Baby talk - Page 4

Originally posted by: AreYaar

She has quite a deep seated spiteful streak.

Waise toh dimaag zero hai but aise kaam karne mein Itna dimaag laga liya. Waah 👏🏻🙄

Haan Bas Logon ko dikhana hai, sindoor lagaana hai, choodiyaan pehenni hain, vrat rakhna hai, pooja karni hai, bacche paida karne hain..,,blah blah blah. 😴😴😴 what a hell boring shallow woman she is.

People can keep hating on Mini’s mahaanta....I’ll take a person with some sense of responsibility anyday over a shallow, spiteful person.

@ bold exactly same here.

And what cam mini do if the opposite person dosent take proper responsibility she has to over compensate and get tagged as mahaan

Originally posted by: inlieu

I think she always wanted the status of a wife/being married and living a proper married life and somehow being in this current state helps her feel that she is able to manage such a relationship, that the previous one breaking down wasn't her fault, that she is woman enough to hold on to this marriage and her husband this time. She is still dealing with baggage from her past and so everything she does now is in comparison with her previous marriage. That's why the colorful clothes and look are important to her in contrast with the simple palette we saw her in at the beginning of the show.

There's nothing wrong with being totally in love with HS and going crazy about him with emotion, but I wish she'd see that there's more to life than being a wife. And if she does indeed want to be just his wife, then do it all the way. Not just cooking, dressing up, fasting, having babies, but also being his life partner in every sense. Woh to mujhe door door tak nahin dikh raha.

I don't mind if her growth is slow par kahin se to start kare. When Minnie was try to explain to her that the issues in the business were coming up because she wasn't going to the shop, the look on her face was that of a student bunking class. She just doesn't seem too interested... I feel so bad seeing this.

@ bold yes and also the look on her face when she asked mini why where is kammo? Did she really think kammo will come after the insult, which la la land she lives in. And she dint even know kammo wasnt in the shop with NB managing everything alone, what kind of supervising she is doing with a shop just in front of her house

And how does exactly does she want to doobo in HS love. By talking/gossiping to others about how lucky she is to get HS, how he takes care of her, gives her respect etc etc. Cant she just walk down to that shop and supervise a bit. While NB and mini were worried how to complete orders here she was chit chatting with her SIL about HS and his love

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Frankly, Babita is an escapist. As you said, even if simply wants to be a wife, be a proper one....but she is simply about appearances on all fronts. The cosmetic trappings is all she can think of. The actual hard work of managing relationships, including that of husband wife is beyond her. She takes solace in rituals and shringaar since those give the appearance of being married, rather than actually having to deal with people.

So no wonder she wants to sham away from doing work for her own business. She’s behaving like a lazy bum who can’t be bothered taking responsibility.....she just wants the appearance of things rather than actually doing the work to make something real and meaningful....as if simply acquiring a label is enough 🙄

All her life she “managed” relationships by doing seva....she’s doesn’t really seem to know how to cultivate meaningful relationships....it’s transactional.

With HS, she’s now comfortable in the knowledge that he loves her so she’s showing him off like a trophy. She really doesn’t know how to savor something.

Even when she won that Chef Vikas challenge, she told NB in the next epi that the only reason she was happy about winning it and seeing her pic in the newspaper was so that Ashok would see it and she’d prove a point to him 🙄🙄

So basically she can never rise above this no matter what good things life gives her 🤷‍♀️

yes an escapist exactly.

She dint support HS during imarti track because she wanted to escape given the chance because of what HS said.

She dint want to have to do anything with khuranas after marriage after her outburst because basically she dint want to face them after the outburst . dint want them to tell mini bad about her so the best route dont allow mini also to meet them

After the CD fiasco she dint even try to speak to mini least her happy marriage bubble would break if she showed her hurt or disappointment so force HS to speak to her and if he dint she dint even bother.

When kammo taunted her about mickey HS she again took the easy route of making mini toe her line instead of answering back to her. Also instead of working around MI MI relationship and making them realise boundaries in a friendship and trusting them to understand, she took the easy way out for herself by asking mi-mi to break friendship. Because its a long way to go for a mother to keep an eye on a budding friendship between her daughter and her guy best friend

Even with HS mini relationship she insists for an immediate solution from them. isnt prepared to wait it out to grow organically.

now she dosent want to work hard wants to sit home and bask in romantic love. So NB should work and after all the taunting kammo should also work.

@ bold yes i forgot about that she has had this streak to showoff to vindicate herself. even the independence and the want of making patiala babes a international brand to show off to ashok. now that she has a new thing to show off--- HS so she dosent need her catering service

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Is she? I really don't think so anymore.

She just becomes utterly more and more shallow, petty, vindictive, and superficial day by day.....most people are happy with this token shringaar, sajna dhajna only.....my mind doesn't work like that.....I need substance in a person, in a relationship to root for.

I didn't start watching this show for a couple....I watched it for the overall relationships.....so I don't need a couple to be romancing to be shown their "value".....if HB aren't gonna amount to more than this, then I'm least interested in them. Yeh trophy husband version of HS Babita and unke fans ko mubarak ho....humein na chahiye.

HS-Mini are the last hope for this show, otherwise done hai.

She does have it in her deep down but if that's never going to be used for focused on, then what can we do?

@bold, it's a shame things have come to this.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

I have no expectations from Babita to become stronger.....shukar hoga if she doesn't become any more shallow and vindictive....wohi kaafi hai in mahaan "grahastin" hasti ke liye ab *rolls eyes*

All her lame obsession with yeh vrat, woh pooja just annoys me even more.....blahhh.

I remember a scene earlier on when HS was scolding mother and daughter saying that the way women like them put men on a pedestal and deified them meant they eventually ended up being mistreated, but they still went back for more and such women would always be treated that way.

I feel like Babita's fallen back into that trap of all that glitters but doesn't see that it's not gold. Ugh...

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

This made me cry and honestly broke a little something inside me. I don't know how true this is but I really want to stand against this idea. I don't want HS to just settle for something in life or hold back on who he really is. I want him to be him. Hanuman Singh, jaisa bhi hai par pura chahiye mujhe. Yeh adha adhoora nahi. I know you didn't mean to, but this hurt me a lot. 😭😭😭

I want him to be all that too and deep down both Minnie and HS himself wants that for him but he's masking all that. The way that drawer in their room was shut with his mother's sindoor ki dibbi was symbolic of him closing a part of himself off to Babita that he had wanted to share. We've seen more such examples in recent times.

I am sorry you were hurt by this, but this is what we've seen from the jhumka scene onward and it's been repeatedly scene how he's withdrawing slowly. I feel as if in some ways he might ironically end up in the same state that Babita did in her first marriage if things continue this way - shell and casing with no filling.

It's unfair and it's heartbreaking but who knows, maybe that's what the CVs are trying to show. It might be a second chance at happiness for Babita but at the cost of losing out on making the most of her potential as a woman, and the potential to truly have a life partner in every sense of the word. HS uske saath ho kar bhi akela aur andar se khaali na reh jaaye. I don't think a man like him would be able to bear it year after year and still be able to give his 100% to keep Babita happy all the time while getting none of the more soulful things back in return.

Originally posted by: naq5

@ bold exactly same here.

And what cam mini do if the opposite person dosent take proper responsibility she has to over compensate and get tagged as mahaan

I think HS has noticed this in the past and on some level sees this happening even now. This might be what drives him to truly becomes Minnie's father and the day it happens, he won't stand for all this. He won't let his daughter suffocate.

Originally posted by: naq5

@ bold yes and also the look on her face when she asked mini why where is kammo? Did she really think kammo will come after the insult, which la la land she lives in. And she dint even know kammo wasnt in the shop with NB managing everything alone, what kind of supervising she is doing with a shop just in front of her house

And how does exactly does she want to doobo in HS love. By talking/gossiping to others about how lucky she is to get HS, how he takes care of her, gives her respect etc etc. Cant she just walk down to that shop and supervise a bit. While NB and mini were worried how to complete orders here she was chit chatting with her SIL about HS and his love

Again, it's fine if she's nuts about him and feels he showers her with so much love. Has she stopped to think what she's giving him in return? I haven't seen that, not even once.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Is she? I really don't think so anymore.

She just becomes utterly more and more shallow, petty, vindictive, and superficial day by day.....most people are happy with this token shringaar, sajna dhajna only.....my mind doesn't work like that.....I need substance in a person, in a relationship to root for.

I didn't start watching this show for a couple....I watched it for the overall relationships.....so I don't need a couple to be romancing to be shown their "value".....if HB aren't gonna amount to more than this, then I'm least interested in them. Yeh trophy husband version of HS Babita and unke fans ko mubarak ho....humein na chahiye.

HS-Mini are the last hope for this show, otherwise done hai.

Bingo.

How can she repeat the same mistake again ? Financial and emotional independence is very necessary. She just wants to show off that see i am a marriage material and i too can be a good wife .

Originally posted by: inlieu

She does have it in her deep down but if that's never going to be used for focused on, then what can we do?

@bold, it's a shame things have come to this.

WHERE deep down though, Jean? DO tell me....please do.....lol I have tried long and hard....I have rooted for, connected with her character.....greys included.....but where is this deeeeeep down ability that she has that I'm totally being unable to see now?

She's been given PLENTY of opportunities to show if there is more to her.....every single opportunity culminates in the same childish, self-absorbed, emotionally stunted behavior.....so tell me where deep down I can find this in her.....my mind is exhausted.