Why is Deepu Behaving Like A Housewife? - Page 9

Originally posted by: Shaitan-Haiwan

That’s not what I’m saying. I said that Ranveer is posting things as if he’s lazying around his wife is cooking things for him

I just find it odd that someone like Deepu who is all about feminism and not changing her last name - but now wants to behave like a sati savitri in the kitchen ?

How does cooking make someone into a sati savitri? My mom cooks for our family and she also works aswell, my mom is a strong women and does things out of her own choice, she is the boss of our house and my dad is the one that listens to her and what she says, my mom has the strongest voice in our house

We need to stop seeing cooking as something weak, when a man cooks we praise him, but when a woman cooks we think she is being a typical housewife who is less than her husband

And again, Ranveer didn't ask Deepika to cook, she wants to do it, she enjoys doing it, if it makes her happy then why do people have a problem with it?

and what is any harm even been a satti savitri ?

if their is no harm in been a shameless siutty woman, there should be NO SHAME in being a satti savitri as well (generally speaking for all females)

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Originally posted by: zara321

How does cooking make someone into a sati savitri? My mom cooks for our family and she also works aswell, my mom is a strong women and does things out of her own choice, she is the boss of our house and my dad is the one that listens to her and what she says, my mom has the strongest voice in our house

We need to stop seeing cooking as something weak, when a man cooks we praise him, but when a woman cooks we think she is being a typical housewife who is less than her husband

And again, Ranveer didn't ask Deepika to cook, she wants to do it, she enjoys doing it, if it makes her happy then why do people have a problem with it?

Cooking doesn’t make you sati savitri but it does Deepika, she’s again trying to show off and shove her marriage down our throats while listening to Ranbir Kapoor songs

How do you know Ranveer didn’t ask her? He’s behaving like a typical desi man enjoying and demanding food from his wife and then bragging online

Originally posted by: AllThatCritique

Your entire response doesn't leave room for choice. And feminism is essentially about choice. Women have too little/ men have too much. And equality of choice is what feminism aspires for.

Yes, our grandmoms were probably forced to be housewives. They weren't given a choice. So feminism works for the choice. But it doesn't give it as the only choice just like original problem.

Italics@ Absolutely untrue. Women have different aspirations and ambitions in throughout various stages in life. Just like men do too. Human beings in general. Yes, patriarchal society puts the onus on the men to be money providers, women to be homemakers but the choice to flip that notion is what breaking the stereotype is about. People must do what they aspire to and shouldn't be forced. This is vital.

Bold @ We don't teach them anything. We give them the tools and let them decide. Free will. Men or women both. It's not a hard concept to grasp. Why can't our sons be househusbands if they want. Why isn't that respectable. It's because somewhere society has a demeaning view of the housewife or thinks that housework is a woman's job therefore not worthy enough for a man. Also men should always hold the money pockets. Men are the ones good with money.

If someone's son wants to be a house husband that's fine, if someone's daughter wants to be housewife that's fine. They don't get to have a say in it if the spouse is okay with it. If they both want to work that's fine, if one wants to work that's fine. The permutations or combinations depend on the freedom of choice and the couple themselves. Nobody else. To take away that from both men and women and asking them to be one way or the other strictly is the problem in the first place.

Also the problem is also seeing the work of the housewife as something demeaning. That's also regressive. It's been seen like that for time immemorial because of patriarchal society and it's time to acknowledge that labour around the house is actual work too. Respectable work as any other. Essentially if two people are in a marriage and one works at a job and one in the house, they are BOTH providing for the family. That needs to be acknowledged as well by the couple and the families,socities at large. It's not pathetic in any way to take care of a home. A housewife isnt couch ornament,in most Indian families. And I find very demeaning to say a spouse taking care of a couple's home is living off the other. It's a marriage and that involves this basic understanding that two people hold the same footing. Both provide albeit differently. If not, then the spouse who thinks like that doesn't deserve to be married.

Someone taking care of the house, husband or wife,is the homemaker. Men have that choice too. Maybe not so much in desi societies because log kya kahenge syndrome but surely abroad. Even in India, I have plenty techie couple friends down south who after the birth of their child, the dad decided to stay home and take up the housework when the mom goes back to work because she earns more. With proper support from families, minimum societal judgement and with growing nuclear families, times can change. But if the wife wants to stay home, she has the right to. Nobody can call her choice 'regressive' just because they think women should be one way.Just like nobody should mock the husband's choice to stay home as some kinda dhabba on his manhood and status as a man as we do in desi societies. That's needs to change as well.

Also nobody should teach anyone what to be. They can decide it themselves. Parents and society as whole should work towards treating daughters the same way sons are treated, raising them with the same standards of education and liberty to choose and then being okay with whatever they choose to do. You can't take away someone's free will to do anything.

Financial independence is an issue ofcourse. But if there's enough security on both sides and the finances from one partner gets divided properly then I see no problem. Men who can't acknowledge their wife's work as actual work and choose not provide for her financially just like she does for him through managing the household are the problem.

Everything you said is true for an ideal world. But sadly, we dont live in a world where everything is ideal. Truth is, girls from an early age are conditioned to become homemakers subconsciously, while boys are groomed for the outside world.

In a society where "home comes before everything for women" is still a mantra, there is no respect in being a housewife. And given the choice, no woman would actually opt to become a housewife unless her specific circumstances demand it from her.

Yes there are some households where women are actually housewives by choice, but those are mostly spoilt rich princess-type women who have been told from childhood that "Daddy and after that hubby will fulfill all your wishes, you never need to lift a finger to do anything".

Women in general don't grow up dreaming of becoming housewives one day. And that's a fact.

Ranveer commented on Boman Irani's insta live with johnny lever, he said he is helping deepika in the house, so he isn't sitting on sofa all day doing nothing

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Everything you said is true for an ideal world. But sadly, we dont live in a world where everything is ideal. Truth is, girls from an early age are conditioned to become homemakers subconsciously, while boys are groomed for the outside world.

In a society where "home comes before everything for women" is still a mantra, there is no respect in being a housewife. And given the choice, no woman would actually opt to become a housewife unless her specific circumstances demand it from her.

Yes there are some households where women are actually housewives by choice, but those are mostly spoilt rich princess-type women who have been told from childhood that "Daddy and after that hubby will fulfill all your wishes, you never need to lift a finger to do anything".

Women in general don't grow up dreaming of becoming housewives one day. And that's a fact.

My friend has been working since she was 18 to support her parents in hard times..she married late..wanted to quit her job. But her husband said he had taken a few loans which needed to be paid off so it's better if she works..in couple of years she had a kid and again wanted to take few years break..again hubby was against it as loans weren't paid off and he wanted to buy a bigger house. She kept working. Eventually he found n oversees opportunity in UK temporarily and moved there..the climate didn't suit my friend..her kid also wasn't able to adjust..they both returned..the husband kept on extending his contract saying he doesn't enjoy working in India...she kept managing both house and kid here.. finally she has become so independent that doesn't need to with her hubby any more. Both mom n daughter r living their own life..she has started freelancing and spending more time with daughter as she is growing up.

What do u have to say about her?

Where was her choice when she wanted to quit? Where was her choice in being forced to stay alone?

If Deepika goes to Bangalore and cooks for parents and sister no one would make it an issue

Imagine Ash if she cooks for her daughter will it be a big thing? Not really

For all may be Deepika or Ash may be cooking or washing clothes some days for their family members Its not a very big thing

We look at glamour and money and assume thats real life

But thats only work, real life is at home and thats usually hidden from world

A CEO or business man must be going back home and helping his child in school work or playing

Same way a heroine is cooking for family

Remember Deepika and Ash are big heroine for us not for their family members

For family they are just another member not this big heroine anyways

Like Virat Kohli if he goes home he may help his mom at home, hes not indian cricket captain at home. Hes just a family member.

No one will care for your status in outside world at home. If they do they are wrong and just trying to please you to get in your good books for some benefits.

Originally posted by: Givemyaccount

Deepu is doing things she would have never done for any of her past boyfriend. Only bf she has ever made a cake for was Sid Mallay. It’s so pathetic how brainwashed she is by this immature kid. Those who are defending her choice in this thread. Yes she is doing out of love (maybe now people can stop saying he deserves better bla-bla-bla she doesn’t love him bla-bla-bla). He wanted to marry someone who will treat him like a baby and that’s exactly why he married Deepu and not any woman. So he can have someone cleaning behind him That’s why it’s so funny to me when people pity him, pity Deepika not him. It’s her choice, that’s what saddens me.

When Deepika started dating him he was not a super star so she must have loved his character

In bollywood all are fickle hardly any loyalty or genuineness, they potray something to outside are something else inside.

Ranveer atleast is not like that, hes a kid man and portrays so in public too with his actions and talks sometimes. Majority indian men want wife to mother them only, very few will clean after themselves anyways. So whys it an issue with Ranveer? Indian audience is shocked that deepika does not hate ranbir kapoor for betraying her and can be friends with her bf. Thats why they think ranveer does not deserve her.

Originally posted by: Shaitan-Haiwan

Cooking doesn’t make you sati savitri but it does Deepika, she’s again trying to show off and shove her marriage down our throats while listening to Ranbir Kapoor songs

How do you know Ranveer didn’t ask her? He’s behaving like a typical desi man enjoying and demanding food from his wife and then bragging online

I was agreeing with you at the beginning but I see you have no clear point. Those songs belong to no actors but if anything those are also her songs. How we are going to after a woman for listening popular songs what the hell is even going on that website? Stick to the housewife talk and don’t bring irrelevant stuff to bulk up.