Did Pooja justify?

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LoveHopeMagic

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Posted: 7 years ago

On Monday'episode when Arjun was in the cafe, we got an insight into Pooja's thoughts and feelings. I clearly remember she said, how she found the real love despite being in a married relationship with Adi. She realized how chaste and loveless her marriage was after she met Yash.

The CVs almost showed as Pooja and Yash cheated, but what I'm not getting is, Did Pooja justify cheating on Adi with Yash while she talked to Arjun?

She did not utter the word cheating.

She did say that she found a different kind of feeling for Yash, something she never felt with Adi.

It happens in life. I am not a married woman but as a grown-up woman who might be getting married in any time of my life, I have a fear of falling out of love with the person I will be marrying. What if I find love, I mean the real love after marriage?

Does anyone have the same fear?

Pooja was courageous enough to accept the failure of her marriage. She was wrong as hell if she really cheated, but finding true love is not cheating. Or falling in love with a person while you are in a relationship is not cheating too.

Cheating happens when you have an affair with someone else apart from your husband.

Pooja did not say, she had an affair with Yash in her dairy, yet.

Pooja and Yash are not here to outright tell us that they cheated their spouses.

Did CVs tell that? I do not think so. They were so many proofs that showed they might have been cheating. Nobody confirmed it.

And divorce papers. No one has said that cheating has to be the reason behind one filing divorce. There can be many other reasons. What if Pooja made those because she wanted to walk out of her marriage, and walking out of a relationship is not bad. In that case, all breakups happen around us would be bad and no one will be happy.

Pooja really cared about Adi if you ask me, and that was why she wanted him to get what she got.

So my real doubt was, did pooja justify? 😕

As a Keralite I have problems with grasping some dialogues, did I miss something? 😕

PS : This post is not to hurt anyone. I hate cheaters. 😡

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Sonya

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Posted: 7 years ago

I can not really sympathize with pooja because the person she was cheating on was not just her husband but her best friend as well.

It was may be not in her control to hold back her feelings for Yash specially when she was not happy in her marriage. That is okay we all are humans and everyone has right to happiness but on what cost we are getting it is the big question.

She should have at least tried to make her marriage work but from whatever I have seen so far I couldn't see any special efforts from her. She had lots of expectations from Adi and her marriage but what did she do to make it work?

I don't know what was her reason for not signing the divorce papers but it was good that she was at least ready to get out of relationship she was not happy in, because that's the way things should have been done. But with all being said I can never related with Pooja. As for yash I don't even want to talk about him. That man confessed his love to his wife in their last meeting and then we saw divorce papers signed by Yash, not by pooja.

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LoveHopeMagic

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Ianoconic.
I can not really sympathize with pooja because the person she was cheating on was not just her husband but her best friend as well.
It was may be not in her control to hold back her feelings for Yash specially when she was not happy in her marriage. That is okay we all are humans and everyone has right to happiness but on what cost we are getting it is the big question.
She should have at least tried to make her marriage work but from whatever I have seen so far I couldn't see any special efforts from her. She had lots of expectations from Adi and her marriage but what did she do to make it work?
I don't know what was her reason for not signing the divorce papers but it was good that she was at least ready to get out of relationship she was not happy in, because that's the way things should have been done. But with all being said I can never related with Pooja. As for yash I don't even want to talk about him. That man confessed his love to his wife in their last meeting and then we saw divorce papers signed by Yash, not by pooja.

That's my question again, did she really cheat Adi? Having feelings for someone else when you are married to another one is not cheating.

@B I completely agree with this. She did not try to make it work, she had expectations from him but who does not? She was wrong for not trying to work her relationship but I think Adi never tried to see their marriage from her side.

From all the FB of Adi and Pooja, they both were so different, they had their moments but they never saw how failure their marriage was. And for that, we can not blame Pooja only, coz Adi is equally responsible.

Even i do not want to talk about Yash yet, once we get his insights the forum will have the chat.

Edited by Sovereign_K - 7 years ago

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Sophia

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Posted: 7 years ago

poojaa was wrong in finding love after marriage.. whatever it is

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sweetcathy29

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Posted: 7 years ago

No one usually use word cheater for themselves.

as for whether pooja tried to justify her actions... think its more on the side of pooja trying to want Aditya to move on after this. As for WHY? you may ask

Aditya has said many a times,

Pooja knew how much I hate cheaters and this is the one thing that will hurt me the most

mostly because his dad cheated on his mom.

Hence, all those things what pooja wrote in her diary is some sort of BOTH an acceptance that she did cheated and asking for forgiveness for her actions.

that's my honest opinion.

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LoveHopeMagic

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: sweetcathy29
No one usually use word cheater for themselves.

as for whether pooja tried to justify her actions... think its more on the side of pooja trying to want Aditya to move on after this. As for WHY? you may ask

Aditya has said many a times, mostly because his dad cheated on his mom.

Hence, all those things what pooja wrote in her diary is some sort of BOTH an acceptance that she did cheated and asking for forgiveness for her actions.

that's my honest opinion.

Ok. I understood your point.

But still, I cannot digest the fact that having feelings for someone and hoping your partner to get the same when you walk out of your marriage is cheating?

And what if Pooja wanted him to move on because she cared about him, and she really wanted Adi to be happy. Out of these two, Pooja was a mature person and I believe that was why she realized her marriage being a failure before Adi.

Imagine, after she realizes it, she tries to stay in her marriage in all loyalty, trying to work their relation [A relation will never work without love how much you try] soon Adi will realize how loveless his marriage was, it will happen because that is life.

Nothing hurts more than depriving a person of their happiness.

What is right? Giving your partner the freedom from the loveless marriage or keeping them in your loveless marriage?

And yeah, nobody would call themselves cheater.

Edited by Sovereign_K - 7 years ago

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Cold coffee_mania

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Posted: 7 years ago

Exactly we cant blame only one 4 a failed marriage but diff b/w pooja & adi is , adi never created an image of perfect marriage or perfect husband pooja created an image of perfect wife & marriage.

Yes adi took pooja 4 granted but pooja 2 did took adi 4 granted, if adi was ignorant pooja was egoistic.

If u notice what ever pooja wrote in diary 2 justify herself sge indirectly blamed adi 4 failed marriage, she wrote adi was not available , adi was not present , adi se apnapan nhi mila blah blah blah no where she pointed i m 2 responsible 4 failure of my marriage, infact so busy in pointing finding fault in adi that she forgot 2 see where she is lacking why is her marriage not working forget it infact she herself never tried 2 work on her marriage or i say she dont want 2 after meeting yash.

I agree pooja found luv in yash but who gave her right 2 play with adi's emotions. She says she was guilty but really she was guilty or she really cared 4 adi , if she was really guilty or caree 4 adi then she would not had created an illusion of perfect marriage infact she would had really cared 4 her marriage.

Forget being a wife she was never a frnd 2 adi , as sge was worst then an enemy , knowingly hurting someone on his weakest point is not called frndship

Adi respected pooja's individuality infact he encouraged pooja 2 have her own identity but pooja never respected adi's individuality infact she always wanted 2 make adi do what she like. There is no rule that partners had 2 have same liking or disliking. Adi never forced pooja 2 like his likings but pooja do force adi

Adi 2 would had been responsible 4 failed marriage if despite pooja talking 2 adi about their marriage problems adi dont bring changes in himself. Pooja is 99%wrong no amount of justification can justify her.

If u see maya & dev from kabhi alvida na kehna film never tried 2 justify their ema why coz they knew they cant justify it.

4 me pooja is very delusional character who dont know what she want in life . Pooja is definately not a mature person infact she more immature then adi coz she realised her marriage is failing but still not tried 2 work on it . Mind it type of luv which pooja describe is only found in yashraj films. Which mature woman will spoil other person house & or invest 5 crores in a bankrupt company.

Infact pooja never respected her marriage & frndship . She wanted adi 2 see her POV but did she saw adi's POV.

As i assume maybe divorce papers r fake but if they r real & as per sakshi if pooja realised her mistake thats why dint sign but 4 me she comes out a delusional character who dont what she want from life

D real character of pooja will only comeout d day adi will read diary.

A marriage or any relationship runs on three factors luv, trust & loyalty, my mother say with time luv may fade away but d day a relationship lose trust & loyalty that day d relationship dies.

D day pooja broke adi's trust that day only their relationship died. Affair is almost confirmed & was confirmed by d director & leads in press conference

Edited by deepikagupta9 - 7 years ago

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sweetcathy29

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: Sovereign_K

Ok. I understood your point.

But still, I cannot digest the fact that having feelings for someone and hoping your partner to get the same when you walk out of your marriage is cheating?

And what if Pooja wanted him to move on because she cared about him, and she really wanted Adi to be happy. Out of these two, Pooja was a mature person and I believe that was why she realizedher marriage being a failure before Adi.

Imagine, after she realizes it, she tries to stay in her marriage in all loyalty, trying to work their relation[A relation will never work without love how much you try] soon Adi will realize how loveless his marriage was, it will happen because that is life.

Nothing hurts more than depriving a person of their happiness.

What is right? Giving your partner the freedom from the loveless marriage or keeping them in your loveless marriage?

And yeah, nobody would call themselves cheater.

its simple really.

no matter how you put it, if a person is in a committed relationship [ie: Marriage, Engaged] and go out with someone else ... it is CHEATING.

all these relationships have MOST ABSOLUTE QUALITY: COMMITMENT
love and honestly and all others are important parts of commitment.

I understand you may marry in near future and your fear of ever having to face such a situation in which you find someone else you have feelings for.

you can say that's exactly what they sketched pooja as in the show. You do not want to call it cheating but it is. plain and simple. Pooja is in a committed relationship with Aditya and going out with another man is down right cheating.
there will be no justification for what happened. if a marriage is not working, you take steps:
>>talk to your couple
>>take counseling if needed
>>work your problems and differences

you just don't up and go out with another person behind your couple's back.

pooja didn't take any of those steps and went on to have a relationship with another person. hence it will be called cheating whether you wish well for your couple or want to move out of relationship with couple. Until you move out of a committed relationship, and still have outside relationship... its cheating.

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as for you,
if it ever happens with you... find what is different between your marriage and the other person you have feeling for. Talk it out with professional, work your differences with your couple...
if it still doesn't work and your marriage is failing
then move out of the relationship so you both can be happy instead of living a burden/life of imprisonment.

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LoveHopeMagic

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Posted: 7 years ago

Originally posted by: sweetcathy29

its simple really.

no matter how you put it, if a person is in a committed relationship [ie: Marriage, Engaged] and go out with someone else ... it is CHEATING.

all these relationships have MOST ABSOLUTE QUALITY: COMMITMENT
love and honestly and all others are important parts of commitment.

I understand you may marry in near future and your fear of ever having to face such a situation in which you find someone else you have feelings for.

you can say that's exactly what they sketched pooja as in the show. You do not want to call it cheating but it is. plain and simple. Pooja is in a committed relationship with Aditya and going out with another man is down right cheating.
there will be no justification for what happened. if a marriage is not working, you take steps:
>>talk to your couple
>>take counseling if needed
>>work your problems and differences

you just don't up and go out with another person behind your couple's back.

pooja didn't take any of those steps and went on to have a relationship with another person. hence it will be called cheating whether you wish well for your couple or want to move out of relationship with couple. Until you move out of a committed relationship, and still have outside relationship... its cheating.

*******************************************************

as for you,
if it ever happens with you... find what is different between your marriage and the other person you have feeling for. Talk it out with professional, work your differences with your couple...
if it still doesn't work and your marriage is failing
then move out of the relationship so you both can be happy instead of living a burden/life of imprisonment.

@B Going out with another man when you are in a committed relationship is cheating. I agree. But was Pooja really going out with Yash?

And she didnt work, she didnt talk, she didnt consider talking to professionals, but before she could do these she died.

And Thank you so much for that last thing. 🤗

I do have this fear since years, so i kind of connected with the character. Not in the sense of cheating and all but in the sense of finding love after marriage.

For me, I will always try to make my marriage work...😳

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Shaenma

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Posted: 7 years ago

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Originally posted by: Sovereign_K

@B Going out with another man when you are in a committed relationship is cheating. I agree. But was Pooja really going out with Yash?

And she didnt work, she didnt talk, she didnt consider talking to professionals, but before she could do these she died.

And Thank you so much for that last thing. 🤗
I do have this fear since years, so i kind of connected with the character. Not in the sense of cheating and all but in the sense of finding love after marriage.

For me, I will always try to make my marriage work...😳

I think they used to go out. You don't buy a diamond ring for a friend, do you? 😊 Moreover I remember a flashback where Zoya asked Yash whether he met Pooja again and he got angry. He wouldn't have reacted so badly if she was just a friend of his. He also used to share all his professional work related problems with Pooja and not with Zoya. So all this do hints towards one thing- that perhaps their relationship was more than just friendship :)

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