A Perfect Blend Of Friendship And Love!!

A PERFECT BLEND OF FRIENDSHIP AND LOVE!!

"At the end of the day you can either focus on what's tearing you apart, or you can focus on what's keeping you together

"A strong marriage doesn't always have two strong people at the same time...

"It is not lack of love but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages "- Friedrich Nietzsche

The most important aspect of the show that attracted me as a viewer apart from JenShad was that there is going to be a show dealing with mature relationship dynamics between couples. As the tag said " Aditya ki pyaar se bhari duniya aur Zoya ki saari khushiyan kyun chin gyi unse. The relationships that looked so perfect to everyone were not perfect in reality. This is a brutal truth that I think many couples had faced in their past and are facing in present and will be facing in future too. Being single.. relationships and there dynamics have really made me curious in the past and now this show again makes me wonder are relationships that complicated specially between a man and a wife.? Is romance or friendship in itself not really enough for a relationship to prosper? Can couples really be that transparent with each other to be bestie and not just good enough friends. I know how communication is the most basic key of a relationship.. partners should be comfortable and behjijhak with each other when it comes to disappointments or desires or responsibilities. But do they really do it in real life?? Or Is it just in books and stories and in BP and in marriage counseling pages. I have heard that the fuel of romance is important to keep the spark alive and passion intact but friendship is the only flame that keeps it going strong forever. There are many shows on betrayal.. EMA.. trust issues.. since these are realistic issues as we all see relationships breaking everyday around us. So what is it that makes a relationship strong enough to cross all the storms and come out much more stronger together? There must be a time in all bonds when the relationship might feel like a burden and guilt surfaces from one partner side . So how would you handle it differently then what Poosh did here? They totally gave up on their relationship and assumed everything from their own perspective. Truly were they not compatible at all?? Was it just because one felt there was no friendship and other no Passion or huge romantic gestures in their resp relationships. Or was it because they actually gave rather making their partners known to their issues.And communication is really the only solutions or it is the basic one to atleast start with somewhere. Aditya proposed Zoya and it was a dream proposal but we all can agree rarely things go that way in real life. Don't we all have to let go of few things here and there in relationships to make them work?? Didn't look like Aditya never loved Pooja or Zoya wasn't friend to Yash? These all can't alone be the reasons to shake the unbreakable bond of marriage. Is it really that easy to give up? And what makes a person be damn sure that another one is the perfect match for them or not as real lives are not fairytale where I will meet my own Aditya Hooda by luck or destiny. Balancing a relationship with both love and friendship ... sounds like not a very big deal though in reality can be challenging then still why it is so easy for couples to fall apart. In india mostly marriages seems based on mutual goal... arranged for the sake of marriage of their children by parents.

I have always thought it depends on a person what he wants in his/her relationship. Everyone is different.. their expectations.. their wishes.. are so different with each other. Without actually being in the relationship with someone how can one decide what it is actually they require because sometimes we think we want something but in reality might even not need it. Truly human bonding is so complex and amazes me that there are really "almost perfect type couples in the world. Damn they are so lucky to find someone that makes their life much more better and let them grow in the relationship rather than suffocating them on the name of so called kamiya and faults.

Sorry to bother you all but I have to let it out cause sometimes it scares the hell out of me that how complex this all can be.

Originally posted by: deeps07

U know i have only one thing to suggest about marriage...keep an open mind..we can never ask others to change for u..but we can always keep ourselves welcoming to observe and understand anything they are going to show u..i wont say accept them for who they r..we can only accept those traits which are acceptable..i sometimes there might be matters which is just not acceptable for us to cope with..be open..understand who they are..observe them..and if they are worth it..take ur time and influence them by pointing ur views and visions..become a friend when he needs a friend..give love always..friends love u too..if u get it back u r lucky and blessed..

If not..i feel.it might take time..but it will get there..

in pooja and adityas life..pooja could have been more vocal abt her unhappiness..she was sort of vocal too..but aditya being aditya..maybe he needed to hear the exact words to realize the depth of the situation..marriage is definitely complicated if we give too.much thought about how we r gonnu cope with each other..just let it go along like a song ..it will surely have its ups and downs..but at the end of the day let it show a story which was worth the struggle...

Ps..btw i am married and i can really understand that complexity in a relationship.😆..i dnt even like it when people talk.like..shipping me with my hubby..like we r so.perfect together..god knows how.much we need to cope with eachother.. Yea we do have good feelings too..but not an easy road..so better stop shipping when nobody has a clue..😆...after all this...still somehwere i also understand that there is gonnu be a day when i will see back and think maybe i too had a beautiful story..😉

Originally posted by: Kiruravi

Woww alizia!! U hav written all the possible complications in a relationship and valid genuine feelings. I think the thing which keeps ppl intact and committed in a relationship differs for each couple.As a prsn who is in relationship i wanna say few things frm what i hav understood nd experienced. mine was frndship turned love.tht frndship tht comfort level is still the same between us, love hasnt reduced our frndship.But love certainly brings MU at certain point. What i think is ,TRUST being empathatic and good understanding is very impt in a relationship. If u have the good understanding about each others mindset feelings behaviour nature then tht itself will avoid many major problems. if there is a tension situation then we used to put ourselves in each others place which changed a lot in our relationship.But it will not be the same in all situation at times i too hav lost temper and it had led to certain mu. But we quickly patch up. So i think more than fights nd mu hw quickly u patch up nd make things clear between urselves is important cuz tht quick patchup shows ur level of understanding abt each other.

Communication is another thing which plays an important role. If u dnt like something u hav to tell then and there which will avoid mu in future. Trust is the mother of all nd it has to be mutual. If only one has strong trust nd other doesnt then no value!

All these 2gether is what love accrdng to me are interconnected with each other tht is the complication! if you hav good communication then good frndship wil bloom which leads to good understanding. good understanding automatically lead to strong trust.

so if trust fails then it indicates ur rlnship lacked good understandg good communication nd good frndship.

all these things are same for both love nd arranged mrg but the diff is, in luv mrg itself u will build all these elements b4 mrg whereas in arranged mrg after mrg it will happen. all these together is what love for me passion intensity tht urge to do anything for each other will be there in a relationship but these things alone will not define love for me.

Wanna write more than this but stopping her😆this is completely my opinion nd take about relationship frm my own experience. married ppl can give us deep understandg abt a relationship ;)

Originally posted by: alizia_malik

@bold: damn true nd it took me time to understand this part in my relationship😆sincerely wish that u would get an amazing partner😳

Originally posted by: Kiruravi

Thanks Kiru :) and wish you best in the life too. 😃