*Discussion Of The Week #5 Cousin Marriages In Pakistani Dramas* - Page 9

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

im not against adoption but its not the same feeling...the feeling you get giving birth to a child, a life inside you, someone who resembles you and your husband like a symbol of your love

That feeling cant be matched with anything

Agree.

Before I get married I used to consider my nephews as my own children. We live in the same house. I used to buy things for them. Play and chat and take care of them. I thought that I need nothing more. Even after I got pregnant I couldn't understand why having my own children is very important. 😆 It is just after giving birth to my first baby that I realized how it is .. it is like a death and rebirth. The pain I went through only to see his face.. I couldn't believe ..in a moment I'll forget that pain, and celebrate my new life. 😃 May Allah gives everyone the blessing of children🤗..only those who desire it .

And rising children or adoption is also a gr8 thing. My neighbour loves her adopted girl as if she was her own blood. She even gave her a room in her house after her marriage.. to stay near to her. Although my neighbour has 3 children who are her own blood.😳

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Thats because you eventually get used to living without each other. Wo pyaar aur attachment nahi rehti. I go crazy if I dont see my husband for 2 days lol

I don’t know how long distance marriages work. Surely it’s inportant to be together if you’re married? I think being together is a major part of getting married. If I’m married and my husband was living in another country I’d be so lonely and would be worried he might like another girl there.

Didn’t the prophet (saw) have an adopted son? Surely adoption is allowed in Islam. It’s wrong to say you can’t. I think only they don’t inherit unless there’s a will. It would be disgusting if you married your adopted child. Something deeply wrong to bring up a child and then want to have sex with them.

Originally posted by: Geraldin

Didn’t the prophet (saw) have an adopted son? Surely adoption is allowed in Islam. It’s wrong to say you can’t. I think only they don’t inherit unless there’s a will. It would be disgusting if you married your adopted child. Something deeply wrong to bring up a child and then want to have sex with them.

Hello Geraldin. It is good to see you joining this discussion😊.

I have a distance marriage too. It is tough to manage a married life like this, specially when you are young. It is good to stay positive and not think about the bad things. May Allah keeps your hubby loyal to you.😃

As for prphet Muhammad (sAaw) he adopted Zaid before Islam. But Allah made this a way to teach ppl that adopted children aren't real children. So after Zaid divorced his wife. Prophet married her to cancel adoption in Islam. Still muslims can rise orphaned children, but withought giving them their names or make them heirs..unless there's a will as you said.

Originally posted by: awida

Agree.

Before I get married I used to consider my nephews as my own children. We live in the same house. I used to buy things for them. Play and chat and take care of them. I thought that I need nothing more. Even after I got pregnant I couldn't understand why having my own children is very important. 😆 It is just after giving birth to my first baby that I realized how it is .. it is like a death and rebirth. The pain I went through only to see his face.. I couldn't believe ..in a moment I'll forget that pain, and celebrate my new life. 😃 May Allah gives everyone the blessing of children🤗..only those who desire it .

And rising children or adoption is also a gr8 thing. My neighbour loves her adopted girl as if she was her own blood. She even gave her a room in her house after her marriage.. to stay near to her. Although my neighbour has 3 children who are her own blood.😳

I hear the same thing from everyone. My mum told me the same story, that she was in pain for 3 days before labor but as soon as I was born she forgot all the pain after seeing my face. That joy is priceless.😳

She said after labor it feels like you just died and were reborn again.

Originally posted by: Geraldin

I don’t know how long distance marriages work. Surely it’s inportant to be together if you’re married? I think being together is a major part of getting married. If I’m married and my husband was living in another country I’d be so lonely and would be worried he might like another girl there.

It happens a lot of times that the couple either loses interest in each other or gets attracted to someone else. I have seen it happen. Hence I am against long distance relationships unless the distance is just temporary. No longer than 6 months.

Originally posted by: Geraldin

Didn’t the prophet (saw) have an adopted son? Surely adoption is allowed in Islam. It’s wrong to say you can’t. I think only they don’t inherit unless there’s a will. It would be disgusting if you married your adopted child. Something deeply wrong to bring up a child and then want to have sex with them.

I think that was a foster child. Theres a difference between adopting and fostering a child. You can take care of an orphan child but cant give them your name.