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Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

What triggered her was nakli ka bap and Asli ka bap. I think she didn’t like Khatri badmouthing HS. Her eyes were darting on Khatri when he said so.

Khatri is a trigger for everyone. He makes all the sirens go off any time he's around.

Originally posted by: inlieu

10k? Wow!

Yeahh, you'll get your next promotion at 25k.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

Well he said — usne bhi mujhe baatein boli hai. Manne to bura na lagaya.

He totally brushed it aside.

Even NB said to Bahita - pyar mein Gunah bhi maaf.

Nope sorry. Disagree with both NB and HS. You can’t rip apart lady’s character and dignity you claim to love and expect to be forgiven without asking.

Same with HS. Babita has never questioned his character. He basically called her characterless woman for showing interest in paraya mard.

The thing is when HS did this he wanted to push Babita away. Whenever Babes has done the same (which is wrong too), it has been in an oblivious manner.

She didn't know the extent to which her words might hurt HS. HS hurt her deliberately and at every spot he knew will damage her.

To showcase her ego in this manner was unnecessary. They could've brought this up in a different manner. There's a difference between ego and self respect.

HS is human and he has faults. He takes and takes until it gets too much and then he lashes out very harshly. He did it to Babes and also to Minnie during the CD issue.

He has to learn to stop bottling up his issues. It's not healthy for him and also his new family. Infact, he's still doing it with Imarti. I want this to be a proper track that CVs address.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

What I didn't like is that he needed to be asked for an apology. He knew what he was saying and the kind of effect it would have on her. Did he really think that she would let this slide?

As soon as this Imarti stuff was over, he should have gone to her and apologized himself. It shouldn't have been coaxed out of him.

Exactly, I had wanted him to do it for himself because it's the right thing to do, not because anyone asked for it or demanded it.

Even when he was saying those things to her, I had said that he could have chosen other ways to make her stay away or even terminated their contract as the landlord or whatever.

Anyway, sorry I don't want to talk about this. It's been done to death, I've said whatever I've said enough times.

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

No I didn't. I started watching the show when HS made his entry. But regardless, there's a whole 17 years of history that we are unaware about. We've only heard how they've treated her, not seen it ourselves. From the little that we have seen, it's apparent that despite their talks, they have never considered her to be their daughter. She has always either just been a DIL or the woman who gave birth to their grandchild.

That was the misconception that she lived seventeen years of her life with. She fooled herself into believing it as it would have been better than accepting the fact that she's completely alone and has, in some respects, being abandoned and neglected by her husband. If she even had let Minnie question Ashok, do you really think he would have given her a decent answer in a civilized manner? I can just see him flaring up and raising his hand on her again. Especially considering the fact that at that time, Minnie was ready to lash out on everyone around her, and angrily point accusations on them, rather than speaking to them calmly.

no its not the way you are thinking it to be. i suggest you watch the earlier episodes. even i started watching from HS entry on & off but i watched the earlier episodes to know what actually happened. you should actually watch to get a better perspective on babita, mini also. she was not this rebellious. She was actually so shy to even approach her father & speak to him. She had even told how she has never been with her dad so wants to go with him but no babita was all hell bent up upon being the sacrificing family member.

Originally posted by: shruti_luvs_msk

and when babita asked for an apology it was called her ego, which will apparently ruin her life one day.

during the uptan ceremony, HS said on phone he understood her pain, hurt and anger, but again he told NB that babita would break the relation becaused of her ego.

this was actually the worst part ever, worse than when HS said everything to babita.

This is a huge disservice to both Hanita. This was essentially saying that Babita should be pleased at all costs even if HS himself gets hurt in the process. But on the other hand, it's also saying that Babita isn't allowed to get hurt or sort through her emotions / issues, because they don't trust how she'll react.

Also, just because she got divorced once, doesn't mean she'll keep doing it again and again. It spoke a lot about his own insecurities and how he doesn't have faith in either of their love.

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

He ripped apart her character. That was a major blow.

He repeated what Ashok, Khatri and Her own Brother accused her of. That she is characterless women for staying with single guy and has affair with him.

It came from someone she after lot of internal struggle came to trust again. From someone she came to love again even after her trust in Love was crushed. She dared to hope again after going thru hopeless months. She showed courage to accept her desires which she buried deep down somewhere.

And yet, all of this was crumbled by the same men who helped her stand on her own.

It was not a mistake. It was a gunah. It wasn’t her ego that everyone around her kept terming it as. I didn’t agree with when NB said pyar mein gunah bhi maaf. Nope sorry. You can’t rip apart lady’s character you claim to love. I also didn’t agree with Hanuman when he said, usne bhi boli hai mujhse baatein, mene to bura na lagaya. Sorry but Babita has never accused you of being characterless. Whatever she had had said, doesn’t compare with what you did.

Brushing this aside was the biggest mistake writers did.

Neither did I agree with his rationale, nor his words, nor his lack of initiative to go and apologize to her. Forget about loving her or not. You cannot say such things to another person, man or woman. As to Babita insinuating he was characterless, oh she did and it was very cheap, but that doesn't give him the right to say similar things to her no matter what. Especially since he's seen up front what she's been through since she left the Khuranas.

The main lesson for HS to learn was that the end did not justify the means and that just because he chose not to take Babita's words to heart doesn't mean she has to behave the same way. They are two different people and he can't expect her to react or feel the same as he does.

Originally posted by: inlieu

So is it confirmed that we take HS' words at face value that he truly can't handle mother-daughter at the same time, that he can only do one or the other? LOL?

Ab Minnie ke saath sula ho gayi to romance par dhyaan nahin hai?

You do know that Babita told HS herself she will essentially choose her ego over her marriage /HS when she asked for HS to apologize to her ?

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

What triggered her was nakli ka bap and Asli ka bap. I think she didn’t like Khatri badmouthing HS. Her eyes were darting on Khatri when he said so.

I also think she's pissed off because Ashok is brought in to picture again even though he's overseas. Clearly Khatri sees the weak link in the chain and chooses to strike there over and over again.