Baby talk - Page 3

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Frankly, Babita is an escapist. As you said, even if simply wants to be a wife, be a proper one....but she is simply about appearances on all fronts. The cosmetic trappings is all she can think of. The actual hard work of managing relationships, including that of husband wife is beyond her. She takes solace in rituals and shringaar since those give the appearance of being married, rather than actually having to deal with people.

So no wonder she wants to sham away from doing work for her own business. She’s behaving like a lazy bum who can’t be bothered taking responsibility.....she just wants the appearance of things rather than actually doing the work to make something real and meaningful....as if simply acquiring a label is enough 🙄

All her life she “managed” relationships by doing seva....she’s doesn’t really seem to know how to cultivate meaningful relationships....it’s transactional.

With HS, she’s now comfortable in the knowledge that he loves her so she’s showing him off like a trophy. She really doesn’t know how to savor something.

Even when she won that Chef Vikas challenge, she told NB in the next epi that the only reason she was happy about winning it and seeing her pic in the newspaper was so that Ashok would see it and she’d prove a point to him 🙄🙄

So basically she can never rise above this no matter what good things life gives her 🤷‍♀️

When she was holding Minnie and HS' hands on each side, I should have felt happy but I felt that they were almost just objects of adornment to show her new status and success, to prove others wrong. That just felt so so off, I can't even begin to explain it. And yes, I wasn't able to put my finger on it but now that you mention it, HS is like a trophy husband to her now. If Ashok ever returns, I know I'm just going to cringe as she shows off about HS in front of him.

Please... she's capable of so much more than this.

Originally posted by: AreYaar

Exactly. The signs are already there. They seem to have nothing between them beyond the initial sparks and “romance”....that won’t sustain when life’s real challenges will require partnership and communication.....not appeasement and ji huzoori.

Babita se toh comprehension ki expectation bhi nahin hai but HS bhi clueless hi nikla shaadi ke maamle mein 🤷‍♀️ Lol everyone is treating it in a shallow manner.

And I get the feeling that real challenges have yet to come in their lives. When that happens, uh-oh. Kahaan humne socha Babita will get stronger and step up to help him come out of his grief and childhood trauma, but nope... Aisa kuch nahin dikh raha aur umeed bhi nahin hai mujhe.

Originally posted by: tk2015

Even if they had chosen to maintain that level of maturity or growth in Babita, I would've been fine. She has instead been made to reverse in terms of emotional growth.

It's like the little improvement or emancipation /independence they showed has been white washed. I feel so irritated, because this is not the fight or story I invested in.

I wanted to back a single mother get on her feet and become a source of inspiration for her child and those around her.

I can't believe she's the same person who once paved the way for Kammo-Madhu to be independent. Didn't she herself say they've tasted freedom and will surely come back to work with her? Where is that woman now?!

As for the Chachi, I have the same exact emotions. You have a MIL figure, it's NB. You leave your catering business on her shoulders and come do "seva" of your chachi? Bhai, yeah chal kya raha hai?

Same here. I don't mind if growth or change is at a slow pace, because 17 years is a long time and she has high inertia to change, but at least they can show that a teeny tiny bit is happening. Par nahin, yahan pe to full stop laga diya.

There's so much potential to show Babita experimenting with new things in life, making mistakes and learning, forward spiral, etc. Why aren't they going that way?

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Exactly! If they had shown her maintain that level of maturity/growth and slowly progressed from there, I would have been fine.

@Bold: Exactly. This is not the story or the character that I invested in. I cannot just watch the show for Mini-HS's bond, or Mini's so called maturity and sensibility, or whatever. As a daughter, she gave wings to her mom, which is great, now the writers need to show how Babita takes that and moves forward. It seems writers are the least interested in Babita's chracter arc, her growth, and emancipation. With 200 episodes, we became attuned with all three characters. They aren't able to maintain the focus and balance to the three characters equally. They get carried away and always gear towards one or 2 characters that the audience is bound to feel disconnected from the rest. The show cannot just move forward when you just give constant focus to one specific character, you have to maintain that balance. I mean just how long do they plan to show Babita like this? 🤔

Even HS wants Babita to do Chachi's seva, I am like okkk ... Typical saas-bahu crap.

Paridhi also looked so-so when talking about the fact that this is not meant to be a saas-bahu show thank goodness but there was some sort of thing like that coming up but with a "message".

I can't even imagine how Aniruddh feels - he probably hates tracks like this, and must be regretting the day he called this show content-driven. Bechara.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Same here. I don't mind if growth or change is at a slow pace, because 17 years is a long time and she has high inertia to change, but at least they can show that a teeny tiny bit is happening. Par nahin, yahan pe to full stop laga diya.

There's so much potential to show Babita experimenting with new things in life, making mistakes and learning, forward spiral, etc. Why aren't they going that way?

Same question. Please ask the writers 😭

Originally posted by: inlieu

Paridhi also looked so-so when talking about the fact that this is not meant to be a saas-bahu show thank goodness but there was some sort of thing like that coming up but with a "message".

I can't even imagine how Aniruddh feels - he probably hates tracks like this, and must be regretting the day he called this show content-driven. Bechara.

I don't think both Paridhi and Aniruddh are happy with how the show is going or how their characters are progressing. It must be frustrating esp for Paridhi.

I harped about this show to my friend and said its a must watch. I feel so stupid now 🤔

Originally posted by: inlieu

When she was holding Minnie and HS' hands on each side, I should have felt happy but I felt that they were almost just objects of adornment to show her new status and success, to prove others wrong. That just felt so so off, I can't even begin to explain it. And yes, I wasn't able to put my finger on it but now that you mention it, HS is like a trophy husband to her now. If Ashok ever returns, I know I'm just going to cringe as she shows off about HS in front of him.

Please... she's capable of so much more than this.

Is she? I really don't think so anymore.

She just becomes utterly more and more shallow, petty, vindictive, and superficial day by day.....most people are happy with this token shringaar, sajna dhajna only.....my mind doesn't work like that.....I need substance in a person, in a relationship to root for.

I didn't start watching this show for a couple....I watched it for the overall relationships.....so I don't need a couple to be romancing to be shown their "value".....if HB aren't gonna amount to more than this, then I'm least interested in them. Yeh trophy husband version of HS Babita and unke fans ko mubarak ho....humein na chahiye.

HS-Mini are the last hope for this show, otherwise done hai.

Originally posted by: inlieu

And I get the feeling that real challenges have yet to come in their lives. When that happens, uh-oh. Kahaan humne socha Babita will get stronger and step up to help him come out of his grief and childhood trauma, but nope... Aisa kuch nahin dikh raha aur umeed bhi nahin hai mujhe.

I have no expectations from Babita to become stronger.....shukar hoga if she doesn't become any more shallow and vindictive....wohi kaafi hai in mahaan "grahastin" hasti ke liye ab *rolls eyes*

All her lame obsession with yeh vrat, woh pooja just annoys me even more.....blahhh.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Unfortunately, I have also begun to feel that it is about having a woman's touch, not living a lonely life in that big haveli. A wife and kid to complete his life is what he looked for, and I don't know how long this jee hazuri will last but I just don't see him getting life-long enjoyment and fulfillment out of this marriage from an emotional angle. The sparks and romance will fizzle out at some point and won't be able to hold this marriage together at this rate.

Perhaps he has decided to compromise and go for a simple easy life, rather than one with deep emotions and passion like he had with Imarti. It's his life, his wish, but it seems all wrong to me. I do think initially he had wanted a lot more, but realized that it may not be possible so is willing to scale back his expectations from her and this marriage. Sigh...

This made me cry and honestly broke a little something inside me. I don't know how true this is but I really want to stand against this idea. I don't want HS to just settle for something in life or hold back on who he really is. I want him to be him. Hanuman Singh, jaisa bhi hai par pura chahiye mujhe. Yeh adha adhoora nahi. I know you didn't mean to, but this hurt me a lot. 😭😭😭

I am going to stop watching this show i am not at all interested in watching this show any more. That's it i am quiting.