Originally posted by: HeartQuake
@Bold, I'd have completely agreed with you on this point , had it been... a NORMAL and proper marriage. Isn't it a deal marriage where Prerna is practically free from each and every single aspect of what being a wife and marital duties means in a normal marriage. Let's look at their marriage shall we ?? Prerna ran away without informing any thing to her newly married husband where she's going , let alone taking his approval before going , two minutes after marriage , to meet her lover at the hospital and was crying at his chest ! Can't quite imagine such a scenerio in a normal marriage , can we ??? When she came back , Bajaj made it clear he neither needed nor wanted any explanation as to her activities . He was smooth and cool as cucumber when she was busy over in next two minutes . He's unperturbed over Prerna's constant Anurag chants , he's unperturbed over her repeatedly meeting with Anurag . He's unperturbed over her declaring her body , mind , heart yada yada belongs to Anurag . She made it clear she's no plan to consummate her marriage as of now , and he was completely cool with that . In fact , he doesn't want to ! Can you imagine even 1 % of all these in any normal or usual marriage ?? No, right ?? Then please tell me , how exactly do you expect other aspects of a normal marriage to apply in this case ?? So , Prerna can enjoy and live life like a maiden for indefinite period post-marriage but Bajaj must behave like how he should behave in a conventional marriage ??? Is this remotely fair or justified ?? Bajaj can be having 10 kids , two mistresses and 5 affairs and regular ONSs and he has every bit of right to not reveal any of this to Prerna, if he wishes to and no he won't be wrong . Why ?? Because he's not forcing Prerna to treat this marriage as a marriage.
Prerna's stupidity can't be used as an excuse to give pass to Bajaj's actions only because he thinks they are right in his opinion. Bajaj is unperturbed by Prerna's rant because she has made it clear about everything beforehand. If he forces her or crosses the line, it looks bad on Bajaj's part not on Prerna. And it is a proper marriage since it happened with all rituals, hold a legal ground.
Prerna has all the right to tell her husband that she doesn't want to consummate with him & Bajaj will have to listen to that because anything contrary to it without her consent would amount as rape from his side. Besides, it's not like Bajaj doesn't know from where Prerna is coming afterall he was the one to put forward this condition.
Whatever maybe Prerna's reasons for revealing that she was carrying a child to escape him but Bajaj knows everything about her past & how her past affects her present, which is necessary in the marriage. He hasn't been kept in darkness about it. Even when it's not a normal marriage, Prerna has all her cards out for Bajaj to deal with. What does Prerna know? That this man has an ex-wife & a child from her. That this man's ex-wife would come haunting them back & she would have to care about the child. Prerna had all the right to use her pregnancy to escape him back then & try her luck.
So, you think Bajaj can have all the records with no right to reveal in a marriage. He can have a deadly illness & still he is not entitled to reveal things that will directly affect another party in the deal 24*7. He is entitled to not tell about his One Night Stands since they are his private adventures but he is entitled to tell her about the child & his ex-marital status, no matter what sort of marriage this is because otherwise it's forgery on all grounds because this piece of information affects Prerna directly. Bajaj has demanded loyalty from this woman while he chooses to conveniently bypass this when it comes to him. What does loyalty means which he keeps on repeating it? He definitely doesn't mean that Prerna is free to have an extra-marital affair with her lover while being in marriage with him. He wants her to fulfill all the duties of wife publicly, that's what his loyalty deal means & you are telling me that he isn't expecting anything unconventional from her.
If Bajaj can have all the mistresses & affairs without revealing, then even Prerna should get a free pass to have an extra-marital affair with Anurag & not reveal it because even that won't be wrong.
Prerna did it but Bajaj didn't.
Oh , rest assured being honest and frank was the farthest thing from her mind while she revealed her pregnancy to Bajaj . She was trying to be sleek and slink away from her end of the deal , because she fully expected Bajaj to back out after hearing about her pregnancy . That's why she was so frustrated when it didn't quite work out like that. 
But please don't give her credit , where it isn't due. She was just using her pregnancy , nothing else.
And no, Prerna didn't sign up to be a mother to his children. It's a burden that comes on her with this marriage of which she is made aware after the marriage. Till when was Bajaj planning to delay this revealition. While he demanded her loyalty, it didn't cross his mind to even know if this woman right there would like to have responsibility of a special child while she is going to have her own. Saving or clicking with a child immediately doesn't equal to saying yes to mother the child 24*7. One needs to take explicit consent for that which is absent in this case. If Anurag had hidden about his child from Prerna while marrying her, then it would have been wrong too. Did Prerna accept this child till now? NO. She now will have to since she will have no choice.
@Red , doesn't apply , because like I previously wrote , it's not a normal marriage. 2ndly , Bajaj never forced her to do any thing , not before marriage , not after marriage. May I know why you're assuming that he's going to force Sneha down her throat ?? Sneha was being looked after before Prerna came in their lives and Prerna can always refuse to have anything to do with the child . Uski beti Bajaj pe itna bhari nehi hai ki wo use kisi unwilling horse se bandh de ! But he also knows she'll happily and willingly agree . And like always , his hunch will be proven right. And if it doesn't , like I said , she can always say NO and that'll be the end of topic ! But I think we both know she won't do that. She's an inherent connection with Sneha.
So, it's right for everyone to assume that other side would be fine with everything they do. It was right for Anurag to assume that Prerna would move on once he married Komo & insulted her, it was right for Prerna to assume that Anu will move on after she is done giving him self-degrading reasons for this marriage. And it is right that Bajaj can hide this crucial piece of information because she is a highly empathetic woman who will agree to it because she has promised her loyalty to him. It's right for Bajaj to assume that she will willingly agree to do this job just like Anurag is right to assume that Prerna still loves him & would come back to him if he presses the right buttons. Prerna is being criticized for hiding the pregnancy truth from the father of her child when she had all the chances, but Bajaj should be given a free pass for hiding this because it's not a normal marriage? So, basically, it's right for everyone to assume things on their own without taking another party into consideration & communicate the expectations directly? So, if Prerna refuses to agree to this, will Bajaj be big-heart enough to let her go immediately & not do any harm?
An incoherent connection between a random child & a stranger is no justification to Bajaj marrying Prerna to have a mother for his child without even revealing this to her. If he really meant that he didn't marry her for business, then this is the only reason that remains.
Yashoda didn't know that Krishna was someone else's son because when she woke up, Krishna was by her side as her own son. So, that analogy doesn't hold true.
Oh it was for those who were saying disgusting things like, "dusre ke bachhe ke nanny banne se pehel apne bachhe ke kheyal rakh.. apne bachhe ka fikar nehi etc. etc. " Basically putting down nurture against nature. In which case Yashoda is basically lesser than Devki because she wasn't the birth mother. So you see the analogy fits like a hand in a glove.
Please take comments in their context . I know perfectly well in which circumstances Yashoda found Krishna , being a devout Lord Krishna worshipper. Thank you.
Are you willingly ignoring the difference between Yashoda & Prerna here & giving this example out of context? The question is not about birth mother vs step-mother. The question is about Bajaj marrying a woman without revealing that he wants a mother for his special child & then informing her he married her for this reason. This whole reason makes him shallow just like Anurag.
Bajaj doesn't expect her to be his wife in conventional ways but he wants something from her that is non-conventional by all standards.
Hiding about a child when marrying someone & then expecting that the new spouse should be good to her because legally she is the step mother/father is wrong.
@Blue, just in case you missed . Does. NOT. Apply . Here.
It perfectly applies here. Bajaj has assumed things about Prerna on his own without taking her into consideration about something this big. That doesn't make him any better.
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