Why is Babita wrong? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I'm sorry but since when expression of love first became a 'manly' job? That's so stereotypical. Why can't women Express love first? Okay, forget the confession. She can give him a green signal whenever she wants, that she is ready for this relationship. Why HS has to initiate things everytime?

Maybe I am old fashion, maybe not understanding modern society, but I can say when man express love first, it is something you will remember forever, and carry with you all life. Of course you can show some of affection, they have to be sure too, but if it comes from both sides. Man and woman are so much different, their thinking is different. Sometimes woman see love or wants to see love, but there is nothing. I have seen so many broken hearts, it is not worth to go after man who can't put two words together, or asking someone to ask a girl if she likes him, or not even interested in her. There is so many good men, who will care, but sometimes we not ready to except it. When love is ready from both sides, woman doesn't even have to do anything, she will feel it. Trust me it is worth to wait for that moment. I will never forget, I was just 18, and he was just from my school. He was always making fun of me and was making me mad. I would never guess he liked me. One day my work send me to different city for some classes. On evening I was coming home on the bus, and he was there with his friends. He propose to me on the bus. I didn't expect that coming, but the way he made me feel I will never forget. He past away few years later, but I will always remember him. He had a cancer. So trust me girls, there is true love. When it comes around, you will know it.

Originally posted by: yelkar

Maybe I am old fashion, maybe not understanding modern society, but I can say when man express love first, it is something you will remember forever, and carry with you all life. Of course you can show some of affection, they have to be sure too, but if it comes from both sides. Man and woman are so much different, their thinking is different. Sometimes woman see love or wants to see love, but there is nothing. I have seen so many broken hearts, it is not worth to go after man who can't put two words together, or asking someone to ask a girl if she likes him, or not even interested in her. There is so many good men, who will care, but sometimes we not ready to except it. When love is ready from both sides, woman doesn't even have to do anything, she will feel it. Trust me it is worth to wait for that moment. I will never forget, I was just 18, and he was just from my school. He was always making fun of me and was making me mad. I would never guess he liked me. One day my work send me to different city for some classes. On evening I was coming home on the bus, and he was there with his friends. He propose to me on the bus. I didn't expect that coming, but the way he made me feel I will never forget. He past away few years later, but I will always remember him. He had a cancer. So trust me girls, there is true love. When it comes around, you will know it.

Yeah, I might not have come across anything like a proposal. But I can understand. That is why I say that even if it ain't a full fledged confession, she can give signals that she's ready. And he can go ahead. She can definetly take the initiative.

That incident you narrated was so heart touching and breaking at the same time!

Have you forgotten when she accused him of hidden meanings behind the camera gift and he called her out on it and she never apologised to him for it. Now he says the same back to her and its hurt her stupid female ego.

Get over it.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

Yeah, I might not have come across anything like a proposal. But I can understand. That is why I say that even if it ain't a full fledged confession, she can give signals that she's ready. And he can go ahead. She can definetly take the initiative.

That incident you narrated was so heart touching and breaking at the same time!

The issue right now is, even if she gives signals, he is not gonna go ahead by his own confession. Didn't he say to Lala that mhare man mein Imarti hai. Galati ho gai. Mene galat rasta chun liya. Prayaschit karna padega n all.

He thinks he can not give Imarti's place to anyone. He has to jolt out of that thought process.

Best thing is for Babita to move away for a while for HS to come to terms that he is ready to give someone else a place in his heart.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

I'm sorry but since when expression of love first became a 'manly' job? That's so stereotypical. Why can't women Express love first? Okay, forget the confession. She can give him a green signal whenever she wants, that she is ready for this relationship. Why HS has to initiate things everytime?

I so so agree and second that!!

How is it a man's job????????

Originally posted by: yelkar

Maybe I am old fashion, maybe not understanding modern society, but I can say when man express love first, it is something you will remember forever, and carry with you all life. Of course you can show some of affection, they have to be sure too, but if it comes from both sides. Man and woman are so much different, their thinking is different. Sometimes woman see love or wants to see love, but there is nothing. I have seen so many broken hearts, it is not worth to go after man who can't put two words together, or asking someone to ask a girl if she likes him, or not even interested in her. There is so many good men, who will care, but sometimes we not ready to except it. When love is ready from both sides, woman doesn't even have to do anything, she will feel it. Trust me it is worth to wait for that moment. I will never forget, I was just 18, and he was just from my school. He was always making fun of me and was making me mad. I would never guess he liked me. One day my work send me to different city for some classes. On evening I was coming home on the bus, and he was there with his friends. He propose to me on the bus. I didn't expect that coming, but the way he made me feel I will never forget. He past away few years later, but I will always remember him. He had a cancer. So trust me girls, there is true love. When it comes around, you will know it.

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Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

The issue right now is, even if she gives signals, he is not gonna go ahead by his own confession. Didn't he say to Lala that mhare man mein Imarti hai. Galati ho gai. Mene galat rasta chun liya. Prayaschit karna padega n all.

He thinks he can not give Imarti's place to anyone. He has to jolt out of that thought process.

Best thing is for Babita to move away for a while for HS to come to terms that he is ready to give someone else a place in his heart.

He is reacting like this because she let him down terribly. He believes that she actually thought that he could have murdered Imarti! And she walked out on him when he needed her the most!

Listen life as we all know is not a bed of roses. There will be strife, there will be tough times. Our true mettle comes out only during such times and Babita failed big time. Sad but true.

I agree with you say, here Lakhs. Babita had been through a lot. Moreover, the rejection that she had faced before, makes her feel even more insecure of her life, even more, her daughter's life. But, I personally believe that no matter how much you face in life, removing it on a person is totally wrong. And specifically to a person who has done everything, from giving you a house to giving you justice. At least, if not giving back, showing attitude is totally wrong. Now, you may ask me, she cares for him, and she stopped him from drinking for his own good etc, what is wrong in that? Let me tell you, there is nothing wrong in that, but the way you show your concern is wrong. If he demands space, you need to give him some space. Everytime you cannot be behind a person asking them how they feel, when they are fine. We would make them feel even more pathetic. And in the case of HS, she forcefully asked him to stop. I understand she loves him and all, but she has still not got that right to rule over his house and him. And we understood that from the track itself, as to how much she trusts him and how much she supported him. Only if, she would have really supported him, I would agree that she has the right to stop him from drinking, in an aggressive manner. But no, that was not the case. Secondly, if Babita wouldn't have shown him any attitude previously as well, I would agree that she has a right in his life. If she had any tension, all of it was removed on Hanuman and poor him took it all. No doubt, Hanuman is too equally at fault, by being aggressive with Babita, telling mein paraya mard hoon etc are all extremely atrocious. But this was because, Babita provoked him. And in a way, I actually agreed with him saying, Dont keep coming behind me and asking how I am. You have a daughter, take care of her. What he said was absolutely right. In the process of straightening HS, she should not neglect Mini. At the end of the day, Mini is her daughter and she is Mini's mother. She can totally not neglect Mini and again ask for Hanuman's help in straightening her....

Totally my PoV, sorry if I offended you. But, you are right in your place as well, so I dont completely disagree with you....😊

Originally posted by: NimbuMirchi

The issue right now is, even if she gives signals, he is not gonna go ahead by his own confession. Didn't he say to Lala that mhare man mein Imarti hai. Galati ho gai. Mene galat rasta chun liya. Prayaschit karna padega n all.

He thinks he can not give Imarti's place to anyone. He has to jolt out of that thought process.

Best thing is for Babita to move away for a while for HS to come to terms that he is ready to give someone else a place in his heart.

He doesn't have to give anyone Imarti's place. He just needs to give Babita her own place, which he has. What he said was a mistake was that he had assumed he had healed from the grief and guilt but he realized he hadn't. He will never stop remembering or loving Imarti. Neither does he need to forget her, unless he has amnesia.

He feels that it's not up to him to expect Babita to understand and accept his love for his first wife or his grief. The way she died was not simple for anyone to process. Heck even Naeem Bi and Lala still cry when they remember her, so what about HS, then? Babita needs to let him know if she is ok with it and can live with the fact that he loves them both, but differently. If she's not ok, that's her wish.

HS will not be able to approach her until she shows him she is ready. I don't think she is, because she still carries baggage from the past. If she wants to be cautious, that's fine, but her anger should be channeled in the right way.

She can't separate the insult from the grief on his side and when he needed support she left him all alone in his greatest moment of need. Minnie had to bring her back, don't you think he noticed? She broke his heart and his trust and it was visible in his eyes. I have always wanted to see her step up and for a change support him when he needed. The first opportunity she got, well... she didn't exactly do what one would do for a lover. He probably also feels that she doesn't love him with that depth or passion that he's looking for in a life partner.

Originally posted by: inlieu

He doesn't have to give anyone Imarti's place. He just needs to give Babita her own place, which he has. What he said was a mistake was that he had assumed he had healed from the grief and guilt but he realized he hadn't. He will never stop remembering or loving Imarti. Neither does he need to forget her, unless he has amnesia.

He feels that it's not up to him to expect Babita to understand and accept his love for his first wife or his grief. The way she died was not simple for anyone to process. Heck even Naeem Bi and Lala still cry when they remember her, so what about HS, then? Babita needs to let him know if she is ok with it and can live with the fact that he loves them both, but differently. If she's not ok, that's her wish.

HS will not be able to approach her until she shows him she is ready. I don't think she is, because she still carries baggage from the past. If she wants to be cautious, that's fine, but her anger should be channeled in the right way.

Read my post again.

I said he thinks he can not give Imarti's place to anyone. His thinking. His words.

He said.. he thinks Babita doesn't understand his love for Imarti. Lala said.. she does. He said.. galati ho gai that he lead babita on. He thinks leading Babita was his galati. again his words.

When Sardar Singh said he will talk To Babiya. Hanuman said.. no no need. He will manage alone.

So in his mind. He and his Imarti. All I am saying is, he has to realize, he needs Babita. Also, that Babita is already there in his heart along with Imarti. No one has to replace anyone. I never used the word "Replace"

I think Babita is already there is his heart. He is all in denial coz of the case brought out past.