Are people truly "adults" if they live with parents after adulthood? - Page 10

Originally posted by: heartbleed

what the F*** 🤔

He/she is partially right. Americans have higher percentage of mental illnesses and suicides despite having one of the most developed mental healthcare systems. Also, while I dont support living with parents well into adulthood, calling someone "burden on earth" is uncalled for.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Why do you need to stay with parents to look after them? You can still be a responsible and caring child without sacrificing your independence.

And placing restrictions on girls is not the answer to battling sex crimes.

Originally posted by: heartbleed

what the F*** 🤔

They did that for you as a kid its your turn to do that as adult than you say burden on earth???

You are a burden on earth forget being an adult if you are living with your parents even after 18.

All i mean is if some kids want to stay with parents those kids are not burden on earth, my english may have confused. All i mean is if kids stay and take care of parents in old age why not? Whats so wrong? why do you feel they are burden on earth? If parents were in old age home like in USA also someone had to take care some unknown person. Instead kids take care of retired parents or aging parents still working whats a burden on earth? That does not mean you are a kid as adult. Very famous business men and politicians live with parents at home does that mean they are kids?? Work is diff family is diff, just because you behave respectful and listen to parents at home you need not behave so in office too.

Thats why in us people go around shooting for simple reasons or doing drugs and more suicides although very rich nation because they are very lonely inside no mental support

I did not say this research and study says this. Especially you see kids without both parents in african americans turn to drugs etc and without father especially. As teenage and young adult you need a father to remain disciplined and not swayed by bright lights of flashy world. Imagine if like USA kids would have no parents watching over in india/asia what would happen? especially sons in a patriachial society like asia. In US girls and boys are treated almost like equal 80% of things, in india and asia a son is treated as greater than any daughter. So sons have more freedom, so if we had open culture in asia it would be a disaster. What would have happen to crime rates and sexual harassment on roads etc it would just increase exponentially. There is research on that, even recently after Floyds shooting in USA recently in news channel it was being discussed why african americans are more into crime and not having fathers was one reason.

Atleast indians and asians do not do much drugs, kill themselves less and do not shoot for simple reasons

You know why because you stay with family with parents and grandparents and you have sense of responsibility towards family thats why even if poorest country suicide less, no shooting no much drugs etc

Obviously indian kids stay longer than us kids with parents at home, so getting into bad habits like drugs/drinks gets delayed or null. Again research says that google it.

Family and parents are your psychiatrists in life

I am not saying research says this too

Asian culture may be moving towards individualistic life style in last 20 years but still many live with parents even after marriage or as bachelor. Nothing wrong with it.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

That's not true. In India, 100 rupees is a very small amount if money for most people. But for Americans, 100 dollars is like 500-600 rupees. Even if something costs 10 dollars, they will call it fairly expensive.

And the prices are balanced in both the countries according to exchange rate. For example, what costs 7500 in India will cost 100-200 dollars in USA. A 350 Rs movie ticket will be around 15 dollars in the US.

I agree on the salary being good, but still students in the US complain about not being able to afford good Universities even with two jobs.

That depends on where you live in ndia

If you live in delhi/bangalore/mumbai your cost of living is very high like new york only(salary percentage if you take)

Mumbai rent is very high bangalore price of all essential commodity is very high

Mumbai travel is cheap bangalore auto/taxi very costly etc

So its like living in new york but getting paid in indian salary if you live these few cities

Originally posted by: heartbleed

eww

What an articulate response, bravo 👏. Somehow didn’t expect any better from you based on your previous comment. Consistent, I like it.

Originally posted by: myviewprem

That depends on where you live in ndia

If you live in delhi/bangalore/mumbai your cost of living is very high like new york only(salary percentage if you take)

Mumbai rent is very high bangalore price of all essential commodity is very high

Mumbai travel is cheap bangalore auto/taxi very costly etc

So its like living in new york but getting paid in indian salary if you live these few cities

Living in Mumbai is like living in New York? 🤣 OMG

Originally posted by: myviewprem

OK indian and western concept is diff

In west after age of 16 all kids work and pay for their study and hostel fees so leave house

In west their mimimum wages are very high even by their stds of living like minimum wage in some US states is 60,000 USD even for a labourer

Plus in west they get social security etc

so parents and kids live seperate lives

Once 70 or 80 most aged go to old age home and get cared there free of cost mostly

India, kids education till Post graduation supported by parents

You will say why do not indian kids work? Come on 77% indian women with puc and more degree have no job at all, 10% of indian men have no job at all (mya be more), 70% indian men or working women do job less than their educational compatibility(mean doing MSc/MBA/BE they do security/janitor/small shop keepers kind of jobs which uneducated can do) so basically no job for adults only how kid will get job?

In india salary very less but cost of education and living very high(like 1 kg lady finger in US also 70-80 Rs when converted from dollar and same or more price in cities of india) so indian parents spend most earned on kids education and tutions and hostel etc and do not save for old age

And staying with parents means they shall do grocery, laundry, pay bills, do bank jobs, care for grandkids etc many perks too and no two house rent etc money saved so why not stay with aged parents?

No social security etc even old age home have to pay in lakhs and not properly cared

Hence indian parents stay with kids because they have exhausted all fin resources to bring up kids

The day indians will get paid like US/Europe 60 lakhs etc than things may change

Till that happens parents will live with kids

I am seeing new phenomenon nowadays: parents stay in daughters house and less sons as son in laws do not object or misbehave with parents. Thats a positive change in india

This is most honest, realistic opinion here.

I understand why people would want to compare India to the west but we're culturally very different. Our society is much more conservative.

I think economic prosperity along with higher quality of education, brings in change of mindset. Education makes us less inhibited and less judgemental while money gives us freedom to live how we like.

No matter people like it or not, but adults stay with their parents because of two reasons :

1) Money issues 2) lok kya kahenge attitude.

Once we triumph even one of this attitude, I think we have more privacy as an individual and live separately if we like to, without worrying about any two of the reasons listed above.

Originally posted by: heartbleed

eww

Adults are those who take the responsibilities that they are supposed to carry....if in the old age parents need care from their children than an adult child will care for them...nothing ewww about it....nothing ewww about wanting to live with ones family even if they do not need ur help....

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Bold: I don't think that's true in India. No M.Sc or MBA will do a security guard's job in India, whereas in the USA, even a science graduate has to do menial jobs like receptionist or janitor. I know this by reading up on the US and by interacting on Americans on message boards.

Cost of higher education is extremely high in the USA as well, which is why most students do jobs in college to fund that education.

Mahisa, I think your worldview is very narrow as of now. You just "read up" on US, it's like hearing anti-vaxxers say that they did their "reasearch".

How old are you? Because if you're a teen, I understand why you're saying this. It happens.

It's very true in India that people work below their qualification. I've seen chaprasis with bachelor or masters degree. Even an uncle in my family who has a law degree and a PhD in history hasn't gotten a job and working at a low level job as compared to his qualifications.

This happens because of few reasons : 1) Tough competition because of high population

2) Faulty education system. Our 75% graduates aren't even considered employable. So companies have to train them before employing them Even though these people spent 4 years learning job skills.

3) Have you ever heard people taking fake degrees? People do that here. Heck, I know a few people personally who did that. So this is the reason why people aren't able to get jobs and have to apply to low level jobs because they have to feed their families too.

Do you know how many children apply for college entrance exams just for about 10,000 seats in government colleges? 15-20 lakh.

They want government college because the fees of private college is too high.No middle income household can pay without a loan.

People in US do jobs even though they're pursuing the science not because they don't have any money, it's because they want to get some work experience or earn their own money which they have to spend on themselves A lot of parents don't fund their children's college too, so they work to afford their own education.

India doesn't have a student working culture isiliye most students don't work, more of parents want their children to only focus on studying. Our situation is completely different

from the US.

Yahan students barely study anything other than science or law and those who study arts or commerce are aiming for government jobs which are really hard to get in.

Just about a handful do something else than this.

India had recently improved it's poverty condition so it's save to say that many people have had a history of poverty if in case they're still not facing it.

My family has been from a poor background too. My parents worked hard and we're in a manageable position now. Ab they want me to study hard and do much better than them so that we'll never ever face poverty again.

Yahan par parents want their kids to not fall back into poverty isiliye they want us to only study and not work unlike in the US where they get enough money by even working in retail.

Ours is developing country so the sole focus is on not facing poverty anymore. First, we need to grow to a point where we can live and not just survive uske baad social reforms would come eventually along with prosperity.