Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 12

Sometime I feel marriage is a destiny. I have seen so many happy and un happy arranged marraiges.. and same with love marriages.

It is all about how people understand each other and adjust with each other. You have to let go small battles and fight for big ones.

Mine was arranged. It took such a long time to fall in love actually.

Originally posted by: MJ1015

No, marriage is not at all zaroori. People should do it only when they want to or need to get married.

Many people get married only for the sake of it, just to get it ticked from the list of to do things. The way I did it, just because it was expected from me that I should be married, I said yes to my parents. I never wanted to, I don't even need to be married and yet here I am, married and kids, all that jazz.

But sometimes people do need to or want to marry and unfortunately there is no safe way into it. It's a blind jump in its nature.

You sound like my sister, she too wanted to marry but was so afraid of going into it. She almost spent one and a half decade just thinking about it. She is happily married now, it is an arranged one.

Wohi na I want to fall in love n get married in a taam jhaam ceremony and dance at my baraat too, but I run a mile away when anyone even wants to talk nicely to me when I realise is my potential suitor.

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Wow what a story

Hopefully it all works out. Have faith

He’s stuck in Pakistan. I miss Lahore (offtopic) 😆

He’s from Lahore! Model town haha. Thank you!

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Hey you have a filmy love story 😍.

Definitely it'll work out..... I'll pray for your story 💜. Do come back n continue then👍🏼

Thank you so much, you are too kind ❤️

Originally posted by: Deviant_Pixel

Well he is pakistani born and brought up (including passport) and I am Indian brought up in dubai also holding an indian passport (this is important because geographically it poses a challenge). We met in our university library (in the uk for context) actually, were friends for a year and I avoided liking him because I knew this was going to be a major struggle. We come from broken homes, countries we both cannot even visit and religions, I was like this is gonna end badlyy. But we couldn't help it and started dating in my final year of uni. I left to Dubai after graduation, he was unsure if he wanted to study further and went to Pak. Lots of tears at airport, because we legit were like we aren't seeing each other ever again logically but we still tried long distance and it was a disaster. We were way too young and couldn't handle the distance plus that time pressure of career.

After 6 months of our break up, he surprised me in Dubai, we reconciled. He left a good job back home with his dad's business and got a really bad one in Dubai and struggled for a year when his mom also passed away. Finally he settled in and then fast forward 6 years, I was like tell your father now, he went back home for a holiday bearing bribes and gifts, his dad instantly was like what have you done? When he told his dad, his jaw dropped he was like you both are nuts.

Finally after a year of convincing his father and stepmother came here. He and my mom are super close anyway as I introduced them very soon after he moved. His dad met me liked me alot and liked my mom but ofcourse they were like this is too hard and you guys will never see each others families, we wont see our grandkids lalala. My dad hasn't accepted him because he is super conservative and extremely rigid. In the end they accepted our relationship and told us go ahead and get engaged which we did privately without an official ceremony as of yet.

I applied for my canadian residency and he procrastinated, when I got mine, his tubelight came on and he applied and then bam covid hit and his application is stranded so we may have to go down the spousal route lets see. He met with a major accident this time in March when he went on vacation, so now hes stuck in Pak with physio etc. Nothing ever comes easy.

To be continued when and if this works out🤣

Praying things work out for both of you ❤️

My cousin is in relationship with a catholic girl and we all are just waiting for him to drop the bomb in the khandaan lol 😆

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

Yes 2.5 years later I’m very happy. But it wasn’t smooth sailing. ( visa process )

So for long time I had long lost distance relationship. I took so many trips that I’m sure government was tracking why is this guy going to Pakistan so much 😆

Ofcourse any relationship takes its time.

Love makes people go crazy and you were only going to meet your wife.

Originally posted by: Harley_Quinn

Was about to get married but I ran from the wedding.

What?

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Wohi na I want to fall in love n get married in a taam jhaam ceremony and dance at my baraat too, but I run a mile away when anyone even wants to talk nicely to me when I realise is my potential suitor.

I understand, she too so much wanted to fall in love, wanted to be courted and pursued and all that romantic mangani and shadi with beautiful dresses and functions. She waited for it to happen from her late teens till she was in her mid 30s. Almost 16 17 years. But at the same time she never let anyone come closer, not even simple hello hi. It was like intensity of her desire froze her with fear.

You need to get out of this fear of trusting others, this chasm of trust has to be overcome. Yes, stay vigilante and careful but be willing to let people approach you. Keep a circle of friends who are well informed around you, so they too can keep a watchful eyes on people who like you. But you have to give someone a chance. Because our own hesitations and fears push our dreams away.

Originally posted by: K.Ahm

Praying things work out for both of you ❤️

My cousin is in relationship with a catholic girl and we all are just waiting for him to drop the bomb in the khandaan lol 😆

Oh that'd be a legit drama. My cousin's was a love story with a girl from same cast, but fam phir bhi baukhla gaye the😆

Originally posted by: K.Ahm

Praying things work out for both of you ❤️

My cousin is in relationship with a catholic girl and we all are just waiting for him to drop the bomb in the khandaan lol 😆

Thank you! Hahaha yes I am half catholic myself hope her parents aren’t like my dad 😆