This is long post and sorry this is not to offend anyone....but just my 2 cents:
In the last few days, I heard such negativity about Babita's reactions. Why so? Simply because Imarti came out of our imagination and portrayed a strong and passionate woman? A fairytale eye candy story?
A lot of us when we start our journeys, have desires, outlook, and don't forget a strong backing from our parents in most cases. In Imarti's case she was young strong, bold, did what she wanted, and knew her father would support her no matter what and so, boldly put Hanuman in place on the first night and to her luck, Hanuman was a nice guy who realized his errors right away and embraced her the way she was- gave her the freedom. (We all like to see ourselves like that too). This helped build a beautiful, strong and passionate relationship between the 2 until her death and perhaps beyond. He adores her even now.
Babita's story is a bit different. Remember, her brother saying that she was the dear daughter in the house, however she by nature was simpler and more mellow always caring for others. Fact is there are a variety of people in the world how much ever we want all the women to be strong and bold and what not... next her marriage proved different. If you remember the first few episodes, no one saw to her comfort. She worked for everyone and this was not for one or 2 days or months for 17 years- no joke. She did not have the support of her husband who stood by her like in Imarti's case either which is a big thing for a woman especially in a joint family. And moreover, her parents were nothing like Sardar Singh who would fight until the end for his daughter. And remember they passed away leaving not such a strong younger brother behind. I am not saying that her in laws were mean.
The dynamics change in this situation and the girl is left alone in the world with no one. They become insecure regardless of how strong they were as a child. And I know her strengths as a child keeps popping up now and then after a long time but it takes time- as you see in the after ashok phase with some prompts from Minnie and Hanuman.
One may think there is Minie, but she has become a great source of support only recently. Please don't forget her age. And yes she is sensible and forgives Hanuman for he recently told Babita, but remember she is still young and sees hanuman as the father figure. She really wants this to work for her mom and hence she is quick to forgive. I am not saying she is wrong or that Hanuman is a bad person. But remember her situation. Yes, she has gone through rejection from her dad but what her mom goes through is totally different. I am not sure how to explain but a woman giving everything to a man is so different especially for someone like babita.
It took a Herculean task for Babita to come forward and accept her new feelings and then Hanuman yelled at her saying my space my life etc for stopping him from drinking pushing her away. next day he came and claimed to be Minnie's dad building a relationship and confusing her further and thentelling her to stay within her limits. Paraya Mard is not a small thing for people like Babita to whom self respect is everything. One wrong move and it could have a big negative effect/impact. She was groomed by the society's thought process. She is slowly coming out of the shackles of her fear and accepting life as she wants it and an accusation so deep for whatever reason hit deep in the roots. She has a daughter too she is responsible for who might be a big strong girl with a strong mind and personality. But a mother is a mother. She feels responsible as naive as she might be. It is unimaginable for a mother to take risky steps for a woman who has been shunned and left with no support all her prime life and later to be accused in court by her ex in the rudest way to easily forget everything.
Like I said she has moved past Ashok, she has become independent in many ways, and is bolder. But saying "don't have so much interest in Paraya Mard " by the very man she is ready to move forward and try and build a new life after a lot of hesitation, is no joke.
And why should she stay right now? hanuman is cute and a good man and many positive things to add to these qualities ( I love his character), but he has made it clear that his Imarti is all he cares for. Then why should she sit and wait for something that is not cooking? You and me know Hanuman's feelings but please wear the shoes of a women like Babita and think from her side. It is not easy to just fight and say what do you mean by paraya Mary you are mine when he has not said anything in words and claimed Imari is everything for him.
NB is also portraying a section of well wishers who mean well but may not be looking at Babith's perspective. They look for good endings If Hanuman was hurt in the worst way would we have given Babita this much slack saying she is a good person and loves him, so he should forgive her easily? Kudos to the makers for representing this part of the society as well.
I am once again very impressed with the makers for understanding the true psyche of a woman going through such a situation despite the nice man in her life and a daughter who pursues her to stay, and take a bold stance in the right direction. There is no stupid ego in this but a very deep hurt insecurity and fear that is being portrayed .
This is not just a thought, but is coming from a woman who has gone through the exact circumstances with a 17 year old strong daughter and a 14 year old son. In my case I was much stronger than babita in many ways during my marriage and before but sacrificed everything for the family. It took me more than 4 years to rebuild my confidence and I am still hesitant with moving on with my personal life with another man. And I live in a modern society and still hear so much ...so imagine her state.
Thanks for hearing me out and thank PB TEAM for making this show so realistic and informative to the society at large.
