Originally posted by: inlieu
He is definitely open to loving and accepting her wholeheartedly but for that he need not erase or change anything about his connection to Imarti. When Naeem Bi mentioned how Imarti had died, and when I saw how he felt about Minnie above all else, it was even more obvious that he would never forget Imarti or his first child or stop hurting. It's just that over time he would learn to deal with that hurt better.
Again, maybe I'm completely wrong here. I think as he was leaving for Chandigarh he had time to think that he must continue to maintain his control over himself, and never lose control that way again. I think he surprised himself and I think he is afraid of making an irreparable mistake that could hurt Babita. Especially after what Minnie and he discussed in the hospital, he might be worried about crossing the lines of decency.
Naeem Bi had also told Beeji that HS had been crazy about Imarti. I don't think it was just a sweet innocent kind of romance. They were both strong-headed and passionate people, and I don't think that aspect of HS has changed at all. I think he is afraid to unleash that on Babita because he still sees her as a gentle soul who would never be able to handle his craziness the way Imarti used to be able to.
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I'm not sure I understand what you mean here. Are you referring to his loss of self-respect? Or are you saying that he is cautious that he channels his emotions in a reasonable way instead of going nuts for Babita the way he used to for Imarti?
I'm feeling afraid of this now. I never knew it'll all come down to something so dark and vulnerable. Passion, I've no idea. It exists but the limits - we don't know. More so, cause they're been suppressing it so badly. About being intense, that might be a cause. This sure has something to do with their convo that CVs left midway. So that we can keep guessing the reason.
But HS has to be docile. Imarti was who she was. Babita is NOT Imarti. And HS is currently subconsciously waiting for her to fill Imarti's shoes. I think this may lead to a big dispute later cause he's not known fully to anyone yet. I think NB and HS had this convo once about Babita and Imarti being different.
In no way he'll stop loving Imarti. Its just that he needs to start loving Babita, in a different new and unique way.
What I meant was, he was afraid that someday the Mother daughter would capture his Haveli. He's somewhere afraid of completely surrendering himself to the love. Cause he knows they sometimes take undue advantage of him and he can't refuse cause they're too dear to him. He's just as afraid of the commitment right now as Babita. Not cause log kya kahenge. Cause one, he cannot lose out again, in ANY ANY way. He wouldn't be able to survive it. Two, cause still some trust is lacking from his side that these two haven't been able to instill in him. That has to happen.
Edited by Mishti_Dahi - 6 years ago