To accept or not to accept, that is the question!

Disclaimer : This post is my view on the current track and how it is being executed. I do not want this to be a thread for debating if Anirudh/Bondita is right or wrong. This is all about, whether we should ACCEPT such tracks or not ?

I was trying my best to give this track a second chance, but now it has crossed all limits. I am pained not just as a loyal viewer of the show, but also a girl and a human being! Again, I am not talking about Anirudh or Bondita here.. I am talking about what they are showing ?

What made me upset :

1) Anirudh's Love Confession scene

I have a major issue with the way they carried it out!

Till Tuesday I felt Anirudh's anger was not influenced by Manorama, and it was because of his concern for Bondita's future, but makers proved me wrong

Instead of showing that Anirudh's feeling for Manorama was simply attraction / infatuation, that scene seemed to make us 'sympathize' with him They portrayed it as a 'tragedy' in Anirudh's life that he is in REAL 'Love' with Manorama and now he has to choose between LOVE and RESPONSIBILITY

So they are clearly showing that a girl (Bondita) who has been there for him for so long, cares for him, loves him, respects him, confides in him, can do anything for him, is simply his RESPONSIBILITY They are showing that 'love' is what Ani feels for Manorama, that too in just 2 days ?This is simply degrading the meaning of love in the name of DRAMA

Now if he chooses Bondita over his so-called love, does he become Mahaan ???? Why ? What if his marriage was a normal ARRANGED MARRIAGE? Would he not have fallen for Manorama then ?

Now, if he had not married her as per his choice and did not want to be bound by this relationship, why did he not apply it on Bondita as well ? Why did he let her wear sindoor, saadiyaan, choodi , etc. and let her do all other things which a wife does for her husband? Because of society? Then where did this sense go now when he publicly declared that she is NOT HIS WIFE ? 😊

Love is all about acceptance! It is important to understand that even after being committed to your wife/girlfriend, you will still meet so many people in life and it is obvious to get attracted to someone's personality, but what makes you stay in the relationship is realizing the difference and not mistaking your feeling with love or demeaning the relation with your partner 👎🏼 If you are doing that, it is still cheating 👎🏼

I have a question - What if this was the other way round? What if Ani had always been loyal to Bondita, considered her his wife (platonic) and later on when Bon grew up, she met a man of her own age and fell in 'love' with him ? Would it be justified even then ? Would Bon be called mahaan in that case if she left the other guy for Anirudh ?

2) Bondita's character assassination

During this whole track, I felt they will show how wrong it is to get distracted at this age ... but yesterday, the way Bondita gave her monologue She is 12 for God's sake ! How is it even possible for her to understand what exactly these people are talking about when they say PATI ka RISHTA ? 😲 She is swearing to save her relationship at this tender age ?

This is what these so-called woman empowerment TV shows do not understand 👎🏼 They glorify a girl like Bondita, who simply cried at the humiliation she faced from her husband publicly and later swears to mend her relationship and fight for the love which he is simply not ready to give?

What difference is there between her and Mini ?👎🏼 Yes Bon was influenced by Kaka and society but what is the point of glorifying such scenes as they did in today's episode ? If they had to show that Bon is under wrong influence then there was no point hyping that scene with so much glory

They have made a 12 year old Bon into aa Nibbi ITV heroine who is there to snatch her Pati's love 👍🏼 Her pati is in love with another woman bechari does not even know that yet and trying to mend their relationship and make it deeper

This show instead of empowering woman has constantly degraded every women character, be it Mini, Sampoorna or Bondita ... This is highly unacceptable! I am not saying Bon should have simply left the house, but at least she should have had some self respect! does FL have only this job of crying and swearing to protect their marriage ?

3) Anirudh humiliating Bondita in Public 👎🏼: It is high time we stop supporting such tracks where Male Lead is allowed to humiliate Female Lead publicly in the name of DRAMA 🤢

We all are humans and we are flawed, I understand, but what makes a good person different from a bad person? - Our choices!

Yes, Bondita was behaving like a teenager and Ani is just 22. But the way he shouted at her in Tuesday's episode is not something which we expect from a man who respects other human beings 👎🏼

As humans, we all have a past troubling us all the time and when someone triggers it, we all get hyper.. but if all of us started loosing our self control and unleashing our wrath on our loved ones, then this whole world would become a mess!

ARC was always shown to be a man of solid principles, but what made him publicly shout and humiliate Bondita ? Who gave him that right ? Yes, he is a parental figure to her, But even a parent is careful not to humiliate their kids in public because it can have a huge impact on the kid's mind.

A person's true values come into light in these situation only and I am disappointed that Anirudh came out to be a hot head, loosing his mind and failing to understand that Bon was not at fault in all this ! And a person who would not think twice before mortifying his own 'Zimmedari' if he is angry 👎🏼 Sorry but I cannot support such a character in the show and for me ARC was never this guy!

About making mistakes and learning from them, haven't Anirudh made enough mistakes till now? How many times have they shown him asking for an apology for his actions?

In the end, this show is over for me after today's episode! I just wanted to jot down all the points somewhere 😆 Now I am relieved ! Sorry for the long read 🤣 I really don't care what they show in future anymore 😆

So the question is not about who is right and who is wrong, it's whether we should accept such tracks in a women empowerment show or not?

PS: Sorry if I reply late to your comments here... I read at kachhua speed ..😆

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The show which i supported from February last year has been brutally murdered before me..... 😭

Now after 1 year 1 month i feel cheated. I feel my attachment with Anirudh and bondita was taken advantage of by the makers.😔

ARC the ideal man every girl dreams of is long gone. He died, Now the ani we see is just a tharki lustful man. I have had enough of his ghatiyapanti. 🤬

Bondita, the ever curious, tark karne wali ladki has become totally gopi bahu🤢

Where is her tark.? Where is her brain? 🤓

A 12 year old gopi bahu isn't what i wanted to see in this show. 🤢

If i wanted to watch EMA, there are many shows which are based on that topic, i would watch that not BB. 🤔😳

I saw an itv show after 7 years and makers made sure i don't watch any in the next 17 years. 😵

And the show should be named

"nibba nibbi ki prem kahani "

Or

Kabhi patni kabhi zimmedari

or

" Kasauti of a child bride"

Or

Whatever, who cares.

And and, i am declaring bondita roy chowdhury se i have no relation anymore. That stupid clingy cringy nibbi isn't my daughter or anything.

I don't care 👍🏼

I am very disappointed to see them reduce Bondita to a roti-dhoti heroine who has no self-respect or strength by her self.

What was their intention? Showing a woman grow out of a patriarchal world and show everyone that she can be whatever she wants? Or show how a girl's life revolves around husband no matter what the husband says the woman has to work on her marriage.

They are showing Bondita working on a marriage where she does not understand what marriage is while her counter part is PRACTICALLY ABSENT in the relationship

I thought that this show would be different but I guess ITV gets high on showing such public humiliation of their FL

I cannot and neither should anyone else tolerate such BS 🤢

Amazing post Rimi👏

You have said everything that is going on in my head and heart and put it down so well👍🏼

They glorify a girl like Bondita, who simply cried at the humiliation she faced from her husband publicly and later swears to mend her relationship and fight for the love which he is simply not ready to give? What difference is there between her and Mini ? Yes Bon was influenced by Kaka and society but what is the point of glorifying such scenes as they did in today's episode ?

This is one thing I didn't realise. Yes, if they show Bondita fighting for Anirudh against his own wishes and feelings then what is the difference between her and Mini? Looking at it that way it would mean that even Mini was not entirely wrong. She was unfortunately denied the love and happiness that she had dreamt about and invested her time and heart in for 10 years or more. So why is Bondita right and Mini wrong? Just because she is his wife? A relationship he refuses to acknowledge? If she fights for their relationship against his own wishes, then THAT would be the real meaning of Sampoorna's words of Bondita choking all his happiness.

Rimi I was waiting for your post!!😳

I can completely relate to your emotions regarding the show!! The show has been so close to our hearts that we get affected deeply when such things happen.

You have listed down all the points very aptly👏

I am equally disspointed with potrayal of both Anirudh's and Bondita's charachter. I know that we cannot always get what we want in the show & I am ok with them exprimenting with storylines but such drastic changes in the beheviour of the Charachters with whom we r so attached is diappointing.

Yes , everyone has right to his or her indivisual feelings and but it is expected that such freedom should be given to all equally!!

Anirudhs concern for bondita is right but way of handling is very wrong..And somewhere down the line its his fault too.. Right from HM track he has always treated her as his wife and RC bahu.If the makers and Ani 's chrachter was so crystal clear about his thoughts regarding bondita , Why did they play RTM of Pyaar mera , dil mera........

My main point being , the problem is not about what they r showing, the problem is about the inconsistent actions of ARC.

Today he said that Bonditas mistake was that she took a wrong meaning of his Kartavya wali actions!! What is he even talking about.....

Was it his kartvya to dance at sampoorna's funtion on a couple song.

Was it his kartavya when he repeatedly reminded bon of how everything in the house was disturbed becoz she didnt value relations during sampoo track...

Was it his kartavya to repeatedly call her his wife even when there was no outsider to worry about

The only conclusion for his outburst are his feeling for manorama.But what is bons fault in that..& even his mind said the same thing!!

The way he explained Manorama at the end what his feeling are about bon, if he had done the same with bon, all the problems would have ended!!! All he said to bon or rather shouted at her was that she was a zimmedaari and not patni!! Why didnt he tell her why she could not be his patni ,... where was the most valid point of her being too young for it....He had done that bon would have understood and not rebelled.. like she is doing now.

He denied all the connection and bond he shared with her till date and named evrything as a bojh👏👏. He left her alone for people to influence her....First sampoo & then Kaka.

If he is really so concerned about her, he should have the guts to talk to her himself and explain her.

I can probably write more...but I am going to stop with last thought..That things have been wrong in the show from quite long..Its just that this was the final straw & for people to get detached from the show.

& to answer your question..

NO we should not Accept this.. Every fandom has a connection to the show and hence to show loyalty they support it even when they show wrong things!! This exact behaviour is the reason for cringy content in ITV shows. Its time that we break the chain👍🏼

When you plant seeds in the garden, you don't dig them up every day to see if they have sprouted yet. You simply water them and clear away the weeds - you know that the seed will grow in time. Similarly, just do your daily practice and cultivate. Abandon impatience and instead be content creating the causes for goodness; the results will come when they're ready.

Makers and channel are impatience for trp that's why they are ruining their own beautiful creation for few good numbers and these numbers never allowed a good show to grow and bloom among viewers.

RiMi and Munnu, I have chatted with you guys only for a few days but I have enjoyed it.

Aapka gussa ekdam jayaz hai! Till I saw the actual episode even I was upset. Dekhne ke baad I put down my points in the AT so phir nahi repeat karungi. But yes, if they forget Ani's behaviour at the party and let him get away with a slap on the wrist mujhe zyada hi gussa ayega.

But I still believe maker's haven't inherently butchered the characters so will wait and watch. I will keep posting my thoughts and I hope to have your opinions as well, even if you disagree! ❤️

Originally posted by: mnm13

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The show which i supported from February last year has been brutally murdered before me..... Now after 1 year 1 month i feel cheated. I feel my attachment with Anirudh and bondita was taken advantage of.

ARC the ideal man every girl dreams of is long gone. He died, Now the ani we see is just a tharki lustful man.

Don't come lecture me because i don't give a damn what you think. I have had enough of his ghatiyapanti.

And bondita, the ever curious, tark karne wali ladki has become totally gopi bahu.

Where is her tark.? Where is her brain?

A 12 year old gopi bahu isn't what i wanted to see in this show.

If i wanted to watch anupama or imlie, i would watch that not BB.

I saw an itv show after 7 years and makers made sure i don't watch any in the next 17 years.

And the show should be named

"nibba nibbi ki prem kahani "

Or

Kabhi patni kabhi zimmedari

or

" Kasauti of a child bride"

Or

Whatever, who cares.

Nb- don't need to QUOTE me to tell me i am wrong because i don't care what a blind ani fan thinks.

And and, i am declaring bondita roy chowdhury se i have no relation anymore. That stupid clingy cringy nibbi isn't my daughter or anything.

Munnu 👏

Even I am done with the show....

Tata bye bye to the hopless Anirudh and bondita

Rimi....

Each and every point I agree..

I feel cheated👎🏼

I watched this show after long time

......

I don't care about it anymore...

Thank you rimi for all the reviews FFS vms pics gif...

Your ffs potray the women empowerment topic then this show...

Originally posted by: mnm13

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The show which i supported from February last year has been brutally murdered before me..... Now after 1 year 1 month i feel cheated. I feel my attachment with Anirudh and bondita was taken advantage of.

ARC the ideal man every girl dreams of is long gone. He died, Now the ani we see is just a tharki lustful man. I have had enough of his ghatiyapanti.

And bondita, the ever curious, tark karne wali ladki has become totally gopi bahu.

Where is her tark.? Where is her brain?

A 12 year old gopi bahu isn't what i wanted to see in this show.

If i wanted to watch EMA, there are many shows which are based on that topic, i would watch that not BB.

I saw an itv show after 7 years and makers made sure i don't watch any in the next 17 years.

And the show should be named

"nibba nibbi ki prem kahani "

Or

Kabhi patni kabhi zimmedari

or

" Kasauti of a child bride"

Or

Whatever, who cares.

And and, i am declaring bondita roy chowdhury se i have no relation anymore. That stupid clingy cringy nibbi isn't my daughter or anything.

Munnu 🤣🤣🤣🤣

For the first time I have seen you so angry behen 🤣 sorry to ignite your anger 🤪 Kal tak u were normal aur ye post dekh ke mera has has ke bura haal ho gaya hai 🤣 I am still laughing 🤣

Yaar we tried our best to stick to the show mun.. but nahi ho paaya kya kar sakte hain ?🤪 Aur kitna popat karvaaye apne positiveness ka batao 😭

Har baar socha abb toh kuchh dimaag vaala track aayega but no 👎🏼 aur abb lo.. EMA hi dikha daala 🤣 arre theek hai child marriage is bad, usme ye sab problems hote hain but show ke lead ke saath experiment kyu karete ho ? show ke lead ko toh log follow karte hain 🤢 abb doosre ladke Ani ko follow karenge aur sochenge it is cool to fall in love with another woman

chalo jo bhi hai.... they just mixed up tracks from few of the chart toppers and hum log jinhone saalo baad koi ITV se attach hone ka risk liya unka popatlaal kar diya 👍🏼

Abb i cannot see Anirudh as the same person 👍🏼

I am officially resigning from my biggest Anirudh Fan Position! 👍🏼