Everyone has the capacity to love but to love someone the right way only a few people know how !
This Valentines day as you spend with your loved ones you would have been bombarded with articles on compatibility, your ideal partner, what’s lacking what’s great in your relationships , break ups & new beginnings what you should expect from your partner etc.
But seldom talked about is the art of loving someone do you have it in you to love someone the way they deserve ? And I don’t mean just your romantic partner it’s all your important relationships. Whoever you are & whichever role you play in life be it in your friendships, as a parent, or as daughter/ son etc.
Lets examine the criteria needed for a relationship to flourish .
Freedom
This one’s obvious. But is it really …! Do you give freedom in your relationships ?
Does the other person have the freedom to be themselves completely & to be accepted wholeheartedly in this relationship !
Or are they shutting down a part of themselves just to maintain this relationship.
Do they have the freedom to the make the decisions they need to take for their own personal growth.
Whether they are right or wrong are you always on their side.
Do you know when to give them space when they need it or be there when they need someone ?
You can love someone & they would love you back but you can still make them miserable .
Love without freedom gives birth to unhappiness.
Respect
You can love someone but do you truly value that person as an individual in his/her own right.
Do you respect his/her opinions or take his / her input on things as important ?
When making decisions do you take their feelings into consideration or are dismissive of them.
You may love someone but that doesn’t automatically translate into thinking highly of them.
What i just said applies to all relationships not just romantic ones …families friends etc.
Trust
To be a happy and healthy person in your relationship you need to add trust as an ingredient in the recipe that is called love .
Trust makes a relationship grow stronger !
Wherever they are whatever decisions they take , in whichever situations they find themselves . Do you show them your capability to trust them & their choices.
When they leave the house every morning to face the battles that await them outside. Do they do that secure in knowledge that you would be by their side in whatever challenges they meet.
Trust means offering someone security withholding your trust means giving them misery !
I have not written anything new . These qualities I mentioned you already know about them . What I am offering is another perspective.
Freedom Respect Trust these are basic rights that every human being deserves. But sometimes we take them for granted.
So as this Valentines day draws to a close ask yourself what do you give someone when you love them.
After all Love also means to make your special person happy !
Am i right ?