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Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Hanuman Singh can’t do without Babita. Fact.

Guy Loves her. Needs her. Adores her.

May be the issue is - how a low confident Babita landed up Hanuman which everyone here wanted. 🤣

Well, I don’t read lot of biased posts. Which starts with Babita is a horrible Mom and Hanuman and Mini will exist without Babita. I am like ok.. skip. 😆

Exactly. I don’t get the narrative that Hanuman doesn’t need Babita and if he were to just have Mini in his life, he will be fine playing a father to her. Ok really? Let Babita leave him then, we will see if he actually needs her or not. Both Mini and HS need Babita is a fact. Yeah, I guess people cannot fathom that HS actually ended up falling in love with a personality like Babita.

Neither HS nor Mini will exist without Babita, so this Babita ruined Mini-HS’s relationship is just a bunch of bs. Neither Mini nor HS were willing to work on their relationship post wedding. They were each in their own bubble 🤔.

P.S. I also love Hanuman’s character a lot. But let’s also call him out on things that he said that aren’t right, like we do with both Mini and Babita.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

This! +100000000

Everyone is like if Mini goes away, Hanuman won’t survive without her. Will go mad n all that jazz.

I am sure it will affect him, but not more than Babita. She is a freaking mother here. Her sole reason to Live was Mini for years.

This whole HS-Mini bond is above Babita and Mini is such a bubble. It’s not true. HS and Mini may love each other a lot but it can never be more than what Babita and Mini have. A growing up Daughter is like a Friend to Mother and vice versa. More so if you have been in place of this mother - daughter who have been thru hell and back.

Even if Mini goes away, she will crave Babita’s presence much more than She will crave Hanuman’s. Fact!

The downplaying of Babita’s role in HS-Mini bond is hilarious. The narrative that Babita is not important to either of HS - Mini and their bond is so LOL. To each their own. Kya keh sakte hai.

Yupp! If Mini goes away, the most affected will be Babita. It will affect HS too because he also loves her, but Babita is the mother and she will go crazy if Mini were to go away from her. Mini will also miss her hanuman uncle, her role mode, but it is a fact that Mini will miss her babes the most. The only person that’s been constant in her life for 18 years, her mother.

Mini-HS relationship is NOT above Mini-Babita relationship. Yeah righttt, Babita is not imp to HS-Mini bond 🙄.

From where I look at it, Babita has the most difficult job/responsibility out of the three to balance both the relationships. Both Mini-HS can get away by saying “baap nahi ban paya”, or “he isn’t my father and I am okay with it”. Babita cant do that. She’s is the mother and the wife to Mini-HS. How will she escape and get away from these relationships? She can’t, which is why it’s harder for her... she will have to bring balance to both the relationships.

Originally posted by: deefy89

What bond with this be exactly? The bond where mini has taken over being the parent and babita is the child? Yes I agree mini has gotten away with saying a lot to her mother but she can’t be compared to how other kids speak to her mother because most kids don’t have to be the adult in that relationship, as mini has. And when they do have to be the adult, you find situations like this where they’ll speak to the person as tho it’s one adult speaking to another. I used to also think there was a bond till I realised it’s all one sided and all babita can be concerned about is image, self respect, what ppl will think. With that being said, it is a generational thing so that’s what she’s been taught to give importance to so it’s not really her fault

I agree with you that there is bias against hs but that’s because from the start they have written a character that has come across as perfect, but post wedding this is all in doubt.

Mini might have guided Babita ever since they left K house but she is far very far from being a mother to Babita at any point.. she was the guiding light but not every guidance we get is from mother..

She might have had to be an adult at various times but she has also made mistakes a kid would make.. for instance getting shoes for Babita missing college test . And she rightly got scolded for that by Babita.. if Babita was as self absorbed and selfish as you guys claim, she wouldnt have created a ruckus at Mini's step.. she wouldn't have stood against Meeta when Mini was called poisonous.. she wouldn't have supported Mini in college without any proof.. she wouldn't have stood against Ashok when Mini wanted to change her surname or when Ashok wanted them to take the case back against Sunny

Babita always stood up when it was about Mini.. whether it was against Dadu, Meeta or Ashok.. when Babita filed a case against her harraser, it was because she wanted to set a good example for her daughter.. if she went ahead with her divorce proceedings, it was because she saw that Mini was getting affected.. if she decided to throw the mangalsutra away, it was because she saw how traumatized Mini was because of Ashok's comments.. if she did not acknowledge her feelings for Hanuman initially, it was because she was worried about Mini's reaction.. if she decided to swallow her pride and accept her feelings to Hanuman, it was because she saw the bond she shared with Hanuman.. when she found out Mini needed her grandparents, she did not let her ego stop her and went to them to seek help.. when the psychiatrist told her Mini needed to feel that Babita cannot survive without her, she let her.. Babita has always been a mother to Mini.. just because she cares what people think or she falters at some instances, it does not take away from the fact that Babita has always put Mini and only Mini first

Iirrespective of how seemingly wise kids are, there is a boundary between parents and kids that shouldn't be crossed.. despite all the attention on Babita's so called ego, not once have we seen Babita being egoistic and refusing to acknowledge what Mini is saying is right eventually.. Babita fid not let her do called ego stop her from apologizing to Mini in various instances.. when has Mini apologized to Babita for speaking rudely to her?

Babita and Mini share a deep bond that stems from their past loneliness, their struggles, their trials.. Hanuman-Mini bond does not hold a candle to it.. yes.. Babita might have drawn a wedge between Mini and herself due to her recent actions, even in this case, in her mind, she is doing what is right for her daughter.. she might not be right but she still wants to do what she thinks is right for her daughter

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Mini might have guided Babita ever since they left K house but she is far very far from being a mother to Babita at any point.. she was the guiding light but not every guidance we get is from mother..

She might have had to be an adult at various times but she has also made mistakes a kid would make.. for instance getting shoes for Babita missing college test . And she rightly got scolded for that by Babita.. if Babita was as self absorbed and selfish as you guys claim, she wouldnt have created a ruckus at Mini's step.. she wouldn't have stood against Meeta when Mini was called poisonous.. she wouldn't have supported Mini in college without any proof.. she wouldn't have stood against Ashok when Mini wanted to change her surname or when Ashok wanted them to take the case back against Sunny

Babita always stood up when it was about Mini.. whether it was against Dadu, Meeta or Ashok.. when Babita filed a case against her harraser, it was because she wanted to set a good example for her daughter.. if she went ahead with her divorce proceedings, it was because she saw that Mini was getting affected.. if she decided to throw the mangalsutra away, it was because she saw how traumatized Mini was because of Ashok's comments.. if she did not acknowledge her feelings for Hanuman initially, it was because she was worried about Mini's reaction.. if she decided to swallow her pride and accept her feelings to Hanuman, it was because she saw the bond she shared with Hanuman.. when she found out Mini needed her grandparents, she did not let her ego stop her and went to them to seek help.. when the psychiatrist told her Mini needed to feel that Babita cannot survive without her, she let her.. Babita has always been a mother to Mini.. just because she cares what people think or she falters at some instances, it does not take away from the fact that Babita has always put Mini and only Mini first

Iirrespective of how seemingly wise kids are, there is a boundary between parents and kids that shouldn't be crossed.. despite all the attention on Babita's so called ego, not once have we seen Babita being egoistic and refusing to acknowledge what Mini is saying is right eventually.. Babita fid not let her do called ego stop her from apologizing to Mini in various instances.. when has Mini apologized to Babita for speaking rudely to her?

Babita and Mini share a deep bond that stems from their past loneliness, their struggles, their trials.. Hanuman-Mini bond does not hold a candle to it.. yes.. Babita might have drawn a wedge between Mini and herself due to her recent actions, even in this case, in her mind, she is doing what is right for her daughter.. she might not be right but she still wants to do what she thinks is right for her daughter

@bold — List these things every week. Been there done that.

😃

And Hanuman's character is written far from perfect.. he was a drunkard.. It was when Babita and Mini came in as tenants that he gave up on his drinking habits.. he drowned himself in alcohol after Imarti died.. a death he had time to come to terms with.. yet Babita is not allowed to be confused and vulnerable while coming to terms with all the changes that were thrown at her in a flurry

If he was perfect, he wouldn't have made a comment on Babita's character.. he wouldn't have brought in Ashok while scolding Mini.. he wouldn't have misled Babita.. he wouldn't have doubted Mini.. he wouldn't have immediately jumped into honey moon mode after wedding without sorting things with Mini.. he wouldn't have asked Babita if they could let oldie Khuranas stay at haveli without telling her the whole story.. he wouldn't have expected Babita to accept him with his past when he himself wanted Babita to come to him without all the past baggage.. Hanuman had exhibited hypocricy, and anger at various times but has always gotten away easily, hiding behind the garb of Babita's ego

A perfect character would never put question mark on a woman's character and if he did would apologize.. instead, Hanuman became all indignant and righteous because Babita expected him to apologize with his so called Amrit manthan

A perfect character would not have gotten angry and righteous when Babita questioned him about his love for Mini when he himself told her he called himself Mini's father to appease her with once again Amrit manthan taking ovef

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Exactly. I don’t get the narrative that Hanuman doesn’t need Babita and if he were to just have Mini in his life, he will be fine playing a father to her. Ok really? Let Babita leave him then, we will see if he actually needs her or not. Both Mini and HS need Babita is a fact. Yeah, I guess people cannot fathom that HS actually ended up falling in love with a personality like Babita.

Neither HS nor Mini will exist without Babita, so this Babita ruined Mini-HS’s relationship is just a bunch of bs. Neither Mini nor HS were willing to work on their relationship post wedding. They were each in their own bubble 🤔.

P.S. I also love Hanuman’s character a lot. But let’s also call him out on things that he said that aren’t right, like we do with both Mini and Babita.

@bold — I agree. Mini and HS bond is largely dependent on Babita.

Also, individually, Mini and HS both need Babita in their life. Babita needs both equally too. They are all interdependent. Their lives are entangled.

I find it weird people who claim to love Hanuman Singh can’t understand his loneliness. Which can’t be fulfilled by a daughter. He needed a companion. He needed a lover. And in this 7-8 years he might have met lot of ladies. Charming that he is, I don’t think he would have issue impressing ladies. Yet he fell for who? Babita. Must be something in her that he was drawn to her since forever as he claims.

In whatever capacity, but Babita loves him. Cares for him. May be for him, coming home to her is a biggest draw. He is traditional in lot of ways. May be the care and companionship is important to him and so he fell for her. I find them suitable in lot of ways.

And I always believe that you are never attuned your partner 100% from day one. Emotional companionship is built upon years of living together. I dated my boyfriend for couple years before we got married. I say we truly got to know each other post Marriage. It took us initial couple years to find a balance. Even though we knew each other, yet we were not compatible in all aspects. There are things that you learn only after you become husband and wife.

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Mini might have guided Babita ever since they left K house but she is far very far from being a mother to Babita at any point.. she was the guiding light but not every guidance we get is from mother..

She might have had to be an adult at various times but she has also made mistakes a kid would make.. for instance getting shoes for Babita missing college test . And she rightly got scolded for that by Babita.. if Babita was as self absorbed and selfish as you guys claim, she wouldnt have created a ruckus at Mini's step.. she wouldn't have stood against Meeta when Mini was called poisonous.. she wouldn't have supported Mini in college without any proof.. she wouldn't have stood against Ashok when Mini wanted to change her surname or when Ashok wanted them to take the case back against Sunny

Babita always stood up when it was about Mini.. whether it was against Dadu, Meeta or Ashok.. when Babita filed a case against her harraser, it was because she wanted to set a good example for her daughter.. if she went ahead with her divorce proceedings, it was because she saw that Mini was getting affected.. if she decided to throw the mangalsutra away, it was because she saw how traumatized Mini was because of Ashok's comments.. if she did not acknowledge her feelings for Hanuman initially, it was because she was worried about Mini's reaction.. if she decided to swallow her pride and accept her feelings to Hanuman, it was because she saw the bond she shared with Hanuman.. when she found out Mini needed her grandparents, she did not let her ego stop her and went to them to seek help.. when the psychiatrist told her Mini needed to feel that Babita cannot survive without her, she let her.. Babita has always been a mother to Mini.. just because she cares what people think or she falters at some instances, it does not take away from the fact that Babita has always put Mini and only Mini first

Iirrespective of how seemingly wise kids are, there is a boundary between parents and kids that shouldn't be crossed.. despite all the attention on Babita's so called ego, not once have we seen Babita being egoistic and refusing to acknowledge what Mini is saying is right eventually.. Babita fid not let her do called ego stop her from apologizing to Mini in various instances.. when has Mini apologized to Babita for speaking rudely to her?

Babita and Mini share a deep bond that stems from their past loneliness, their struggles, their trials.. Hanuman-Mini bond does not hold a candle to it.. yes.. Babita might have drawn a wedge between Mini and herself due to her recent actions, even in this case, in her mind, she is doing what is right for her daughter.. she might not be right but she still wants to do what she thinks is right for her daughter

I can also list individual times where babita failed and mini has had to step up. The difference is that babita is the adult, and it is her job. And mini is the kid (not her job to be adult at times). If they did indeed share a deep bond that wasn’t one sided, I think mini would be able to speak with her a bit more freely about how she’s feeling. This is my opinion. When I say speak freely I don’t mind speak your mind (mini already does this), I mean speak about her feeling. For eg, there’s been very little focus on mini about the effect of everything that’s happened. There’s not been many moments where babita questioned mini about her innermost feelings, as mini had done. I don’t feel hs-mini has a deeper bond, I’d say was different (in the sense where she was more able to speak her feelings-something she weren’t able to do with Babita, due to her being an emotional mess). That bond doesn’t appear to be there anymore. Imagine if she had stood up for mini against kammo like she did at the principals office instead of accusing her of wanting to become like meeta, then slapping her. In front of her friends.

As you mention there’s a boundary between parents and kids, but this has never properly existed between the two of them. Early on in the episodes they used to say they weren’t just mother and daughter, they were best friends. Let’s also remember that as a kid forced to grow up too soon, it won’t be surprising when the parent you were there for, raises a hand to you to save face against the person who caused the whole mess. Millennials are taught corporal punishment isn’t acceptable, and this is just one example.

I feel like they’ve written out some of the maternal aspects of babita. All the examples u have happened very early on when I personally thought she was a good mother, till all of the changes happened to her character. It’s also only as time went on (through poor writing) that I started to see the “bond” as one sided. This is my opinion

Originally posted by: deefy89

I can also list individual times where babita failed and mini has had to step up. The difference is that babita is the adult, and it is her job. And mini is the kid (not her job to be adult at times). If they did indeed share a deep bond that wasn’t one sided, I think mini would be able to speak with her a bit more freely about how she’s feeling. This is my opinion. When I say speak freely I don’t mind speak your mind (mini already does this), I mean speak about her feeling. For eg, there’s been very little focus on mini about the effect of everything that’s happened. There’s not been many moments where babita questioned mini about her innermost feelings, as mini had done. I don’t feel hs-mini has a deeper bond, I’d say was different (in the sense where she was more able to speak her feelings-something she weren’t able to do with Babita, due to her being an emotional mess). That bond doesn’t appear to be there anymore.

As you mention there’s a boundary between parents and kids, but this has never properly existed between the two of them. Early on in the episodes they used to say they weren’t just mother and daughter, they were best friends. Let’s also remember that as a kid forced to grow up too soon, it won’t be surprising when the parent you were there for, raises a hand to you to save face against the person who caused the whole mess. Millennials are taught corporal punishment isn’t acceptable, and this is just one example.

I feel like they’ve written out some of the maternal aspects of babita. All the examples u have happened very early on when I personally thought she was a good mother, till all of the changes happened to her character. It’s also only as time went on (through poor writing) that I started to see the “bond” as one sided. This is my opinion

I did not say Babita did not falter at times.. she did because she is human.. Mini might have guided het at multiple times but at the end of the day, it was Babita who took the required steps.. Mini encouraged Babita but it was Babita who paid heed to what her daughter said and carve a path for herself.. mini guided her but it was Babita who had to work in the factory among makes.. it was Babita who worked as a nanny.. Mini's guidance played a huge role but it would all have been futile if Babita was not willing to step up

Mini too has failed at various instances.. that does not make her a bad daughter.. just human..

Yes.. Babita is an adult but an adult who had little exposure to the outside world, an adult who lived a closeted life, an adult who did not know how to survive on her own.. it is hardly surprising that she faltered when she faced circumstances she had not thought about

Mini is the same age Babita was when she got married so there is that

If Mini and Babita are best friends, a huge credit goes to Babita for this.. because it's only because she as a mother believed in making a friendly relationship with her daughter instead of an authoritative one.. the friendship means that despite fulfilling her duties of a daughter in law and facing loneliness, Babita did not let her bond with her daughter get weaken. She gave Mini the confidence that Mini could say anything to her mother

When Hanuman told her that he called himself Mini's father to appease her, she first thought of Mini's hurt before the fact she had been misled.. what Mini and Babita face right now is merely a classic case of generation gap where none of the parties are wrong.. it does not imply that Babita had done nothing for Mini or that their bond is one-sided.. it just means that now that Babita has started voicing her opinions, there is bound to be a clash.. earlier, mini spoke and Babita listened.. now Babita has started to speak and thus they have some problems due to different opinions

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

@bold — I agree. Mini and HS bond is largely dependent on Babita.

Also, individually, Mini and HS both need Babita in their life. Babita needs both equally too. They are all interdependent. Their lives are entangled.

I find it weird people who claim to love Hanuman Singh can’t understand his loneliness. Which can’t be fulfilled by a daughter. He needed a companion. He needed a lover. And in this 7-8 years he might have met lot of ladies. Charming that he is, I don’t think he would have issue impressing ladies. Yet he fell for who? Babita. Must be something in her that he was drawn to her since forever as he claims.

In whatever capacity, but Babita loves him. Cares for him. May be for him, coming home to her is a biggest draw. He is traditional in lot of ways. May be the care and companionship is important to him and so he fell for her. I find them suitable in lot of ways.

And I always believe that you are never attuned your partner 100% from day one. Emotional companionship is built upon years of living together. I dated my boyfriend for couple years before we got married. I say we truly got to know each other post Marriage. It took us initial couple years to find a balance. Even though we knew each other, yet we were not compatible in all aspects. There are things that you learn only after you become husband and wife.

@bold 1: Agree. All 3 of them need each other in their lives. If one falters, the other two will as well. So, lets see how Hanita survive without Mini in the equation....

@bold 2: X 100000. Yes, having Mini as a daughter is great, but like you said she cannot fulfill other aspects of his life. He needs care, love, companionship for life, and Babita is the right person to fulfill all those, and rightly so he's the one to for Babita. They both need each other. Lets face it, Mini will leave Hanita at some point in her life, for higher studies, for career, for marriage (whatever it is), she will go away as she should to prosper in her life further, essentially it has to be HS and Babita who will be with each other for the rest of their lives. Sr. Khurana said "Mini toh chali jaegi, zindagi bhar rishte toh Babita ko nibhane hai na"... which is why it is so important for Babita and Hanuman to connect emotionally now so that they can be attuned to each other, and even if Mini leaves at some point, they will be there for each other, to sambhalo each other. This is essentially why it is so so important that makers show us Hanita bonding emotionally, sharing their fears and insecurities, traumas etc. But unfortunately, this has taken a backseat to make room for more drama and create a rift between three characters 🤔.