joint family vs nuclear family

i know some of u may be from joint families and some from nuclear!!!

would love to know your feed back about both please??

i'm from a nuclear family.i really think that though joint family has its own advantages its better to settle for nuclear families.

in nuclear families itself u can find disaccord between the members, so just imagine how it would be in a joint one! when its just four or so people that you are living with you can let down your guard and be yourself. but when you are part of a large family you always have to be on your guard.
i defenitely prefer nuclear family.

well my family has mom dad granny.never ahd the expirience of am joint family so no idea 😛 😛 😛

i am part of a nuclear n it is good

Although a joint family system has its advantages like you always have company , one doesn't have to worry about leaving children in a empty house. And many others .But has its huge disadvantages too .

one needs their space as an adult . As an adult you start getting set in your own ways , and beliefs . Being in a large family sometimes it clashes and thats distructive for a relationship. Also as an adult its time for you to start getting responsible for your own life instead of still being semi dependant on your parents.

And living separately does not mean you love your parents less or will be irresponsible towards them . Infact , you will build a stronger relationship with them.You continue to meet up , care for them and be there at the drop of a hat in their hour of need .

I personally prefer living independantly . I would have gone mad if i had to live with either set of parents !! Meeting them during holidays is just perfect !

Yet another good topic

Ok, what does a joint family really mean? People living under the same roof. Then no thanks. But a joint family is much more than that. A joint family teaches you many things like, loving each other, caring for each other, doing things together, being there for each other. It is not only a group of people who care for each other, but those who are ready to give up things if required to stay together.

Today every corporate talks of sharing, team work. These are basics a joint family teaches a child. In todays age, people want joint families only when convinient.

On the other hand, a neuclear family teaches you to be confident and self sufficient most of the times. But at the cost of the love and care of others in the family.

I personally live in a nuclear family but I wanna have a joint family coz it's so much better and u have lots of fun and u always have lots of ppl u can talk to but in a nuclear family u don't have too many ppl that u can talk to also u can sometimes be very lonely and that can sometimes lead u into depression

Originally posted by: lakshmi_maruthi

Yet another good topic

Ok, what does a joint family really mean? People living under the same roof. Then no thanks. But a joint family is much more than that. A joint family teaches you many things like, loving each other, caring for each other, doing things together, being there for each other. It is not only a group of people who care for each other, but those who are ready to give up things if required to stay together.

Today every corporate talks of sharing, team work. These are basics a joint family teaches a child. In todays age, people want joint families only when convinient.

On the other hand, a neuclear family teaches you to be confident and self sufficient most of the times. But at the cost of the love and care of others in the family.

so true... i guess that for all of us the grass appears greener on the othr side. when i was struggling to balance my kids and my job a joint family seemed so ideal.. but when i thought about it kids will ultimately grow up and get over the having to be looked after phase..... then at that point of time do u really want someone constantly looking over u'r shoulder and telling u how to deal with u'r kid? for most of us letting our hair down after a hard days work is very important....... but with the generation gap and difference in lifestyles and all i wonder if that is possible with older family members present?

at the same time kids in a joint family learn family values better recieve proper care and attention at all times and are more sharing and caring!!!

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Originally posted by: winnie_pooh

so true... i guess that for all of us the grass appears greener on the othr side. when i was struggling to balance my kids and my job a joint family seemed so ideal.. but when i thought about it kids will ultimately grow up and get over the having to be looked after phase..... then at that point of time do u really want someone constantly looking over u'r shoulder and telling u how to deal with u'r kid? for most of us letting our hair down after a hard days work is very important....... but with the generation gap and difference in lifestyles and all i wonder if that is possible with older family members present?

at the same time kids in a joint family learn family values better recieve proper care and attention at all times and are more sharing and caring!!!

😕

So, we wish the family around only when we need them. Also why do we assume that someone is constantly looking over'ur shoulder. Why don't we take that as advice from a person who is more experienced than us. I know suitations are different from what they were before. But then I think everyone understands. You givein to some but you fight for somethings. Maybe I am better off fighting for my choice than having it easy.

Why do we have the feeling we cannot be free with family around. I would expect one to be free with their family around. anwya, this will go on like a chicken and egg problem😃.