Originally posted by: cutepigs
He didn't go to the party but the hearing? That's your response to him being nonchalant? If I am not wring, both things had a time and venue attached to them, and yet he had promised to be there... Unless I am wrong about court procedures and it is first come first basis, or the award ceremonies are such ways...
She was a friend for over 10 years, she helped him with Avni, and yet she did the most despicable thing, she tried to use Avni's childhood fear against her to keep her away from Neil.. She also lied about Avni being alive... How is all that fine? Because she is a friend? I am sorry, but if I had such friends, and honestly from Neil's pov, such a significant other, I'll be running for the hills to live in peace and quiet...
And yes, you smile for friends, and family, but again, if that same old friend, the one through thick and thin as you say, cannot even see that I am not smiling, what's the point?? She says she is with him, understands his position, and that's amazing, no doubts... But if all past sins are that easy for Neil to forgive, that he has no remaining problem with her, why the hatred to the level of calling Avni an incompetent mother and mitali a better one??
I will again say this, it isn't the book definition being referred in anyone calling Neil a flirt, it I the situational definition... That he forgets everything around her, he didn't do that with Avni also in Juhi's scene... Either he doesn't give any damn about mitali and her being his companion, and a mother to his child as he wants, or she actually makes him forget all his problems, making her perfect for him, better than Avni was!!
If u don't want to understand, then there's no point discussing anything. U have totally misunderstood what I said about the timings of Award function and court hearing. Both do have a specific timing. But if according to u, he can be nonchalant about the court case that he agreed to attend the award function at the same time...according to me, he can be nonchalant about the award function that he agreed to and even did rather visit the court at the same time. Nothing on those grounds was shown to us in the episode, so we can not assume anything on our own and blame him for what he has not done, just because we are hating some of his other actions...that alone was my point. N then too if we have to assume something, what I assumed is backed by his actions. Having two events to attend at the same time, by visiting the court and completely forgetting about the award function, he proved what was more important n what was nonchalant for him.
Yes I agree, Mitali has done a really despicable act, but if we see from where Neil stands, she did that to win Neil unlike whatever Avni has done was to lose him. With this constant rejection by Avni, in his emotional state of mind, he could forgive Mitali because her acts were only for his acceptance. Standing at the receiving end of rejections, he knows how it feels to be rejected and to what level one can go for their love. Still he was angry with her for a few days. But she made an honest effort no. of times to beg his apology and accepted her mistakes, he could forgive her after a while. He couldn't forget all the good she has been doing since 10+ years for one bad that she did, that too for him, for a long, because she was honestly and expressively guilty. Mitali can very much see he is not smiling, she has said the same thing to him thousand times. Haan, still continuing with the engagement is wrong from her side obviously. But she is totally aware of what Neil is right now.
I don't even want to get into the topic of if he can forgive Mitali then why not Avni, its enough discussed already. If u feel any difference between the place of Avni and Mitali in his life and also between the seriousness, reasons as per Neil's knowledge and duration of mistakes they both have done and the efforts they have done to pacify Neil giving full justifications for their actions...u'll not ask this question. I won't say anything more on this.
As far as I understand, he is only being his normal self around her, neither happy nor sad. He has decided to forget Avni and move on, so he is just acting normal with people...and when he is in a solitude, he deals with his inner turmoil. I don't find this even wrong, let alone flirting even by the "situational definition"
Well, I rest my case here...I have talked enough on this "flirting" issue and can't stress myself more for those who are "blinded" by the hatred for Neil and Mitali for everything they do. Thanks!
Anupamaa
