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I am so confused regarding Zara's character. She wants to stay with the chauvenistic pig that Kabeer Ahmed is and piss him every alternate day through her actions for women empowerment? This man just gave her a talaq, that is not a matter of joke and in she comes and wants to work on her relationship with him while he is not even remotely interested!
From Islamic perspective they are going through the period of iddat where Zara is not completely divorced but she is not married either, I don't understand why the CVs are handling this situation in this manner. She has every right to stay in her husband's house during this period but has no rights over him and neither does he have any rights on her. They are expected to stay in separate rooms as they cannot have any sexual relations. In the event, they end up having sex, the talaq will have become moot and void. If during this period of iddat the husband chooses to take the wife back, he needs to verbally tell her that he takes her back (this is called ruju) in front of two witnesses just like he gave her talaq in front of two witnesses. In the event he does not take her back within these three months, their divorce is finalized. He can say talaq another two times over the course of two months in front of witnesses but he doesn't need to, as long as he doesn't take her back, they will be divorced by the end of three months. The court has banned triple talaq, not talaq itself (which falls under Sharia law) so Zara staying in Kabeer's room and pretending as if nothing happened it just wrong. Even if she wants to work on her marriage, being a Muslim, she should stay in a separate room and try to woo Kabeer, the CVs should really research on talaq before showing whatever they want to show.
Secondly, as a woman, I can't accept that Zara fighting back actually means running after her husband who literally threw her away like a toilet paper. I think for two people to coexist together, both need to make some adjustments. I personally felt that Zara in her quest to get women their rights, put her marriage in the backseat. There is nothing wrong with that, people don't always need to prioritize their marriage above everything else but she should at least accept to herself that her marriage or Kabeer's feelings are less important to her than her values. If that is the case then why is she even trying to make this marriage work at the cost of her self-respect knowing that not a single value of hers and Kabeer's matches? She is confident and has no intention of changing herself and has seen that Kabeer is the same and yet she is neither willing to give up on her marriage nor on her ideology but everyday she is giving up a bit on her self-respect. No matter what, I could not digest Zara giving statement against her husband in Sharia board: it was very disturbing for me. Up until then I supported Zara for her fight for right but she could easily have refused to give a statement, as a human being that is her right, as a wife that is her right, but she didn't. Instead she made it seem like she would do some gunah (an activity which deserves punishment in the eyes of Allah) if she did not testify against him. Allah allows husband and wife to testify against each other in a court of law but it is not mandatory that they do so, it is just that if they require to do so, they should not feel guilty about it. Kabeer refusing to lead the prayer was od course wrong but was it absolutely necessary for Zara to testify against him? Was it necessary for Irfan to put her in the spot? Where there no other women or men who would be able to testify against him? It had to be either Zara or his mom? I don't know if divorce is too rash an action on Kabeer's part or not, but both Kabeer and Zara have every reason to be very pissed off at each other at the moment, I don't know why Zara is behaving like this. Kabeer actually had his wife testify against him: if I put myself in his place I can literally hear my heart breaking to pieces.
It hurts my self respect as a woman to see Zara trying to patch up with him after he has given her a divorce and left her at her parents place. Before he had given a divorce, Zara was of the attitude that he had left her and he had to come to take her back. Which to me made perfect sense but then after her sharia board stunt of testifying against him, I felt she had wronged him to such an extent as a wife that she should initiate fixing the relationship but she chose not to. Kabeer did not wrong her by refusing to offer prayer, he opposed every women's right to pray there, she was never the target. But she stood against Kabeer when she testified and not against his ideology.Something like this can actually lead to a divorce in real life. But Zara actually thought that Kabeer would come to take her after all this and decked up as a bride! What sort of a bubble does she live in? Had the situation been reversed, had Kabeer caused her permanent damage in her workplace or social circle because of her ideological difference with him, would she be all mushy mushy with him? I have no idea what was she thinking or expecting! She was all high and mighty and queen of the world who thought that her husband should come and sweep her off her feet after all the mess that has happened between them. But then when he instead treated her like a tissue paper, it didn't hurt her self-respect at all to return to this house by herself. And not just that, to actually behave with Kabeer as if no problem has occured between them. She is now trying to pacify him for testifying against him in court after he has wronged her so grossly that she does not even have a way back to him unless he chooses to take her back!
From a religious perspective Zara was wrong today and so was every member of the family who allowed her to go back to that room instead of arranging a separate room for her. For a woman's perspective, grovelling after someone who has literally thrown you away is just disturbing and in no way anything to do with a woman's fight for right.
From Islamic perspective they are going through the period of iddat where Zara is not completely divorced but she is not married either, I don't understand why the CVs are handling this situation in this manner. She has every right to stay in her husband's house during this period but has no rights over him and neither does he have any rights on her. They are expected to stay in separate rooms as they cannot have any sexual relations. In the event, they end up having sex, the talaq will have become moot and void. If during this period of iddat the husband chooses to take the wife back, he needs to verbally tell her that he takes her back (this is called ruju) in front of two witnesses just like he gave her talaq in front of two witnesses. In the event he does not take her back within these three months, their divorce is finalized. He can say talaq another two times over the course of two months in front of witnesses but he doesn't need to, as long as he doesn't take her back, they will be divorced by the end of three months. The court has banned triple talaq, not talaq itself (which falls under Sharia law) so Zara staying in Kabeer's room and pretending as if nothing happened it just wrong. Even if she wants to work on her marriage, being a Muslim, she should stay in a separate room and try to woo Kabeer, the CVs should really research on talaq before showing whatever they want to show.
Secondly, as a woman, I can't accept that Zara fighting back actually means running after her husband who literally threw her away like a toilet paper. I think for two people to coexist together, both need to make some adjustments. I personally felt that Zara in her quest to get women their rights, put her marriage in the backseat. There is nothing wrong with that, people don't always need to prioritize their marriage above everything else but she should at least accept to herself that her marriage or Kabeer's feelings are less important to her than her values. If that is the case then why is she even trying to make this marriage work at the cost of her self-respect knowing that not a single value of hers and Kabeer's matches? She is confident and has no intention of changing herself and has seen that Kabeer is the same and yet she is neither willing to give up on her marriage nor on her ideology but everyday she is giving up a bit on her self-respect. No matter what, I could not digest Zara giving statement against her husband in Sharia board: it was very disturbing for me. Up until then I supported Zara for her fight for right but she could easily have refused to give a statement, as a human being that is her right, as a wife that is her right, but she didn't. Instead she made it seem like she would do some gunah (an activity which deserves punishment in the eyes of Allah) if she did not testify against him. Allah allows husband and wife to testify against each other in a court of law but it is not mandatory that they do so, it is just that if they require to do so, they should not feel guilty about it. Kabeer refusing to lead the prayer was od course wrong but was it absolutely necessary for Zara to testify against him? Was it necessary for Irfan to put her in the spot? Where there no other women or men who would be able to testify against him? It had to be either Zara or his mom? I don't know if divorce is too rash an action on Kabeer's part or not, but both Kabeer and Zara have every reason to be very pissed off at each other at the moment, I don't know why Zara is behaving like this. Kabeer actually had his wife testify against him: if I put myself in his place I can literally hear my heart breaking to pieces.
It hurts my self respect as a woman to see Zara trying to patch up with him after he has given her a divorce and left her at her parents place. Before he had given a divorce, Zara was of the attitude that he had left her and he had to come to take her back. Which to me made perfect sense but then after her sharia board stunt of testifying against him, I felt she had wronged him to such an extent as a wife that she should initiate fixing the relationship but she chose not to. Kabeer did not wrong her by refusing to offer prayer, he opposed every women's right to pray there, she was never the target. But she stood against Kabeer when she testified and not against his ideology.Something like this can actually lead to a divorce in real life. But Zara actually thought that Kabeer would come to take her after all this and decked up as a bride! What sort of a bubble does she live in? Had the situation been reversed, had Kabeer caused her permanent damage in her workplace or social circle because of her ideological difference with him, would she be all mushy mushy with him? I have no idea what was she thinking or expecting! She was all high and mighty and queen of the world who thought that her husband should come and sweep her off her feet after all the mess that has happened between them. But then when he instead treated her like a tissue paper, it didn't hurt her self-respect at all to return to this house by herself. And not just that, to actually behave with Kabeer as if no problem has occured between them. She is now trying to pacify him for testifying against him in court after he has wronged her so grossly that she does not even have a way back to him unless he chooses to take her back!
From a religious perspective Zara was wrong today and so was every member of the family who allowed her to go back to that room instead of arranging a separate room for her. For a woman's perspective, grovelling after someone who has literally thrown you away is just disturbing and in no way anything to do with a woman's fight for right.
Advocate Anjali Awasthi
Health and Fitness
