I mean this is the nicest and most respectful way but man, we are one bunch of jazbaati people, myself included. Our whole culture is.
We get upset and jazbaati over such almost trivial issues, and reach and draw conclusions and form love/hate relationships with characters over measly dialogues, which the writer should be blamed for rather than the character being hated for.
Mauli calls out Kunal's name or tells Ishaan had she not come there none of this would have happened - but instead of understanding what is going on, we get offended and upset.
Ishaan tells Mauli to go back to her ex (which equally bothered me) and then he gets blasted about it.
Which to each their own, everyone has a right to their opinion and I completely respect that.
But honestly, if we translate any of these situations to the real world, not everything is always so black and white. There isn't always a right answer. What seems right for one, doesn't seem right for the other. Mauli has made decisions, which I personally wouldn't have made - but that being said, I can still understand her train of thought and understand where she is coming from.
Case in point, Sandhya ji. She asked Mauli to give up Radhika/Dida, Mauli couldn't cause for her, they are her mothers, they supported her and did so much for her, she can't live without them, so she chose them. Okay sure. But then, she pushed Ishaan away so as to not lead on him. Could she have told him the truth? Of course. Should they have had a mature conversation and made a mutual decision? A lot of us would have done that. But then what if Ishaan got into a fight with his mom? Something Mauli didn't want.
It's very clear here, and also in real life, that sometimes, there isn't one right answer, and just because we would make a certain decision or a certain decision is right for us, that doesn't mean it's right for everyone else.
We should learn to understand differing points of views, instead of being upset over them.
Meaning to say, that if Mauli was a real person in my life, I would have totally advised her to talk things out with Ishaan/tell him about Sandhya's condition etc. instead of just pushing him away.
But that being said, her rationale, though it would differ from my own, was still understandable.
Either she lose her motherly figures or she tell Ishaan about his mothers condition and he gets into a fight with his own mother or she decides that though she won't marry Ishaan, at least she will allow Ishti - but then in the long run, if she is not marrying him that would hurt both Ishti and would lead both of them on.
It honestly wasn't an easy choice, and again, sometimes even I disagree with her or get disappointed, but I have to realize that from her point of view, or from where she is standing, it's not always easy, there isn't always one right choice.
And biggest of all - Mauli always has good intentions. I learned this a few years back, but sometimes, when someone's actions seem questionable to us, we must take a step back and ask ourselves, were the intentions actually bad, or did they have good intentions, and that is at least for me a huge differentiation factor.
Further more, what truly perplexes me, baffles me, makes me cringe and even boils my blood, depending on what day you catch me on, is when anyone in the forum says that Mauli deserves Kunal or should just go back to him.
Like honestly, seriously, what in the even.
Victim shaming at it's finest. She is human, she makes mistakes, she is overly good sometimes, and ignores Ishaan and Mishti (though in my opinion she is aware of her own flaw and does try to make up for it), sometimes she ends up negating her own apologies to Ishaan, all that I get, but making statements saying she should just go back to Kunal, like what in the world?
No one deserves someone like Kunal, everyone deserves someone like Ishaan.
Let's not let our anger or disappointment cloud our judgement and allow us to make morally questionable statements.
Let's not forget all she went through. Just because wo hamare umeedo per nae uthare, doesn't mean we should completely forget she's a victim, and then bash her and say she deserved what happened to her, or she should just end up back with Kunal.
What's disturbing is that, this stuff happens in real life. EMA's happen, we tend to bash women if we get angry with their choice etc.
Like I know she's fictional, but come on guys. I said this to Nandy once, and asked her, if Mauli was a real person in our life, or one of our own was actually going through what she was (God forbid) would we really be as harsh? I sure as hell wouldn't. I would tell my loved one they are making a mistake, I would call them out on their mistakes, but I wouldn't lose patience with them nor would I forget all they have been through.
I know everyone's experiences have shaped their personality and opinions. I respect that.
But all I'm saying is that for me, I am the type that will always support my girls. Be they my mother, sister, best friend, cousin, whom ever. I may not agree with their decision, sometimes I may not even understand it, but I will always support them and be there for them. Because when you get mad and shun them, you know what happens? Rajdeep. Things like Rajdeep happen.
Fun fact, in the US, an abused woman tries to leave her husband 6-7x (and always comes back to him) before she actually does permanently. And I would hope that abused woman, despite coming back to her husband so many times, still found herself surrounded by women who patiently deal with her and continually tell her she's making a mistake, without pouncing on her.
Sorry Mili for taking over your post, and ranting here, it has just been such a redundant theme this whole week that I just commented here.
Again, no offense to anyone, I respect everyone's views, but just giving some food for thought.
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