Do children 'owe' their parents?

In many cultures and traditions, parents rely on their children and have expectations of them, whether it is to look after them when they are old, to marry the person of their choice or simply to respect them and to heed their advice.

Is this right? Do children "owe" their parents simply because they brought them up?

Should parents see nurturing and bringing up their children as something they did out of love or duty?

Do most parents see their children as individuals or as extensions of themselves, or a chance to live life "second time round" and to do it differently

Would love to hear your views!

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Related Topic - https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/debate-mansion/722031/who-takes-care-of-old-parents

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Originally posted by: Madmadgirl

In many cultures and traditions, parents rely on their children and have expectations of them, whether it is to look after them when they are old, to marry the person of their choice or simply to respect them and to heed their advice.

Is this right? Do children "owe" their parents simply because they brought them up?

Can we factor out expectations that children have from parents, no. Wrong expectation in the cases is no no. Yes, deserved to be loved/respected/taken care of, as far as question of oweing, will take a pass on that.

Should parents see nurturing and bringing up their children as something they did out of love or duty?

Out of thier responsibility and ofcourse World peace😉 oops I meant love.

Do most parents see their children as individuals or as extensions of themselves, or a chance to live life "second time round" and to do it differently.

Don't think so in most cases is they want children to lead a happy /properous /independant lives.

Would love to hear your views!

😡M😡

When we say things like children owe parents, it makes parents' selfless love a loan. Parents have children because they want a family and they do everything to make sure that their children get all the good things in life. I don't think there is any compensation in their mind at that time.

When children grow up and talk about owing parents for all that they did, it is disrespect to them. This is strictly my opinion. Children should care/help their parents because they want to not as a reimbursement.

I am just taking selfless parents into account and not going into details about parents who remind their children of all the hardships they went through and 9 months they carried them in her womb or the sleepless nights they spent when the kid was sick.

Originally posted by: Madmadgirl

In many cultures and traditions, parents rely on their children and have expectations of them, whether it is to look after them when they are old, to marry the person of their choice or simply to respect them and to heed their advice.

true. this is the case with a typical indian family.

Is this right? Do children "owe" their parents simply because they brought them up?

expecting that ur children shd look after u coz u looked after them is not right. my parents do not expect it out of me but i still do care for them and respect them out of love and the values they instilled in us through being great role models. i'm the same with my kids. i do my best but do not expect anything in return. i am raising them coz i chose to bring them in this world and as a parent it is my duty to raise them. whether they respect me or look after me will be the choice they'll need to make out of their own free will.

Should parents see nurturing and bringing up their children as something they did out of love or duty?

both. as a parent it is ur duty to look after ur kids. loving comes naturally.

Do most parents see their children as individuals or as extensions of themselves, or a chance to live life "second time round" and to do it differently

they sure are individuals in their own right...even when they r itty bitty babies. i feel really proud when i am told that my older daughter resembles me a lot but i do not see her as my extension. thank god, she is far more smarter and mature than me😆 and i definitely do not want to live my life second time around thru them. all i can do is share my experiences and let them take whatever lessons they want to take out of them. this is how i was raised and this is how i'm raising my girls

Would love to hear your views!

😡M😡

Originally posted by: Maya_M

When we say things like children owe parents, it makes parents' selfless love a loan. Parents have children because they want a family and they do everything to make sure that their children get all the good things in life. I don't think there is any compensation in their mind at that time.

When children grow up and talk about owing parents for all that they did, it is disrespect to them. This is strictly my opinion. Children should care/help their parents because they want to not as a reimbursement.

I am just taking selfless parents into account and not going into details about parents who remind their children of all the hardships they went through and 9 months they carried them in her womb or the sleepless nights they spent when the kid was sick.

This is the perfect answer....its soo tru!..kids do wht they do because they want to and out of love...and parents do for their kids because they want their kids to be better people...and thats that

Originally posted by: SlytherinPrnces

This is the perfect answer....its soo tru!..kids do wht they do because they want to and out of love...and parents do for their kids because they want their kids to be better people...and thats that

SP - like the disclaimer😉 - only selfless parents considered!!!😆

But a lot of parents, particularly from the Asian subcontinent, could easily fall into the category described in your third papragraph.

|In such case, is that right? Just because parents did endure the hardships or traumas that they did, do they have the right to "call" upon that form the children to be repaid in some kind of loyalty??

MM- if parents do what they do because they want their kids to be better - what about the kids? What if they feel theyre doing just fine, or maybe that they dont want to do it the way the parents want them to?

Forced marriage is an example that comes to mind - I suppose the parents will always say they they were doing what's best for their child....but are they really??

😡M😡

Originally posted by: Gauri_3