Are people truly "adults" if they live with parents after adulthood? - Page 8

Looking down on people who live with parents is fairly judgmental, and a bit outdated/old-fashioned perception too. It's very common in a lot of expensive cities here to the point where there's no shame in telling people that you live with your parents. 100k is considered "low income" in some parts, so naturally 21-22 old college grads aren't going to suddenly start living on their own and shelling out 1.5-2k per month just for rent. A lot of people don't get to that point till they're 4-5 years into their career. There might be a goal like saving money, or it could just be a better financial arrangement.

Apart from privacy issues (dating, etc), I don't see much of problem with that arrangement cuz even people who don't live with their parents have a "homebase" they are free to visit or fall back on.

Adulthood to me means responsibility. I can only speak about myself that I'm a financially independent person and live with my parents and no there is no restrictions as such. I do come late night, my friends are at my place half their life, I travel how I want to and so do my parents. Whoever wants to cooks whatever they want to. The only rule that my family follows is a meal a day whenever possible (imposed by me).

I'll say that I feel extremely lucky to be able to live with my parents, since I've lived alone for 2 years and its BORING.

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

Adulthood to me means responsibility. I can only speak about myself that I'm a financially independent person and live with my parents and no there is no restrictions as such. I do come late night, my friends are at my place half their life, I travel how I want to and so do my parents. Whoever wants to cooks whatever they want to. The only rule that my family follows is a meal a day whenever possible (imposed by me).

I'll say that I feel extremely lucky to be able to live with my parents, since I've lived alone for 2 years and its BORING.

You're lucky. Not everyone is.

OK indian and western concept is diff

In west after age of 16 all kids work and pay for their study and hostel fees so leave house

In west their mimimum wages are very high even by their stds of living like minimum wage in some US states is 60,000 USD even for a labourer

Plus in west they get social security etc

so parents and kids live seperate lives

Once 70 or 80 most aged go to old age home and get cared there free of cost mostly

India, kids education till Post graduation supported by parents

You will say why do not indian kids work? Come on 77% indian women with puc and more degree have no job at all, 10% of indian men have no job at all (mya be more), 70% indian men or working women do job less than their educational compatibility(mean doing MSc/MBA/BE they do security/janitor/small shop keepers kind of jobs which uneducated can do) so basically no job for adults only how kid will get job?

In india salary very less but cost of education and living very high(like 1 kg lady finger in US also 70-80 Rs when converted from dollar and same or more price in cities of india) so indian parents spend most earned on kids education and tutions and hostel etc and do not save for old age

And staying with parents means they shall do grocery, laundry, pay bills, do bank jobs, care for grandkids etc many perks too and no two house rent etc money saved so why not stay with aged parents?

No social security etc even old age home have to pay in lakhs and not properly cared

Hence indian parents stay with kids because they have exhausted all fin resources to bring up kids

The day indians will get paid like US/Europe 60 lakhs etc than things may change

Till that happens parents will live with kids

I am seeing new phenomenon nowadays: parents stay in daughters house and less sons as son in laws do not object or misbehave with parents. Thats a positive change in india

Didn't know adulthood is somehow is related to not living under the same roof as parents.

Adulthood is about being mature or intellectual and that's it.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

OK indian and western concept is diff

In west after age of 16 all kids work and pay for their study and hostel fees so leave house

In west their mimimum wages are very high even by their stds of living like minimum wage in some US states is 60,000 USD even for a labourer

Plus in west they get social security etc

so parents and kids live seperate lives

Once 70 or 80 most aged go to old age home and get cared there free of cost mostly

India, kids education till Post graduation supported by parents

You will say why do not indian kids work? Come on 77% indian women with puc and more degree have no job at all, 10% of indian men have no job at all (mya be more), 70% indian men or working women do job less than their educational compatibility(mean doing MSc/MBA/BE they do security/janitor/small shop keepers kind of jobs which uneducated can do) so basically no job for adults only how kid will get job?

In india salary very less but cost of education and living very high(like 1 kg lady finger in US also 70-80 Rs when converted from dollar and same or more price in cities of india) so indian parents spend most earned on kids education and tutions and hostel etc and do not save for old age

No social security etc even old age home have to pay in lakhs and not properly cared

Hence indian parents stay with kids because they have exhausted all fin resources to bring up kids

The day indians will get paid like US/Europe 60 lakhs etc than things may change

Bold: I don't think that's true in India. No M.Sc or MBA will do a security guard's job in India, whereas in the USA, even a science graduate has to do menial jobs like receptionist or janitor. I know this by reading up on the US and by interacting on Americans on message boards.

Cost of higher education is extremely high in the USA as well, which is why most students do jobs in college to fund that education.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

In the West, living with parents well into adulthood is seen as a stigma (unless you're really really broke). A man who lives with parents in his 40s is seen as a man-child who is sort of mentally stunted. Not saying everything is right in Western culture, but maybe they do have point here?

What about women living in 40s and 50s with parents?

Divorce is much more there right?

Are women also seen as girl child in USA i am curious?

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Bold: I don't think that's true in India. No M.Sc or MBA will do a security guard's job in India, whereas in the USA, even a science graduate has to do menial jobs like receptionist or janitor. I know this by reading up on the US and by interacting on Americans on message boards.

Cost of higher education is extremely high in the USA as well, which is why most students do jobs in college to fund that education.

Really you think so

many MBA/BEs doing security job in india

have you not read many graduates applied for peon job etc

Originally posted by: myviewprem

Really you think so

many MBA/BEs doing security job in india

have you not read many graduates applied for peon job etc

But cost of higher education in USA is 10 times more than in India. What about that?

Originally posted by: kyapa

it should be girls choice. I say do not marry to someone who will force you to leave your parents/ stop you taking care of them in any way. Stop caring about people who will label you as bad wife. And if your own parents want you to go to you husband house as that’s their culture acc. to them, do that but never stop taking care of them.

Point is our parents shouldn’t be living alone when they really need someone.

Then it should be the choice of the guy as well to leave or to stay with his parents !! If he decides to move out after marriage, would that be as accepted in the same bracket as a girl's moving out after marriage ? You yourself raised a question mark on the 'adulthood' if someone chooses to move out. Why ?

If moving out and taking care of the parents are considered two separate things for a girl, the same would be applicable for guys as well.