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I know majority wont agree with me, and the perspective of walking out of a marriage is what Zara should be doing, leaving Kabeer and his chauvinistic mentality. She is not bound to change him, hell no one is bound to change anyone, but how easy is to walk out of a marriage in the real world?
Again i should clarify, in NO way am i supporting any kind of abuse, but what Zara faces is the story of 90% of young, smart, educated, independent girls irrespective of religion. The controlling and moral policing is not even done by maulvis or religious heads, hell its done by modern educated boys who flip a side after marriage, even done by people who apparently enter a love marriage.
WHY? Because thats how men are raised .. thats how men are conditioned to think. Whose fault it is? Yet to determine.
I used to watch Pya ko Ho Jaane Do on SONY, wonder if anyone watched that, it had a beautiful dialgue ..
"samaj ne ye tu seekh liya k beti ko independent kasie banana hai, lekin abi take ye nai seekha k apne betey ko aisi larki k sath rehna bhi sikhana hai .."
This world learnt how to make thier girls independent, but is yet to teach its boys how to live with a girl who has a mind of her own.
Whoever has a modern open minded husband is lucky but lets not forget the plight of the majority who put up with this abuse everyday.
Why cant television have a fairy tale where an orthodox man changes his views and accepts his strong independent wife?
No Kabeer is not a random chauvinistic pig whose abuse is romanticized with an excuse of some dark past, he is the menatlity of EVERY SINGLE MALE, his thinking and mentality is NOT justified, his abuse is NOT romanticised .. he doesnt have a deep dark secret, how sickening is this thought that he just believes women should stay inside the house! Damn!
If this show shouldnt be on TV i wonder what should be ..
If a married couple watching this show can identify themselves with that bedroom scene where it felt Kabeer would kill her, and realise how it looks from a third perspective and MAYBE make that husband tone his voice down, because for once abuse is NOT romanticised, there is no soft back ground score .. no hair following and duppata flowing.
Walking out of a marriage is not as easy as it seems, yes its should be the case but leave society, not everyone wants to start everything afresh .. so televison deserves a fairytale of a typical male, whose thinking doesn't have an excuse, to change and fall in love .. if it gives hope to even a single girl to make her marriage work its worth it, and if it gives a mirror to even single boy to tone his aggression down, its worth it.
PROUD TO STAN #ISHQSUBHANALLAH.
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Arjun
