Originally posted by: alizia_malik
A PERFECT BLEND OF FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE!!
"At the end of the day you can either focus on what's tearing you apart, or you can focus on what's keeping you together
"A strong marriage doesn't always have two strong people at the same time...
"It is not lack of love but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages "- Friedrich Nietzsche
The most important aspect of the show that attracted me as a viewer apart from JenShad was that there is going to be a show dealing with mature relationship dynamics between couples. As the tag said " Aditya ki pyaar se bhari duniya aur Zoya ki saari khushiyan kyun chin gyi unse. The relationships that looked so perfect to everyone were not perfect in reality. This is a brutal truth that I think many couples had faced in their past and are facing in present and will be facing in future too. Being single.. relationships and there dynamics have really made me curious in the past and now this show again makes me wonder are relationships that complicated specially between a man and a wife.? Is romance or friendship in itself not really enough for a relationship to prosper? Can couples really be that transparent with each other to be bestie and not just good enough friends. I know how communication is the most basic key of a relationship.. partners should be comfortable and behjijhak with each other when it comes to disappointments or desires or responsibilities. But do they really do it in real life?? Or Is it just in books and stories and in BP and in marriage counseling pages. I have heard that the fuel of romance is important to keep the spark alive and passion intact but friendship is the only flame that keeps it going strong forever. There are many shows on betrayal.. EMA.. trust issues.. since these are realistic issues as we all see relationships breaking everyday around us. So what is it that makes a relationship strong enough to cross all the storms and come out much more stronger together? There must be a time in all bonds when the relationship might feel like a burden and guilt surfaces from one partner side . So how would you handle it differently then what Poosh did here? They totally gave up on their relationship and assumed everything from their own perspective. Truly were they not compatible at all?? Was it just because one felt there was no friendship and other no Passion or huge romantic gestures in their resp relationships. Or was it because they actually gave rather making their partners known to their issues.And communication is really the only solutions or it is the basic one to atleast start with somewhere. Aditya proposed Zoya and it was a dream proposal but we all can agree rarely things go that way in real life. Don't we all have to let go of few things here and there in relationships to make them work?? Didn't look like Aditya never loved Pooja or Zoya wasn't friend to Yash? These all can't alone be the reasons to shake the unbreakable bond of marriage. Is it really that easy to give up? And what makes a person be damn sure that another one is the perfect match for them or not as real lives are not fairytale where I will meet my own Aditya Hooda by luck or destiny. Balancing a relationship with both love and friendship ... sounds like not a very big deal though in reality can be challenging then still why it is so easy for couples to fall apart. In india mostly marriages seems based on mutual goal... arranged for the sake of marriage of their children by parents.
I have always thought it depends on a person what he wants in his/her relationship. Everyone is different.. their expectations.. their wishes.. are so different with each other. Without actually being in the relationship with someone how can one decide what it is actually they require because sometimes we think we want something but in reality might even not need it. Truly human bonding is so complex and amazes me that there are really "almost perfect type couples in the world. Damn they are so lucky to find someone that makes their life much more better and let them grow in the relationship rather than suffocating them on the name of so called kamiya and faults.
Sorry to bother you all but I have to let it out cause sometimes it scares the hell out of me that how complex this all can be.
Hey very interesting post.
TV / Movies world gives lot of importance to love, friendship and friend-zone aspect for a relationship / marriage to be successful.
In reality, Marriage is a combination of too many things really. It is not as simple. Lot of things need to be in proportion such as love, friendship, respect, trust, finances, career, desires, interest, parents / family approval, social recognition of the relationship, the equation of kids and so much more.
And despite all of the above, many couples are unhappy. This is because we as humans grow and evolve. So what we may want from our partner 3-4 years back, we may not want that any more and may want something else. Now if for some reason our partner is unable to fulfil that, disappointments creep in. Some couples take in their stride and some astray.
That was the case of Pooja and Yash. While PooSh had some good times with Adi and Zoya respectively, there was an aspect which Ad-Zoya couldn't fulfil, so they strayed away. But even if PooSh were alive and in a relationship freed from AdiYa, they would still have problems in that relationship.
Similarly, AdiYa are not going to have an easy relationship, even though they understand each other so well. But one thing that sets AdiYa apart from PooSh is their "ATTITUDE". PooSh attitude was to call it quits, while AdiYa attitude is to hold together. They had that quality even when they were with PooSh and even now.
Marriage is about three things largely; Good communication between partners, the desire to keep it working, and third is to feel contented in one's own marriage.
Marriages are complicated but extremely beautiful. They are far above finding a perfect Aditya Hooda or Zoya and live happily ever after. Marriage is like decorating a home or raising a baby. The more you nurture, the more beautiful it becomes. But above all marriage gives both partners a beautiful identity of their own. Together they can create a whole new world of their dreams.
Edited by Missesha - 7 years ago
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