Originally posted by: mili9
Sabhayata, I completely agree with the bolded part here. This is so true. How, he conducted himself in the face of temptations is what determines his strength, commitment to people, his character and nothing else.
I want to switch gears and tell you what my take is. I think Dida completely lost it, if she wants Mauli to consider Kunal's great qualities and forget the devastation he caused in her life. She as a parent may be able to look at the big picture. But, no matter how many great qualities he might have, at the end of the day, Mauli is asked to consider him to be her husband and life partner. He sucked at both those positions. She can't point out that he was a great husband and life partner to the other woman and therefore he will be a good one for you too... That is simply ridiculous.
Let me give an example. If for example, I am interviewing for a job that requires tasks XYZ, I cannot sell myself by saying I am a nitwit when it comes to tasks XYZ, but I am a star at tasks A-W, and so please overlook my inability to do tasks XYZ😲 Nor can anyone recommend me by saying she is a total fluke when it comes to XYZ, but she knows other things, so I think she will be a great XYZ. The interviewer will laugh at my face, right?
Similarly, Bill Clinton is a great economist, a wise and a capable president, a visionary, a great orator, but a philanderer and an awful husband. How can we assume that he will make a great husband, because he made a difference to this world? Similarly, when you are getting operated on, you will look for a great surgeon with track record, not a good husband, when you need a great teacher, you will look for his/her teaching credentials, but not if they are great sons or daughters. So, I feel, dida has completely lost it, it doesn't matter whether Kunal is the greatest doctor, son, grandson, father ( which I will refute in a minute ), HE WAS THE WORST POSSIBLE HUSBAND for Mauli. Similarly, if Rajdeep had been a great employer, a good son, brother or whatever else, she won't ask Nandini to give him another chance , correct, just because he has one burayi, sadism, you can't overlook all great qualities. THAT WAS TOTAL BUNKUM.
But, if we take specifics into consideration, Kunal had failed on so many different fronts.
As son and grandson- he abandoned his dependent mother and invalid grandmother to their means to fend for themselves. Blank calling once a year, didn't pay their bills. Like I keep saying, if this lady had to face the music of having to financially support themselves, then she would be saying something totally different.
As a father- he totally failed Mishti. Pari is not his only child. This great pediatrician didn't even feel the need to have a heart to heart chat and a heartfelt apology to Mishti for leaving her and at least explaining to her in plain words that she was not unwanted. As a savior of the children of this world, he should understand what an emotional burden that would be on a young child to feel as an unwanted, discarded child😡
As a doctor- he ended up quitting his position because he was asked to do something unethical. In principle, this looks good, but don't you have to be IN the profession if you want to do any good to the people. He could have gone to work in some charity clinics, start up his own small enterprise, instead of sitting at home with a lot of free time on hand, and self-pitying that Mauli has no time for him and therefore straying towards the mistress. Who lost out by quitting? Those patients whom he could have served, nothing happened to the corporate hospital. HE FAILED HIS PROFESSION. What a shame that he couldn't understand the rigors of the profession for his wife! 😡
As a friend- If we consider that he helped out Nandini as a friend, he failed that too, by taking advantage of a vulnerable victim.
Even if he was great in any of these roles, the bottom line was HE WAS AN ABHORRENT HUSBAND and for Mauli that is what ultimately matters💔
Mangal Lakshmi
