(long post alert).
.What I believe (contrary to popular opinion here) is that babita made the right decision by leaving HS.
People seem to put more emphasis on the feelings of the heart, and value them more than way of expression. No doubt genuine feelings are important but I believe that the way you express them means equally if not more. The words we choose to describe our feelings and our actions do carry weight.
Out of 3 main characters, Hanuman knows everything about the situation. Minnie is next. Babita has least information.
Hanuman showed two totally different intentions on same day. First he called himself Minnie's father, then he left all stressed, came back late at night and told babita to stop crossing the limit and suggested her that she was the one making move on him ( while all of us know HS was the one who made the move). To me, it sounded like a character assassination. Babita was rightfully hurt. She doesn't understand what suddenly changed him so much.
In a mature relationship, both partners are equal. Hanuman made decision to step out of the relationship all by himself and his way of doing so was anything but mature. Why does the only way of protecting Babita is hurting her repelling her? Think about it. If your love is hurting your beloved instead of making them happy, than there is something wrong with your love. I can't think of any situation where only way of protecting your lover is repelling them by below the belt insult and pointing fingers at character. There's no justification for that. Also the idea that babita and Minnie needs to be protected goes against the idea of empowerment as both have been through worse in the past and yet moved on in their lives. If he really thought of babita as an equal partner then he would have explained his situation and then let her made a decision. All that drama at the night was totally unnecessary.
And his sudden obsession with past memories aren't helping either. He can love babita while admiring imarti, but he can't ( and shouldn't) love both imarti and babita at the same time. I would think of it as a big insult if my partner told me that only person he loved was late wife. If you don't love your current partner to the fullest, why the hell are you in the relationship? Nobody forced you.
And those who are comparing imarti and babita- what a futile comparison. As far as making bold decision is concerned- Imarti speaks, babita acts. Imarti asked Hanuman to give up alcohol and changed his misogynistic views after 2 min long dialogue was highly unrealistic. No habitual alcoholic would give up alcohol that easily. No one gives up on addiction without their own will and even those with strong determination relapse. Imarti also said that she would file complaint against Hanuman if he abuses her in future. Hanuman changes for good. But million dollars question here is what if he had not. What if he had remained the same. You see, easier said than done. We know nothing but positive things about imarti (I am sure there are negative aspect to imarti as well but character is not as well established as babita's) and we know both negative and positive of babita. People are comparing positive side of imarti to negative side of babita. We can only speculate if she would have actually acted on her words had Hanuman not changed his misogynistic thinking and alcohol habit.
Babita on the other hand left a failed marriage knowing that she has little resources and no real support whatsoever without shouting firebrand statements. And her defensive outlook is more out of lack of experience in outer world. Minnie's risk taking behavior is more out of idealistic understanding of the world- which again stems from the inexperience . World is risky. And things would have gotten wrong very easily. Babita's skepticism is not all unjustified. Although it's bit too much, but she has come a long way. If anything she is already pushing her boundaries. She now stands up for herself. She gave Minnie piece of mind when she was hell bent on leaving the haveli instead of bending to pressure. She decided to walk out when Hanuman pointed finger at her character. Abuse under the garb of love and protective nature is abuse nevertheless. At this point Hanuman did turn abusive. Ashok called babita promiscuous in the court- people rightfully called him out Hanuman called her promiscuous and people are asking her to see underlying feeling of love and bashing babita instead of Hanuman.
At this point, Hanuman is the one who is disappointing. Not babita.
These are my opinions. No hate please.
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