Originally posted by: MuteButton
Re:Illegality - he uses it so much as a shield that he fears looking at what it would mean if he stopped using the tag. And it gets used only with her. With everyone else he goes around chest thumping that she is his wife etc etc like you said. I do not doubt he even realizes for a second how significant his word choices were yesterday. Which is what I was referring to when they showed it in the precap. He said such heavy words, without batting an eyelid, like they were coming from the depths of his being. But Imlie will only take it as his herogiri. How can she construe it as anything else at all even for a moment? It will be something else if he stops questioning the legality of it all.
Re: collateral damage - forget the damage he has done in Delhi, the damage he has done in the past and currently doing in PD wrt Imlie is so distressing to view. It is stunning to watch an adult twice Imlie’s age being put through the grinder because of his sheer inability and refusal to read himself.
@bold: Exactly. He's done this so often in front of Imlie now that no one can blame her for thinking he's just trying to play the hero but doesn't really mean any of this stuff. As she rightly pointed out in that argument, a lot of this is stemming from his own need to assuage his guilt or shame.....and that isn't fair to her.
If he wants to apologize and atone, it should be from a place of genuinely trying to make amends to her.....not from just wanting to make himself feel better.
And again, it's fine if he isn't ready to face his own truth yet and realization is a ways away....but in the interim, he needs to realize why his words are beginning to lose meaning in these casual back and forth flips.....it's best he not even touch the subject if he doesn't know what he feels about how much of this marriage/relationship is his "absolute truth" now. Instead he makes it worse by making grand claims and then trying to show that he's doing it all as a favor to her.....lol yeah I know he's just using that as smokescreens but show him struggling with it a bit please....don't make it so casual at this stage.
Edited by AreYaar - 4 years ago