I can’t remember where I heard it but Divorce is supposed to be the most hated thing that is allowed in Islam.
It’s supposed to be difficult to do, so that both the husband and wife should not take it lightly. Yet in dramas they show it wrong and in many ways it’s unislamic. I watched the old film Nikah with Salma Agha when it came on tv and I was shocked that the guy just said the word three times and the woman is divorced. It’s not meant to be like that at all.
Yes sadly any children involved do suffer a lot.
Usually, unless the wife’s had enough, and she wants to divorce, it’s the man that instigates the divorce. Sometimes woman are left alone with kids to be responsible for sometimes without any financial help. It’s so wrong.
My friends Dad died when she was a young teenager, the eldest of three. Her widowed mother never remarried but looked after her kids the best she could. If the mother gives enough emotional support, the kids grow up fine. They lived simply, I saw them wash their few plates and glasses after their meals. What they had was just enough. They didn’t spend more than what was necessary and she gave double the love.
I know it’s not the same as divorce but I’m just saying, once a divorce is over, a supportive single mother can do much more for the emotional welfare of the children alone, than having a couple constantly fighting in front of their kids.
I know a real life example of a relative who was treated so badly by her in laws, so much that even her husband believed their complaints against her. When she was pregnant with their first child she was sick often and instead of helping his wife, he complained that she can’t do anything as she was in bed or too ill. He divorced her soon after. She was a single parent, struggling alone and she asked family members for financial help.
Then, I don’t know how, but there was a single guy who had never married before, a decent helpful guy, that noticed her sad situation and he married her.
His family must’ve been a bit against (him being a virgin) marrying a woman who already has a child, but it went ahead and now they have their own child. She’s far more happier than before.
Sometimes you don’t know what destiny has in store. If divorce is in someone’s fate then the best you can do is to hope that something better is in store for you. Bitterness eats up a person so much that sometimes they can’t let it go.
Society blames the woman alone far too much when there’s a divorce. They point the finger as though it’s her and her family’s fault, opening the doors of depression and a feeling of humiliation. This again is so wrong.
We can’t let this happen in society and they should show dramas where the perpetrators get punished for these actions, and dramas signifying strong independent and happy women, instead of bechari ones all the time.
Sadly divorce does happen, and we need to see dramas that make you understand that it doesn’t mean you are a weak person if things are rough initially. It doesn’t mean it’s the end of your marital life and it doesn’t mean you are a failure, and it can be a beginning to a new and amazing journey in your life.
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