Family vs Family

I have just one question which keeps making me stop and wonder..

Abir chose his family over Mishti, even if blackmail was the reason, he chose his family and their happiness and he wants Mishti to understand that.. Mishti never reached out to Kuhu also to find out what happened, it was all between Abir and Mishti..

But now Mishti is doing the same, again whatever her reasons, she is choosing her family over Abir, but Abir wants her to not to do that, and he is ready to go to the extent of telling Nishant to back off, taking Kuhu's help and according to spoilers, running away with her...

How is Abir a nice guy then? He has nothing to lose anymore, his brother knows the truth, he hates his mother and rest everyone is happy with him and Mishti, it is because of him and his family that people are taunting Mishti also.. But Mishti? Her parents abandoned her and these people gave her the family she was craving for, supported her in all her decisions, good and bad, but she is ready to abandon them for Abir, who left her before for his family... I am sorry but none of these come out as good people, or someone anyone should be dreaming of finding and falling in love with.. Mishti can ask for more time, or talk to her family, but the way she is behaving right now also, she is just insulting everyone around, her family and her best friend..

Originally posted by: cutepigs

I have just one question which keeps making me stop and wonder..

Abir chose his family over Mishti, even if blackmail was the reason, he chose his family and their happiness and he wants Mishti to understand that.. Mishti never reached out to Kuhu also to find out what happened, it was all between Abir and Mishti..

But now Mishti is doing the same, again whatever her reasons, she is choosing her family over Abir, but Abir wants her to not to do that, and he is ready to go to the extent of telling Nishant to back off, taking Kuhu's help and according to spoilers, running away with her...

How is Abir a nice guy then? He has nothing to lose anymore, his brother knows the truth, he hates his mother and rest everyone is happy with him and Mishti, it is because of him and his family that people are taunting Mishti also.. But Mishti? Her parents abandoned her and these people gave her the family she was craving for, supported her in all her decisions, good and bad, but she is ready to abandon them for Abir, who left her before for his family... I am sorry but none of these come out as good people, or someone anyone should be dreaming of finding and falling in love with.. Mishti can ask for more time, or talk to her family, but the way she is behaving right now also, she is just insulting everyone around, her family and her best friend..

Mishti is being into a loveless relation,Abir doesn't want Mish to marry Nish becoz here three lives r being destroyed together..Mishti is in love with Abir and Nish is going to be suffered..that's what Abir thinks..today h told her that no matter what she decides he will always love Mishti..that is Abir..the decision of marriage was not Abir's ..so how come Abir is being bad here..

People are obessed with Nish that they always find Abir wrong..in my opinion Mish running away is truly a good option..and I'm sure bm and bp will understand..and insulting which family??u feel that Mish is a part of that family which wanted her to sacrifice her love for Kuhu,who thinks that if nish's heartbreak happens,then the reason would be Mish..except for bm,I don't think no body in mah family deserves Mish..they r clearly ignoring Mish's unhappiness..so she should be unhappy all the lyf just for her family..u r clearly saying that she should repay mahs for their love..

Only Abir loves and cares for Mishti truly and mishbir belong to each other🤗

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Oh so it's like I am doing the same thing which you did, no matter it's right or wrong

We all wanted abir's redemption for the same thing right, that he chose to break up with mishti for sake of kunal, though he had no option but his way of breaking up was wrong. He's regretting, he's apologizing. And if he knows that the girl in front of him loves him too then why can't he make her understand that her decision can ruin 3 lives. He's actually concerned for nannu too

And insulting her best friend, like really ,her so called best friend is insulting their friendship, he always knew mishti's love for abir, he now knows why abir did that, but then also he had turned a blind eye towards all of this, he invited himself in all this.

And I never considered abir wrong while break up time as he had no other option as an elder brother, his way of breaking up was wrong but not the decision, he should have told mishti the truth and then would have break up, but his redemption is actually turned to be the best, I loved it and now also I am not considering mishti wrong because she don't have other option, bp gave her choice to choose between abir and nannu which actually meant abir and mahs family, and she had no other option.

Now it would either nannu or mishti's decision which could take story further.

I actually went back to read what I wrote because the answers confused me.. where did I say am favoring Nishant or Abir is insulting Nishant? I said Mishti is insulting Nishant by telling him she wants to marry him and will never break his heart, while on the other hand is still pining over Abir, and am sorry, for me, that's insulting, nothing else.. if anyone is calling that Mishti and Abir ka true love, then please, we as it is think on very different levels.

As for bp, he did think about her happiness and he was okay with Abir returning till his mother came and threatened him that she'll make Mishti 's life hell in that house.. name 1 father who will not fight everyone post it to stop that marriage?? Mishti doesnt know about Abir's mother threatening bp, but if she really feels that a decision he takes for her would be wrong, she needs to talk, not say yes and then cheat him..

I am sorry, but for me, both are behaving horribly.. Yes Nishant is maybe being selfish now, but he gave a million outs Mishti, beyond a point, he also started believing and dreaming, so I cannot blame him... that's my opinion, for me, love is supposed to be selfless, not cheating your own loved ones, no matter what color of pink and red you wanna paint it...

Originally posted by: cutepigs

I have just one question which keeps making me stop and wonder..

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How is Abir a nice guy then? He has nothing to lose anymore, his brother knows the truth, he hates his mother and rest everyone is happy with him and Mishti, it is because of him and his family that people are taunting Mishti also.. But Mishti? Her parents abandoned her and these people gave her the family she was craving for, supported her in all her decisions, good and bad, but she is ready to abandon them for Abir, who left her before for his family... I am sorry but none of these come out as good people, or someone anyone should be dreaming of finding and falling in love with.. Mishti can ask for more time, or talk to her family, but the way she is behaving right now also, she is just insulting everyone around, her family and her best friend..

great post @cutepigs. A few similar ones here https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/yeh-rishtey-hai-pyaar-ke/5146828/annoyed-with-writers (hey Sam and Malika!) ..

I have the same question as you. What Abir is doing, as Sam, Malika and mats said on the other thread, has made him worse than where he was when we started. His sense of entitlement is at an all time high. Nishant very clearly said, Abir does not come across as a stable option to Mishti. She is addicted to him. Who knows about addiction better than Nishant himself

Mishti still has time. She can be honest with her family, own this mess she created and ask for Abir to be accepted as her groom. Stop hurting them. If she needs her stalker to speak up for her in public places, then she better stop raving about her self created image of a free woman. Gah!

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen

great post @cutepigs. A few similar ones here https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/yeh-rishtey-hai-pyaar-ke/5146828/annoyed-with-writers (hey Sam and Malika!) ..

I have the same question as you. What Abir is doing, as Sam, Malika and mats said on the other thread, has made him worse than where he was when we started. His sense of entitlement is at an all time high. Nishant very clearly said, Abir does not come across as a stable option to Mishti. She is addicted to him. Who knows about addiction better than Nishant himself

Mishti still has time. She can be honest with her family, own this mess she created and ask for Abir to be accepted as her groom. Stop hurting them. If she needs her stalker to speak up for her in public places, then she better stop raving about her self created image of a free woman. Gah!

Don't insult mishbir's love by saying that it is just an addiction..it is the most purest form of love..u call Abir stalker then what is this Nishant doing now..y is he behind Mish every place she goes..I agree he is her fiance and he has the ryts to do so but giving space is most important in any relationship.

Baat jab Abir aur nannu ki aaati hai toh logon ko lagega ki nannu is the best option..so try to insult Abir's love is what they can do

PS:it's just my opinion and I really don't want to fight with u guys..🤗🤗

Exactly.. I don't understand why nayi soch means cheating your parents? I am also this century and I talk to my parents when I am not on their side for anything, I dont say yes and then continue my merry way...

I have a guy best friend who knows all my secrets, maybe even more than my family knows at times, but I know that no matter the circumstances, I will never cheat him.. if I promise him something, I'll see it through or talk to him if situations change, not go behind his back..

I know it is Abir and mishti's story so they will be shown the shining star and everybody will accept whatever they do, but I feel these kind of stories are what scares parents when we come home and tell them we are in love, because they feel they wont have a say at all because we'll run away or humiliate them by repeatedly saying we are on their side while cheating them behind their back..

Am actually liking Kuhu's struggle.. she is stuck between the two boys, but she still is prioritising her own brother here because she knows Mishti will always be this person who can abandon anyone for Abir, irrespective of what's at stake, so she doesnt want her life for her brother ...

I think she means addiction in the form where something has broken you and you know it's not good for you but you cant let it go.. It was pure till they decided to play gambles on each other, that and the way Mishti is cheating her family now, is what is bad.. Abir is actually not wrong at all, he is being super clear to his family and isnt lying to anyone right now atleast...

Nishant would be called wrong for what he is doing, following her, if he wasnt being proven right each time, for me at least...

I had to post earlier in a rush. So I am posting in detail now. Great points on this thread and the other one I posted above. I think this show has a lot to offer but the makers keep shying from tackling the key problems. 👎🏼

Firstly, Abir. They should address his sense of entitlement.He is the way he is because nanu played the good cop more than he should have. Bigben had very few resources at hand to discipline him. We need to remember she had to forever be prepared for Mehul to make an appearance. The writers should address Abir’s need for absconding, WITHOUT involving Mishti. They should show that Abir struggled with the high demands that Bigben placed on him and how he working through that now. This habit of packing his bags should stop. He should start balancing his relationships. How does he afford this lifestyle? He does not draw a huge salary from the NGO one would hope. A single phone tracking app cannot be that profitable. He needs to turn up at the family business more. There is so much meat to exploit here. Dear Makers, show us a redemption where Abir starts to see his mother’s point of view. How she made it in a man’s world. There is very little fun in showing us a vamp mother in law. Instead a son who started to see his mother’s point of view will be more fun. One who teams with his half-brother to manage Bigben’s insecurities. Imagine how entertaining that would be. (They should have done that while Mishti was in London… but better late than never). I don’t want to see a weak limpy (no GM 😈 ) male lead. Do something worthwhile with the Bigben’s character.

Mishti’s character and her rock bottom self-worth has all the underpinnings of someone who would look for this addiction sort of love.One that keeps her image intact in her mind. The image of the “perfect” person that various foster family members have created in her mind. At one point they gave her a great dialogue - Abir taught her to accept love and accept her family. I never saw that happen. But even if we assume it did happen, the makers should show her confident enough to tell her family that she still loves Abir and now that he is ready to made amends, she would want to marry him. She needs to stop the jaap of “main sahee thee”. It’s okay to be right and still not be praised a gazillion times for it Mishti! Think again, are you sure you want the roller coaster that Abir is? Because your elders will ask you that question. Please own your love story. Don’t expect others to run it for you

Exactly.. they both come off as that toxic relationship right now that has the power to only burn and hurt.. they both need to individually grow first, into people who appreciate what others did for them rather than assuming it their duties or pity, be it Abir's mother or Maheshwari family.. They need to both stand up and take responsibility for their love story, at the same time, not months apart ...