Don't know: ajao saray - Page 15

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

This is another reason why the Khurana's aren't Babita's responsibility. Naeem Bi took it up on herself to take care of them. The Khuranas themselves were looking to find someplace else to stay but she's the one who stopped them. So at the end of the day, this issue should be resolved between Irfan and his Ammi. There's no need to get Babita involved in all of this.

Haan par Minnie ko kaun samjhaye?

Originally posted by: inlieu

Exactly, I had wanted him to do it for himself because it's the right thing to do, not because anyone asked for it or demanded it.

Even when he was saying those things to her, I had said that he could have chosen other ways to make her stay away or even terminated their contract as the landlord or whatever.

Anyway, sorry I don't want to talk about this. It's been done to death, I've said whatever I've said enough times.

I'm honestly getting you confused with Nimbu_Mirchi because of the color of your ID. I liked you better in the red. 🤔

Anyways, I agree with you. It's this thing that had fcked with my mind so badly the other day. How can HS say something like that on purpose and then not even feel the need to apologize for it? And worse, he didn't see anything wrong with it?

Bruh, just because you didn't get offended by her comments, doesn't mean that she'll take it in the same vein. She's not you. She's Babita, a woman who is highly sensitive to what people have to say about her. She was just ripped apart as if she was nothing. And to think, he claims that he loves her.

Originally posted by: naq5

no its not the way you are thinking it to be. i suggest you watch the earlier episodes. even i started watching from HS entry on & off but i watched the earlier episodes to know what actually happened. you should actually watch to get a better perspective on babita, mini also. she was not this rebellious. She was actually so shy to even approach her father & speak to him. She had even told how she has never been with her dad so wants to go with him but no babita was all hell bent up upon being the sacrificing family member.

I'll watch it some other time. I'm not interested in dealing with their melodrama right now.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

No I didn't. I started watching the show when HS made his entry. But regardless, there's a whole 17 years of history that we are unaware about. We've only heard how they've treated her, not seen it ourselves. From the little that we have seen, it's apparent that despite their talks, they have never considered her to be their daughter. She has always either just been a DIL or the woman who gave birth to their grandchild.

That was the misconception that she lived seventeen years of her life with. She fooled herself into believing it as it would have been better than accepting the fact that she's completely alone and has, in some respects, being abandoned and neglected by her husband. If she even had let Minnie question Ashok, do you really think he would have given her a decent answer in a civilized manner? I can just see him flaring up and raising his hand on her again. Especially considering the fact that at that time, Minnie was ready to lash out on everyone around her, and angrily point accusations on them, rather than speaking to them calmly.

I must say though that I don't remember them ever claiming they thought of Babita as their beti. She was always their bahu and I don't think anyone can force them to accept her as a beti if they don't want to. That's their mindset. What that means though, is that just like she was treated as an outsider, they should also not be surprised if she treats them as one. It's not about hate or revenge or meanness or any of that. She doesn't owe them anything whatsoever. If they had really done everything they could for her, fought for her and stood by her side through everything, really treated her as a daughter, the situation would be different.

I cannot judge anyone for not accepting a daughter-in-law as a daughter or a son-in-law as a son. These are emotions and mindsets of such people. It's their life, their choice. I don't think they need to justify feeling this way, as long as they do not suddenly expect apnapan from the people who they never treated as apne.

Originally posted by: tk2015

The thing is when HS did this he wanted to push Babita away. Whenever Babes has done the same (which is wrong too), it has been in an oblivious manner.

She didn't know the extent to which her words might hurt HS. HS hurt her deliberately and at every spot he knew will damage her.

To showcase her ego in this manner was unnecessary. They could've brought this up in a different manner. There's a difference between ego and self respect.

HS is human and he has faults. He takes and takes until it gets too much and then he lashes out very harshly. He did it to Babes and also to Minnie during the CD issue.

He has to learn to stop bottling up his issues. It's not healthy for him and also his new family. Infact, he's still doing it with Imarti. I want this to be a proper track that CVs address.

I will say one thing, when Babita insulted his character because of the camera, she knew exactly what she was saying and why. That was not accidental.

Aur HS ke flaws ginna shuru karoon to list bohot lambi ho jayegi.

Top on the list right now is his over-protectiveness of Babita - this is a major issue, and now I'm afraid he will be over-protective of Minnie, aur beech mein pissega.

Originally posted by: inlieu

Haan par Minnie ko kaun samjhaye?

Mickey ya phir HS. Agar phir bhi ni mann ri then give her the silent treatment. Phir shayad jaake samje.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

This is a huge disservice to both Hanita. This was essentially saying that Babita should be pleased at all costs even if HS himself gets hurt in the process. But on the other hand, it's also saying that Babita isn't allowed to get hurt or sort through her emotions / issues, because they don't trust how she'll react.

Also, just because she got divorced once, doesn't mean she'll keep doing it again and again. It spoke a lot about his own insecurities and how he doesn't have faith in either of their love.

He's afraid that she'll leave him and that he'll lose everything so he's trying to protect her from getting hurt, even from himself, while he is drinking in poison, etc. I always said this over-protectiveness of his will cause major issues, wait and watch.

Haveli mein koi aurat na royegi? Good thought, but if you go overboard with walking on eggshells all the time, phir to baad hi aayegi ek din. Ugh....

Originally posted by: inlieu

I must say though that I don't remember them ever claiming they thought of Babita as their beti. She was always their bahu and I don't think anyone can force them to accept her as a beti if they don't want to. That's their mindset. What that means though, is that just like she was treated as an outsider, they should also not be surprised if she treats them as one. It's not about hate or revenge or meanness or any of that. She doesn't owe them anything whatsoever. If they had really done everything they could for her, fought for her and stood by her side through everything, really treated her as a daughter, the situation would be different.

I cannot judge anyone for not accepting a daughter-in-law as a daughter or a son-in-law as a son. These are emotions and mindsets of such people. It's their life, their choice. I don't think they need to justify feeling this way, as long as they do not suddenly accept apnapan from the people who they never treated as apne.

I'm not faulting them for never treating her like a daughter. Both the Khuranas (especially Dadu) and Babita know exactly where they stand. Post divorce, she kept a cordial relationship with them partially because of that old age factor and partially because they're still connected to Minnie.

It's the idea that Babita is expected to still cater to them as if they were her in-laws that doesn't sit well with me. If she doesn't want anything to do with them, then that's her choice. She shouldn't be shamed into wanting this.

Originally posted by: Jiarao

Bechaara yaar. Kaise handle karega maa beti dono ko ek saath? He wasn't lying when he said that. But he is trying his best. I liked the way he put forth his opinion about the matter but left the decision to Babitha. I honestly think Babitha should stop running from her past and accept it wholeheartedly.

Yes, he left the decision to her. I know he is trying his best and it's fine for a short period of time, but it can't go on forever.

At some point, I want him to stop trying to solve everything himself because he can't. There are some things that the mother and daughter need to figure out on their own. He can be the coach at max but they have to play the game.

Originally posted by: silvermoonlight

You do know that Babita told HS herself she will essentially choose her ego over her marriage /HS when she asked for HS to apologize to her ?

Yes, and NB, Poonam, Lala, and Minnie all noticed this too when she had her outburst after the flirting incident.