaam kyin kar a ispe you ran away kissable khatam

The woman has not even once on her end tried to understand Aditya the person his emotions his thinking his likes and dislikes he was always being treated as a commodity and I say that caz her definition of love and liking is ke yeah I like him caz we chose same things while shopping we never disagree.... which is easily interchangeable with anyone else..she was always content in this ke her partner shouldn't have his voice and opinion as such bas iski hamesha sunta.rahe which is why he was mostly resigned too that whatever caz they were non essential matters he was compromising all along that whatever no difference hum kya pehnein kya khayein choti choti baaton pe kya masle banane types whiel they were always there .. it is always when he places his thought choti si bhi.in any matter they end up arguing and fighting be it the moti roti and cake where she was rubbed in a very bad way by his simple cake nahi toh roti serve kar do a very very very common everyday comment with no ulterior motive.. because that was against her thought process ke cake and roti isn't same and he made the cake look like meh sorf ek maamooli khane keli cheez and quipped ke taste badle jaa sakte hain hardly makes a difference what we serve if both things are homemade.. it is when itna casually bhi adi disagrees I mean isko toh disagreement kehna bhi fair nahi hoga but yehi hai ke how dare him go against me this sis not what husband should be doing in her dictionary.it is putting her down caz yeh iski mummy ne isse sikhaya hai .. ke bas itne main value chali jaati hai which isn't true and that if she would budge on these.amall matters she will somehow become.middle class biwi too pati ki sunane wali which for me isn't a bad thing and malini pretends that way too ke isme kya burai hai but if you observe closely and we have discussed it so many times.before she does feel entitled and that she is superior to.tripathis it shows in her whole bonding to them and that wall she has around her out of her being from superior class.

@AY @nadaan

I think the main issue why Malini does not communicate her thoughts out loud is that she doesn't want to be seen as imperfect in anything. She wants to present the persona of being the perfect daughter, gf, now wife, DIL. That is why she doesn't like to voice out any negative thoughts to anyone. Her lack of transparency is not just restricted to Adi but also her parents & now in laws as well.

Otherwise what is the harm in talking about her own insecurity & fears with anyone. She wants to show herself to be the perfect one in all her relationships. If there is any problem or disagreement in any relationship then it is the fault of the other party because main toh sabse acchi hu. This also complements her attention seeking tendencies where she tries to be the center of attention in matters that are not even related to her.

Malini's main problem is her jhoota pretention. Because if she starts communicating her doubts & fears , she will not remain the perfect one. So she tends to turn blind eye to major things which would raise doubts in even a normal secure person but gets fixated on smaller issues & reacts to them in a manner befitting the major issues.

Originally posted by: naadanmasakalli

She wants to hear it jsut like anybody would but when he has the clarity that is if ever caz otherwise she will be Burdened with guilt too and that is not what she wants paap on her head .. i think she did say something along those lines in the roti scene today not the exact words though.. she doesn't want to be the hurdle in anyway ke isko bolke he won't be able to be didi's as he committed to her and her becoming the reason for it.. yeh alag baat hai ke iska hona na hona doesn't matter they were never meant to be and the Destiny will make way for adi to find his way to her..

SHe can live with a Rishta hai until however long it takes him to sort the mess that is if he ever does then Him admitting he has developed feelings caz Rishta hai still is along the matter of fact ke yes juda tha toh hai a reality something that happened before him promising malini lifetime of togetherness.... but admitting ke Ab isse pyar ho gaya hai would feel like him betraying her and imlie doesn't wanna be that person.. or wants him to be that person either so she pushes him back.. caz she can live with a Naazuk dor of haan tha rishta then be with He was emotionally attached to this extent even if they don't need words Anymore and have that understadning regardless ke they are so jude huye to each other.. ankahi kehna still gives them thoda sa leeway ke we are being truthful to ourselves and our beliefs..

Phew... I hope it makes sense... caz it is sounding too complicated to me..

Complicated toh hai hi inn ka rishta. Destiny brought them together in the cruelest way possible.

Thing is, Aditya is so scared of going against her will that he will not do anything unless she explicitly asks for it. The first line she said during the SR clapback was - tell me one thing that happened because of my marzi. That has gotten ingrained in him so much ki he keeps asking her expecting her to say something in the affirmative. For Imlie, he has nullified the rishta so many times that even if he says something, it will not register immediately right now. This is the situation they are in currently. Yes, they talk without talking but at the same time feelings like theirs cannot be unspoken too.

I have a feeling ki clarity sirf Aditya ko nahin, even Imlie needs it to find their way to one another. Clarity that Malini is not happy. Clarity that they both are a part of the very identities they have been looking for all this while

Aditya’s guilt about treating her like a servant is an albatross he is going to carry around for a very long time. It was a punch in the gut when she asked him if he would like her to come back as a servant. Words can cause so much indelible trauma and the irony is this man is a journalist who knows the weight of them. Imlie may in all probability come back thinking she has no other status in the Ts place but I doubt Aditya will let anyone treat her like one. That wretched look on his face when he asks her how she could bring that up now after everything - he probably understood then that the label mattered to her because he said it. Not anyone else.

Bhugatna toh padega ise abhi. Atonement is not so easy after all 😆