Are people truly "adults" if they live with parents after adulthood? - Page 7

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Her reply was cheered on by the Indian audience though. 😆

I'm interested in knowing: How would you define an "adult"?

Not sure in what context we're trying to define an "adult" here but I try to stay away from false dichotomies that divide people into "adult" vs "non-adult" based on the fact that they share their living space with their parents.

A lot of people move in/out as per their convenience, lease issues or any other temporary circumstances too. Millennials who live in their parents house is at an all-time high despite having full-time jobs and a "life," so to speak. So what are we talking about here?

Yeah I could never understand all those YT comments cheering her for "burning" Letterman in that episode cuz she was the one who acted burned instead.

Originally posted by: big4accountant

Not sure in what context we're trying to define an "adult" here but I try to stay away from false dichotomies that divide people into "adult" vs "non-adult" based on the fact that they share their living space with their parents.

A lot of people move in/out as per their convenience, lease issues or any other temporary circumstances too. Millennials who live in their parents house is at an all-time high despite having full-time jobs and a "life," so to speak. So what are we talking about here?

Yeah I could never understand all those YT comments cheering her for "burning" Letterman in that episode cuz she was the one who acted burned instead.

What I'm trying to say is, that in our culture, physically adult offspring often have to behave like children with respect to their parents. 40-50 year olds are bossed around by dominating mothers and fathers. So in that context, are those people mentally mature enough to be called "adults"?

That's what I'm asking.

Originally posted by: zoinks

What about parents of girls?

Originally posted by: kyapa

girls should do the same at least try whatever they can. Karishma tanna’s priority was her mom always, she broke up with upen

But why can't boys leave home and still care for parents?

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

What I'm trying to say is, that in our culture, physically adult children often have ti behave like children with respect to their parents. 40-50 year olds are bossed around by dominating mothers and fathers. So in that context, are those people mentally mature enough to be called "adults"?

That's what I'm asking.

If those 40-50 year olds can't make their own decisions and need constant reaffirmations from their 70-80 year old parents, I guess they aren't what you consider "normal" adults. But what do I know. 😆

There are so many folks who live by themselves, can't make friends easily, can't deal with the loneliness, can't cope and end up with anti-depressants and drinking problems too--all in the name of conforming to social standards of appearing "cool" and acceptable. Are they still adults? I don't know.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

No offence, but living with parents often means limited freedom and more living under someone's authority. I've seen 40 year olds be admonished by their dads the same way as 10 year olds. What's the difference then?

If you're an adult, then its necessary to be inependent.

Originally posted by: prerna4rishav

What about girls? You mean to say they are failures either way ? Refusing to leave parents after getting married = bad wife, leave parents after marriage = not adult/irresponsible adults ?

What an amazing way to shove down patriarchy in the disguise of 'responsibilities towards parents'. Cute.

Point is our parents shouldn’t be living alone when they really need someone.

Yes they are truly adults if they live with their parents after adulthood. I mean if they are 18 plus they are adults whether they live with parents or not.

You do not become an adult just because you don't stay with your parents after adulthood.

Staying alone or with partners or friend doesn't make you an adult after adulthood.

The only criteria is you must be 18 plus.

Originally posted by: Tippy-top

Yes they are truly adults if they live with their parents after adulthood. I mean if they are 18 plus they are adults whether they live with parents or not.

You do not become an adult just because you don't stay with your parents after adulthood.

Staying alone or with partners or friend doesn't make you an adult after adulthood.

The only criteria is you must be 18 plus.

In the West, living with parents well into adulthood is seen as a stigma (unless you're really really broke). A man who lives with parents in his 40s is seen as a man-child who is sort of mentally stunted. Not saying everything is right in Western culture, but maybe they do have point here?

Living with your parents is a typical desi culture seen in all religious communities... In my view it's best to live close to your parents (like maybe living in the same building, same neighborhood) coz then the love stays stronger and u have more respect... Too many adults in the house in the long run will just make one irritated...