How exactly is this fighting for right? - Page 3

Originally posted by: deebasd77

The way I see it, the concept is good but they are failing in execution. The biggest issue here is that the misrepresentation about the actual talaq processes. The CVs need to get their facts right.

I am not a muslim but I come from a Muslim country and we are very much exposed to the Sharia laws for the muslims. In my country tripple talaq is not an option. You need to follow the right processes and guidelines as per the Islamic laws and courts. Here the bigger issue is the ease in which a man can remarry even when the spouse objects. In my country as long as the male can prove he can provide equally for all his wives .. they can hv multiple wives .. not more than 4

In ISA .. the fact they are opposing tripple talaq is good. But the way they hv framed the talaq process seems wrong. As Zara n Kabeer are supposed to have a counselling and 3 months cooling of period (iddat). None of this is there. Also kabeer should be shown as having a valid reason for talaq. He clearly says he still loves her. Which just negates the whole reason ppl actually divorce.

With Zara , CVs need to decide if her marriage or her social services are more important . As right now it looks like she just finds avenues to rebel and than want to make up with kabeer even though she knows he is against it. The CVs could hv handled this better.

Right now the way it's going it's not a good example for young couples. It just says as long as you have a difference of opinion you can divorce and love is not important. My question here ... is the marriage institution a joke ?

That is my point too. Zara is not wrong in her stance for what is right or in her work for women's right but she should understand the repurcussion it will have on her marriage. If she chooses to prioritize social work it is better for both hers and Kabeer's well-being that they separate because otherwise they are going to be miserable together. Even before uttering talaq Kabeer asked her if she could change her point of view for him and she said she could not. Did that not open her eyes to the mess that this marriage is? Everytime there will be a similar situation she will run off to do her social service which will somehow end up hurting Kabeer and it will be the same cycle again and again. I think Kabeer is more practical in that he realized from the very beginning how their difference of viewpoint would be a problem for them working together. Had Zara worked in a different place or had Kabeer worked in a different place, things would not have become so complicated. Again, Kabeer realizes that love alone cannot make a marriage work: understanding, trust and adjustments are important factors too. Zara thinks that because she loves Kabeer, she can prioritize other things and return to her marriage when she feels she has wrapped up her work and Kabeer will be all smiles and waiting for her. Zara and Kabeer both need to learn to prioritize their marriage.

Originally posted by: SanayaK

Awesome post. I hope cv's are reading this. The idea is very good. But They have messed up the execution.

Hope they takes steps to correct this.

All this while I loved Zara's character, but now I'm finding it really hard to relate to her.

As for Kabeer I always felt he had some multiple personality disorder. One day he is totally in love with Zara and showering her with so much care and affection and love. Next day he treats her like shit. Awful.

I think love is just one asoect in marriage. It takes many other things to make a marriage work. I personally think Kabeer is acting very much like a man in a modern patriarchal society. Divorce is not uncommon and people don't always go separate ways because they don't love each other. In fact, more often than not, couples are torn apart due to their differences and not lack of love. In ITV, we see love portrayed in such romanticized light that that has become our benchmark. I have had love marriage but when my husband and I fight we tear each other apart. We both have in some fight or other declared that we don't want to stay married with each other, walked out on each other, did not talk for days, etc. What love does is it eventually calms you down and you want to go back and make your marriage work. This is why I love Islam's concept of iddat in divorce because I feel the beauty of it. Kabeer had his wife prioritize her social service over him, he had to listen to people saying things about him, he had her publicly take a stand against him and the final nail in the coffin was having her testify against him in sharia court and proving him guilty. Let's take a step back and see it from his perspective, how must it heart! I cannot imagine my husband ever testifying against me, it must be heart wrenching. What disturbed me was how Zara after taking such a huge step expected him to take the first step for reconciliation instead of trying to make it up to him, explain to him how she had to do what was right but that he was very important to her and she loved him. When she should have thought of her husband and marriage, she was being all high and mighty as if he is some puppy who would come wagging his tail to her sooner or later. I didn't understand this confidence in her and her absolute out of tune with her husband's feeling. Kabeer on the other hand would not have taken such a step had his mother not intervened and suffocated him. She was being a completely stupid woman who showed no feeling for her son and was only concerned for Zara. All he ever wanted was to make his father's dream come true and become Sheher Kazi,instead he had to resign and his mother did not pay two hoots about it. In his anger he was very wrong to give her divorce and I don't support him in any way but I can't find it in me to respect Zara anymore either. Now after she was given divorce, she comes and forces herself and her relationship on Kabeer and the rest of the people of this house. The CVs have made such a mess of the characters and the story!

Originally posted by: HeavenlyBliss.

I am not surprised as these shows never show divorce in the rght way...i am just hoping they dont bring in halala :S

Omg that's exactly what I'm scared of 😕