Originally posted by: Madmadgirl
In many cultures and traditions, parents rely on their children and have expectations of them, whether it is to look after them when they are old, to marry the person of their choice or simply to respect them and to heed their advice.
Look after them in old age and respect-definitely, no question
Marry someone of their choice-no
Heed their advice-depends on the situation...
Is this right? Do children "owe" their parents simply because they brought them up?
I think parents are owed respect at least. Monetary no, if you think that way with your parents it's pathetic. They gave you life, life is priceless, in that way you can never pay them back. Relationship should be give and take of only love.
Should parents see nurturing and bringing up their children as something they did out of love or duty?
Idealistically love of course...realistically with the way some kids are being born these days,out of wedlock, people in some liberal cultures do it only for duty...
Do most parents see their children as individuals or as extensions of themselves, or a chance to live life "second time round" and to do it differently
Relive through children, big no no!! Your child will have different thought than you, he or she is an individual not an extension of you. Take for example the mom's dragging their daughters to child beauty contests, to make them what they could never be, teaching them to be vain at such a young age... I hate that kind of ideology.
~Shalini~
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