Discussion Of The Week #4 **Divorce' Side Effects ** - Page 2

Originally posted by: awida

It is sad that in dramas families aren't supportive. They pressurise their divorced daughters to marry again, or keep insulting them. It is always shown that divorced women can't find happiness untill they get married again to good guys this time. 🤔 In few cases women rise their children and avoid marriage successfully.😃

Do you know dramas where a divorcee worked to support her family, without getting married again?

Ghalati ending was good...instead of giving in to society pressure, the mother supported her daughter and she became independent

Daagh also had a similar ending where she raises all of her chuldren on her own instead of going back to her hubby

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

Ghalati ending was good...instead of giving in to society pressure, the mother supported her daughter and she became independent

Daagh also had a similar ending where she raises all of her chuldren on her own instead of going back to her hubby

It is always a delight to have dramas which highlight the positive side of divorce.. like a woman becoming independant and successfull. I'll check Daagh , coz I didn't watch it before.😳

Divorce is most dislikeable act in Islam. But unfortunately the ratio of divorce is getting increase day by day.

Divorce is a way to come out of a toxic relationship. And parents should support their daughters who want to take such big decision even after trying their best. Unfortunately in our society Divorce is like a threat. During fights husband usually says main tumhy talaq dy doon ga. Ghar bhajwa doon ga to threat his wife and unfortunately wives actually start fearing about it. They start thinking about their children, their family but not for themselves. Because children are the ones who have to suffer the most.

In those cases when it becomes difficult to live with that person than its fine to take divorce but unfortunately nowadays divorce has become a normal thing.

Choti choti baaton par talaq hojati hai. Which is not right. There is lack of tolerance, forgiveness which leads to divorce. Har bar Har chezz ka hal divorce nhi hota. Mil kar beith kar baat karney sy bhi masley haal hojaty hein. Marriage is not like a plate of happiness, its full of responsibilities and compromises. Yeah agar compromises ek taraf sy hoon than it become difficult to that partner to take the burden of the marriage. But sometimes small misunderstandings leads to divorce.

In my pov misunderstandings can get reduce if none of the family of both wife and husband interfere between them. Let them handle their issues yeah if they become big than guide them.

Shadi karna asaan hota hai par nibhana muskhil. No one is perfect. Ek Dorsey ko samhjney main thora time lagta hai. Initial phase is actually difficult for both especially for girls. If the relationship is not toxic than try to continue it. If have seen such marriage where they had difficult initial phases but now they are happily married.

Originally posted by: _NINA_

Divorce is most dislikeable act in Islam. But unfortunately the ratio of divorce is getting increase day by day.

Divorce is a way to come out of a toxic relationship. And parents should support their daughters who want to take such big decision even after trying their best. Unfortunately in our society Divorce is like a threat. During fights husband usually says main tumhy talaq dy doon ga. Ghar bhajwa doon ga to threat his wife and unfortunately wives actually start fearing about it. They start thinking about their children, their family but not for themselves. Because children are the ones who have to suffer the most.

In those cases when it becomes difficult to live with that person than its fine to take divorce but unfortunately nowadays divorce has become a normal thing.

Choti choti baaton par talaq hojati hai. Which is not right. There is lack of tolerance, forgiveness which leads to divorce. Har bar Har chezz ka hal divorce nhi hota. Mil kar beith kar baat karney sy bhi masley haal hojaty hein. Marriage is not like a plate of happiness, its full of responsibilities and compromises. Yeah agar compromises ek taraf sy hoon than it become difficult to that partner to take the burden of the marriage. But sometimes small misunderstandings leads to divorce.

In my pov misunderstandings can get reduce if none of the family of both wife and husband interfere between them. Let them handle their issues yeah if they become big than guide them.

Shadi karna asaan hota hai par nibhana muskhil. No one is perfect. Ek Dorsey ko samhjney main thora time lagta hai. Initial phase is actually difficult for both especially for girls. If the relationship is not toxic than try to continue it. If have seen such marriage where they had difficult initial phases but now they are happily married.

I like your opinions about marriage and talaaq. It is really hurting to see couples taking divorce lightly. It is too sad that in these times when we are more educated, don't know how to respect relationships and commitments. 😒 There are lots of reasons behind divorce. Sometimes they are justified, but many times they aren't. Many problems can be solved if couples discuss them as you said, without interferance from others. 😊 It is high time couples think of the results of divorce, before taking this step. They can seperate for 4 months . It is an Islamic practice which many ppl don't do even though it is mentioned in Holy Quraan. 🤓 In this period.. they will see how will the matters be if they were really divorced. This way they will start to miss eachother, see the effect on their children's lives, and deal with social pressure.😔 If they deside to part ways after that ,they will not regret.

Divorce before kids is I think sometimes liberation, after kids it becomes very hard to do .I know people who got divorced before kids and also ones who got divorced after kids. Unfortunately it is so common.

One of my friend got divorced because guy thought she was not good looking enough... then he remarried and divorced second wife. She raised her child alone and worked hard .Last year to my utter shock she told me she and her husband are together again as they want to try to be there for the kid....now again they are miserable but trying to make it work for the child. But the guy was such a bad human being he was not even there when her child had lymphoma and had to be treated ....To give second chance to such a jerk is really hard but she says she is doing it for sake of her child.

It is such a delicate balance, some times I feel if you have kids and there is no physical violence involved then try to work things out as it makes life a mess.

My sister thinks divorce was best thing that happened to her, she got divorced to utter misery of my family , lived 5-6 years with full freedom and then remarried, but there was no kid involved. Society mostly blames women and even she dealt with pressure from family to try to make it work but sometimes there is no choice .

When children are grown up then finding rishta for them becomes hard too.. this thing becomes a hinderance.. some times kids start blaming mother ..so I feel here is nothing like just taking the plunge and deal with whatever life is throwing at you as there is no guarantee that second one would be better.

My personal belief is if you have kids and got divorced then just be alone and raise your kids with dignity and good will. God is there e to protect us all.

nina i would consider this point of yours so valid ,initial phase can be utter misery and then afterwards one can lead good life. I am example of this lol...i used to think why get so educated if I had to be in this mess but i just decide to forget my ego and try hard. Now I am happy if not with my husband lol then with my kids..he is some one i tolerate lol for sake of kids..

Originally posted by: sami011

My personal belief is if you have kids and got divorced then just be alone and raise your kids with dignity and good will. God is there e to protect us all.

Thank you for sharing those real stories about your friend and sister. I agree kids are a big responsibility.. and a person should think carefully before getting divorced. Without kids it is a bit easier, although society may start thinking that you are irresponsible person and want your freedom to hang out with guys without being serious or tied to one of them.🤔

I am sad that your friend had to live with her husband for the sake of her kid. 😒 but as you said , if there's no violence life with him can be tolerable.🤓 In Islam children custody shift from a mother to the father after a particular age. Many women can't see their children seperated from them , so they agree to reconsile with their exes, for this reason only.🥺

I hope your sister is happy now. 😃

Many women are tolerating their husbands for the sake of their kids only.😆 warna it is easier to take your kids and move out from a toxic marriage. Most of housework and rising kids has to be done by the mother. So why should she also go out of her way to please her husband when he turns out to be a burden. 🤢Children are the most important persons in a mother's life. For them she can do anything.

after having kids, i dont think a woman even needs to remarry as she has her kids support and doesnt feel lonely...so i think divorce becomes less traumatic

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

after having kids, i dont think a woman even needs to remarry as she has her kids support and doesnt feel lonely...so i think divorce becomes less traumatic

Originally posted by: Unique.Sheep

after having kids, i dont think a woman even needs to remarry as she has her kids support and doesnt feel lonely...so i think divorce becomes less traumatic

With children life of a woman becomes complete. But women also have their other needs. And it is their right to deside for themselves. In my country some of ppl talk bad about women who remarry after having kids. I find it cruel, coz if men can remarry, why shouldn't women ? It is left for them to see if they can keep living for their children, or if they want to start a new life.. specially when they are too young.😒 Many of my relatives, remarried. Their children are left with their grandmothers.😊 coz as @Seher said ..many men don't accept their wives' children.😔